hi everyone, not sure where to start, but here goes...
ive been seeing a guy now, for at least 6 weeks. when we are together its perfect, i have no issues with him, hes affectionate, and does in his own way shows that he cares. but, he finds it very hard to tell me how he is feeling. he never tells me how much he likes me, the things that you expect at the beginning of a relationship. the problem starts when we arent together, i feel like there im invisable, i feel like i dont have a boyfriend, he rarely texts, he does call now every otherday, if i text he replys pretty much straight away. but he says i never phone him, the reason is cause i think, well during the day he'l be busy and i dont wont to disturb him, but he says it doesnt matter and he can always ring me back if he is busy. i just dont get it, feel like im going round in circles. its constantly me asking to see him, and to arrange things he never says no, if i ask him to meet up then he will. shall i talk to him??
2007-01-23 02:49:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah you definately need to talk to him hun. explain it how you just did and see what he says. I'm in a long distance relationship and my bloke is in armed forces so I'm lucky if I get a phonecall every day but I do get alot of fuss off him when we see each other. get it sorted. I'm sure if you talk to him he'll make more effort. xx
2007-01-23 02:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try pulling away slightly (though I know this will be difficult) - this may encourage him to come to you and make more of an effort, some people like to be kept on their toes - if you're doing all the running he doesn't have to and complacency sets in. Try fill your life with some other things so that he doesn't become the sole focus - go out with friends and enjoy yourself - I suspect' if you say 'he calls now'...that you've had a conversation with him about this already - just remember you can't change people but if you pull away slightly and nothing changes then you can educate him about some of the issues you're having with the relationship.
2007-01-23 03:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should ...sometimes we think that the other act or feel like we do but dont forget that every person is different and maybe he does not know how or what to say ...so if all the other things are fine just sit and talk to him about it and that you would like him to do some things too .
good luck !!!
2007-01-23 03:32:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you would like it if he starts being in control. Keep communicating with him and give him time maybe this is new to him.
2007-01-23 02:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some more time and keep the lines of communication open!
2007-01-23 03:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by EveretteDavid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him about him, talking is the key to all relationships as thats how all the problams get smoothed out. good luck!
2007-01-23 02:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by tinkypinkles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey... i have the same thing... So do what i did ,,,, talk to him... and that is when he told me that he is scared to tell me things thinking that it will push me away,,,, I;m not with him any more but... It worked ...GOOD luck...and don't wait...talk to him
2007-01-23 12:48:52 · answer #7 · answered by sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋