please people i need u guys.....?

Question

ok this is not the first time i have a similar question to this one. ok here goes... my actual bf and I already were together in the past, we also lived together for 2 years. we split an year ago, and now we are bk together. before we came bk together i had a bf which i liked alot, since i was always talking about my ex wich is now my actual bf he brokeup with me even though he love me. our realtionship was the best, we never had any fights, and if we did it would be a one minute fight. he was very nice and a best friend to me. when i was with him i thought i love my actual bf and that he was the one i loved. so my bf left me. now that i'm bk with the one i lived before i see that this wasn't what i wanted. it was not like i pictured. we fight more then before, things are not ok, we treat each other like friends, and even though he wants to try i just lost my patience. i can't stop thinking about the bf that left me, i kinda compare what we had and what i have now. what do i do?

i'm 20 years old, and it's not as easy as it sounds. i know i want a man who's kind, a friend and someone that calms me down. but i didn't notice i was happy until i lost my ex. now i'm very empty with my actual bf, and i'm confuse. i know i have to grow up still, but i just want to be happy. :-(

Answer 1

You may have to chalk that up as a lost. You lost something good because you thought the grass was greener on the other side. The only way to fix this is if you and the now ex-bf are stilll friends and then you can try to show him that you are over the now current bf. The best thing that I think that you should do is take some time to get to know yourself. Learn what you are looking for in a man and then you won't be so confused. Sounds like you need some "ME TIME"

Answer 2

I think that u really don't know what u want and thats why u keep jumping from one guy to the next. U need to sit down and think about what u like and don't like in those 2 guys and decide if u want to go back to ur ex or not. If I were u I would take some time to think about all of this and not get involved or back involved with either of those guys until I was sure of what I wanted. Its not fair to them that they get tossed around like animals. Good luck

Answer 3

It sounds like You don't know What the **** you want out a Man, a Relationship, Anything.....Word of Advice....Never compare a New boyfriend with your Deadbeat Ex, it's Only going to Scare them away, Which it did....You play too Many games to String guys along, how old are U??? Damn!

Answer 4

1st mistake, talking about your ex all the time. Of course. he must of thought you still loved him. At this point, I'd talk to the 2nd bf { the one you like} and calmly and maturely tell him that you've realized that you love HIM, and could we give another shot. { just tell the truth, just like your question explains, matter of fact, maybe have him read it.} And STOP talking about your ex! Good luck Girl!!

Answer 5

You need to get other one back. We as ppl tend to want things that we cant have and are not happy with the things we have. You just needed closure and now that u have that u have to do whats right for you.

Answer 6

Wow. You're a basket case. You really dont want either of them. Dump em both, and be single for at least a year. I'm not kidding either, you're gonna end up one of those girls that's pregnant and has kids alone without a husband. Just stop now.

Answer 7

End what you have now, its not good to be with someone who can't make you happy. See if the other guy will forgive you, be sincere and tell him you made a mistake.

Answer 8

Assuming that you are not one of these people that always want what they can't have (big assumption) call you ex and tell him that you were wrong and that you still care for him.

Good luck.