My boyfriend and I are going on 3 years, when I met him I was just out of high school and hanging out with a lot of guys. I stopped doing everything I liked to do and knew. Now I am in the most comfortable state I have ever been with him, except I feel as though I have changed and grown up a bit since I let go of all of my high school years when I met him. Everything that I used to like to do I don't want to do now. So I feel as though I am stuck and have no real hobbies to do on my own as a individual.
Anyone else ever feel like this.
2007-01-23 02:54:27 · 10 answers · asked by Meg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes it has! Do something as fast as you can to get back your own individualism or you will be looking down on the love of your life and hating him for it!
2007-01-23 03:13:42 · answer #1 · answered by justanotherday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry girl, you are in a transitional period. Let me give you an example. When I used to go out and do drugs that was my life and those were my friends, everyday was work, than go and hang out with my buddies and get loaded. Well, I got involved in a relationship with a beautiful woman and I wanted to stop using but I was too addicted to stop while still hanging out with people who were using also so I had to cut all contact with those people and stop doing everything I did before. I had no life and no friends and I submerged myself totally in work and the relationship and if I wasn't at work or with my girl, I would just kick around my house relaxing. So finally I decided to go out and started working out at the gym, got myself involved in go kart racing (the fast kind that go 50 miles per hour) and other hobbies and I made friends. I was in "limbo" for 2 years though. I know this isn't exactly the same situation because you probably weren't going through such an extreme situation however the underline point is it happens to all sorts of people for all sorts of reasons. You are not alone in what you are going through and all you have to do is a little exploring of what is out there for you and a little self exploring about how it is that you have grown and changed and what would now interest you and go for it. New friends will surely come along shortly there after. Good luck and you'll be fine!
2007-01-23 03:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by J-Dub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's no problem at all.You are comfortable in your relationship and some times you let other interests go, that happens to people who are not in relationships as well.Find something you used to like to do and do it or find something new, maybe even challenge yourself with something huge like writing a book or going back to school, don't consider anythig impossible. Good luck.
2007-01-23 03:12:08 · answer #3 · answered by frogenstien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are different things for different people. Mine is music and candlemaking. It's funny how just listening to a cd and making candles seems to help keep me centered, and in touch with who i am as a individual. You just have to find what you like, find what makes you feel like who you were, but without the drama of high school.
2007-01-23 03:04:45 · answer #4 · answered by ericpaulette2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have. It's not a good feeling either. I broke myself from the mold and got out more with my girlfriends. At first, I really thought I didn't want to until I forced myself. I feel alot better now and am happier. I don't do it alot just when I think it's time.
2007-01-23 02:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by ▒♥▒♥▒♥▒♥▒™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes , this can happen very easily. You need to get out and do some things that make you feel needed other than just stay there and do nothing. It will make you feel much better about yourself. good luck Honey.
2007-01-23 02:58:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! it has happened to me!!! you stopped all the things you like doing for this individual!!! now its like you dont want to do anything!!! remeber you are born and then you die!!! take a day to yourself with out that person like he was never around!!! and do something you used to in high school!!! call an old friend and hang out !!! catch up!! remember with or with out him its your life its gonna go on with or w/o him!!1
2007-01-23 03:03:38 · answer #7 · answered by Hypnotic Cherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes that can be difficult,
it sound like you have grown up and away from your friends.
Find a new hobby,join a health club,make new friends.
2007-01-23 02:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way sometimes your right it is about growing up you have diffrent tastes of stuff when you get older and you realize more stuff.
2007-01-23 02:59:13 · answer #9 · answered by scottsmith20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon your in a rut just like I am. what do you like to do? try something new. like the paranormal, go on a ghost hunt,I did it was fun. rollerbladding is cool. bike riding. good luck and take care.
2007-01-23 03:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋