I had a baby and can't stay home for financial reasons. My husband had a partially handicapped friends mother move in to watch the baby while we are at work.
2007-01-23 02:50:38 · 13 answers · asked by kxray88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I had a baby and can't stay home for financial reasons. We don't want to put her into a daycare because she was preemie and it is pretty expensive for newborns. My husband had a partially handicapped friends mother move in with us while I was on maternity leave. She is able to get around and do things but she is unable to care for my baby the way I want her cared for. It's also very diffcult being married only 6 months and having a "strange" woman living in my home. My husband has known her for 3 years but this is the 1st time I met her and I don't feel like I trust her. I really want to be the one to raise my baby. Is there any other way to do this or am I stuck??
2007-01-23 02:56:36 · update #1
Damn thats one sad avatar. ummm, train a dog that takes care of babies.
2007-01-23 02:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a problem like that when I had my first baby then I found out that day cares workers and school bus drivers can bring there kids with them to work so i decided to apply I finally got a job as a school bus driver they pay to train you and its actually not a bad job I only work from 6:30 a.m. to 9:00 a.m then I go home and I am home until 1:30 p.m. until 4:00 p.m. its not a bad day the kids are not that bad behaved a little loud at times but you just have to remember that your the boss there are alot of days I have a silent bus I think maybe you could look into driving good luck
2007-01-23 02:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it that you want to stay home with your baby?
Or are you not comfortable with friends mother watching baby?
I understand that it might be both.
I think another option would be for you to take in children or babies to watch, and earn money that way. Possibly find a job which has daycare at work........ ?
It's a toughie, been there. Good luck.
2007-01-23 02:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by lynn_k_m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is YOUR baby and your home, i fully understand not being able to stay at home with the baby for financial reasons (i have similar situation), but this is your child you are considering leaving with someone you do not fully trust...this will do no good for your sanity.
My advice to you is that privatley you are going to have to talk to your husband about this issue, tell him that you dont have resentment for the woman but in the nicest way possible you do not feel comfortable in leaving your precious baby with her. that you are not being nasty but you dont feel that it is safe. be firm and stand by what you say, afterall you have the role of protector for your baby and a mothers instinct is always the best.
Also bring up with your husband the issue of her living in your home, did he consult you before he invited her in? you are a newlywed and mum this is a huge adjustment and you have the right to stand up and disagree with things that you are not comfortable with.
you need to do this early in your mariage, otherwise your husband will just override and not respect your decisions.
I wish you luck
2007-01-23 14:53:32 · answer #4 · answered by crystal_land 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from. I was in the same spot not too long ago. I personally quit my job and my husband got 2 jobs. It was hard on him but better for our baby. We also got a smaller apartment and cut down on most bills. It was so worth it!
2007-01-23 05:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by disneygeek30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what you have to do, just show her, how you want her to handle the baby, and things may work out just fine. This is not the end of the world. Let her know what you expect of her. and if the interactions between her and the baby is fine. you should have peace of mind. You can tell, just check it out! I hope everything works out for you!
2007-01-23 02:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a good friend or someone you know and trust to take the baby for a while when your at work, or you can get goverment help and they will pay for a babysitter depending on how bad your income situation is.
2007-01-23 03:32:39 · answer #7 · answered by bubbles_in_the_tub_4_u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not completely happy with this childcare arrangement then seek an alternative such as day care, nursery, nanny. Its your baby and you must make a decision that you are completely happy with.
2007-01-23 02:54:20 · answer #8 · answered by Bitzer Maloney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you have your own child care business and watch other children along with your own? Also check into subsidies for child care. You may qualify for daycare payments.
2007-01-23 02:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most states have financial assistance for day care. You should look in to it, call a licensed day care provider, usually they can send you in the right direction. Good luck.
2007-01-23 02:55:24 · answer #10 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are daycare centers, in-home daycare, and nannies, take your pick. If you aren't happy with your current caretaker, find someone else.
2007-01-23 02:53:46 · answer #11 · answered by dancin thru life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋