Family & Relationships - 16 January 2007

I've been married for 2 years... one nite while having a beer with my wife, i asked her about somthing i was always curious about: when we were dating (about 3 years ago) she went on spring break vacations with some of her friends and i asked her to tell me if anything happened. She said that she made out, kissing and forplaying with one of her friends, kissed his gay friend and kissed her girlfriend. She said that she didnt tell me anything cuz she thought i would get really mad. I dont know how i feel, in one hand im very angry cuz not only i know the ppl she was with but she didnt trust me enough to tell me what happened, in the other hand im obviously afraid that there may be some other things she hasnt told me about. We already had a very long conversation about it, but i cant stop thinking about it. I've lost the feeling for sex with her or to spend time with her. She's noticing this and asks me whats wrong but i feel that if i bring the topic up again we'll get into a big fight.

2007-01-16 04:13:15 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

ok there are 2 people who r best friends (call em gemma nd kate) kate is really pretty and can get any boy she wants but gemma isnt. Gemma has fancied a lad 4 ages but wen he asked her out she sed no but now the same boy (who gemma also likes) has askd gemma out- should she go out with the boy even though her best friend likes him too?

2007-01-16 04:12:35 · 20 answers · asked by malteaser 2 in Singles & Dating

ok I have this friend and last summer her parents started fighting ALOT then they got a divorce and now she HATES her Dad cuz of the divorce and thinks its all his fault but I know for a fact that it wasnt!! Hes a really nice guy,hes like asecond father to me!! I grew up playing at his house with the other kids that were there(he was open to foster kids and day care) She said he changed and he's really mean but hes not! The divorce hurt me too! Her family was like my family to....so I dont understand why she hates him so...even when I told her "it takes two to fight and two to forgive" She still hated him. and she said that her Mom only married him so they could have a place to stay and a place they could have a dog....so wouldnt that mean they were just useing him?!?! and not the other way around!! I love her like a sister but I also love her Dad like a father. She doesnt want me to talk to her dad any more but, I knew him way longer then her but then again I dont want to hurt her!!

2007-01-16 04:12:30 · 3 answers · asked by Cat 1 in Family

I went out with this guy I met over the internet and we went to a bar. We had a good conversation and then he asked me what did i think about him and i said "i think you're cute and i'm really having a good time" then i asked him the same question and he said "you're cute and I wanna hang out with you more".
At the end of the night he just gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek...

2007-01-16 04:12:17 · 17 answers · asked by Dama 3 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend says he doesn't cheat on me neither will he ever do it. he says that before he cheats on me he will break up with me. I trust him on that but sometimes i wonder if he's being honest with me. the thing is i find him checking out other girls. He gives girls compliments like, "you're hot, u have sexy lips, sexy legs, etc". The other thing he does is give out his number to girls or he ask them for theirs. He chats with girls online. Some that he never even met. There is this girl that likes him and wants to date him. A few days ago he made plans with her for them to hang out, "as friends he says" I had no idea about this b/c he didn't mention it to me. I found out about it but was affraid to tell him I knew. The fact that he made a date with someone who wants him, makes me upset. He hardly spends time with me and he's making dates with other girls. I know one thing can lead to the next. I'm so worried. I love him and I wanted to trust him completely. Is this called cheating?

2007-01-16 04:12:13 · 9 answers · asked by Mizz_Innocent 1 in Singles & Dating

this weekend i want to a few of the strip clubs on the block with my boyfriend because i have never been before and he said that it has been a while since he has been there. it was pretty fun....didn't get jealous or anything....however yesterday he told me that he had stopped in the gentleman's club a little bit ago (i guess like 1-3 weeks ago?)....is it wrong for me to feel betrayed or kinda upset/jealous??

2007-01-16 04:11:04 · 26 answers · asked by cantthinkofauseridsohereitis 3 in Singles & Dating

The grandmother of an old friend of mine passed away. My friend and I were very close growing up. And I was close with the family. We haven't kept in touch very well over the years. And the last time we talked was probably a year or so ago. I plan to send flowers, but I am wondering if I should do more. But I haven't a clue what. I'm not good at these things. And I usually avoid them. But I feel I should go. Is there something I should do, send, bring??

2007-01-16 04:10:54 · 18 answers · asked by fiestyredhead 6 in Friends

and I told him, but he thinks I'm crazy.. all the inlaws do. I have a tape of it, plus I saw it for my own eyes .. why do they always turn things around on me ?

2007-01-16 04:10:38 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I would prefer a lawyer who is retired JAG. Even a website with a listing of VA lawyers would be a huge help! Thank you!

2007-01-16 04:10:32 · 3 answers · asked by Beth M 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I had a b/f for about a year1/2.The longest relationship ever.Ihave a b/f b-cuz my ex moved.We were madly in love thinking about runnin away together we are very young.His mother and his g-ma like really wanted us to b happy.And I just started having dreams about old times and i am really depressed everything reminds me of him.I tell my mom we need to move b-cuz it really hurts me to be here all i do is cry at nite i am crying writing this I have never felt like this and it hurts really bad.I love my b/f dearly but I think i was like sprung and madly in live with my ex we used to be able to talk about anything.I cant tell my current b/f b-cuz i dont know what he will think.I have been around the neighboorhood asking do they know where my ex is but they say they dont know and it hurts really bad i am only 13 and this suxs its messed up my lufe for rite now!I just wish i could see him again one last nite with him i didnt even get to say goodbye or i love you and i really do love him.HELP

2007-01-16 04:09:50 · 3 answers · asked by krystina k 1 in Singles & Dating

Or does involving feelings in any kind of relationship just get you nowhere ?

2007-01-16 04:09:02 · 15 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

She left me because she confuse..she still did`nt know wheather she love me..so it`s mean her ex still the no. 1..he..he..she do love me when we first started this relationship..i believe her..and then this happen..any comment or advice out there?

2007-01-16 04:08:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

a girl ever said to you. what can i say if i want 2 say something really sweet??

2007-01-16 04:08:29 · 2 answers · asked by lsfrssn 2 in Singles & Dating

Has any of you ever gotten your heartbroken repeatedly?
And do you feel the need that you can live w/o a guy?

2007-01-16 04:07:55 · 11 answers · asked by Miah 3 in Singles & Dating

Im 24 with 2 kids my kids are about to be gone on the weekends with there father we just seperated andnow I think I need some friends but ive been out of the social life for a long time I would like to go out somewhere but not by myself when the kids go to there fathers I think it would be good help

2007-01-16 04:07:23 · 8 answers · asked by tlc 2 in Friends

My wife and I have been married for 20 years and have two children, 12 and 4.

We have been headed towards a split for a long time...I really don't want to, but I thinktht divorce may be the best option.

I am the primary money earner making ~100K/year, my wife is a sales person and her earnings vary widely (from 10K (currently) - 80K (last year) annually in the last four years.) We have about 20K in equity in our house and aound $200K in stock/IRA/mutual funds.

I want to provide for my childrens' well being and would like to pursue a joint custody arrangement (one week with me, one week with her...I will live in the same town.)

What can I expect from a divorce settlement? How much child support? Does Indiana have alimony or spousal support? Can an arrangement be set up to where she would keep the house and the mortgage, but I make payments to her to cover the mortgage's cost?

What else (other then the issues my kids will endure, I already kow about those) should I exp

2007-01-16 04:07:08 · 7 answers · asked by Gotta Question 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-01-16 04:06:58 · 3 answers · asked by Searching for the truth 1 in Singles & Dating

I am an African American female and I have personally never dated a white guy. But I just wondered how different they were from black men. In relationships most black guys always have more than one woman, p u s s y is all they seem to want. They always have some kind of plot around everything they do. I'll tell you they have some of the best game ever. I mean I've been tricked several times and even though it hurt I had to give it to them for there well thought out plots. I mean with them it's sex sex and guess what more sex and then it's different sex, then it's different person. they'll claim you it for them, then the next day their avoiding you. they are just some of the biggest liars. I mean they lie about who they really are from day one, and even when you find out the truth they still lie. they will use you for anything

I have this friends whose been with this white guy for a long time. and she told me that white guys are nothing like that. They are different. Is this true?

2007-01-16 04:06:34 · 19 answers · asked by ♥Truthfully♥ 3 in Singles & Dating

Well J.J. has finally popped the question. And yes I have accepted. We are planning to be married in a beach ceremony in the middle of the summer.
J.J.'s cousin is helping us plan the wedding and her sister suggested something that I think is tacky. The woman actually suggested that I wear a white swimming suit with a white sarong around it. Now how tacky is that? Believe it or not the woman actually got mad when I asked if she would wear a wedding dress to a pool party lol.
Was I wrong to say this was tacky or should I be more open minded. I want to have my wedding my way. not anyone elses

2007-01-16 04:06:27 · 21 answers · asked by one_sexie_senorita 1 in Weddings

Help me out

2007-01-16 04:06:11 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have been dating a guy for about a month who has been seperated from his ex for less than one year. Recently they have been fighting a lot about the kid and money. He talks about this a lot to me and I try to be somewhat supportive yet keep out of his business. Honestly for the most part I agree with her point of view and he sounds a lot like he has the same prospective as my ex-husband. (he is very bitter towards her)

Do I just keep listening and hope that this will pass? He is a really good guy, he just got hurt pretty bad when their relationship ended (she cheated on him) but I am not sure he is ready to move on. Advice?

2007-01-16 04:05:22 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My gf beats me up alot when she is angry and from ym part as she said is that I nagg a lot like I dont stop naggin when I get angry she cant explain herself and she says that is why she beats me . What can I do to make her change I dont want to leave her I want to make change - please advise how to deal with the person who dont solve talking instead use their hands insteads . Please help I want to help her control her anger . I love her I cant leave her

2007-01-16 04:05:15 · 9 answers · asked by Thinking 3 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend always said " I like you", but when I was ask him why you don't want said "I love you". He said later, I had many thing I need change.

2007-01-16 04:05:15 · 11 answers · asked by cindy w 1 in Singles & Dating

I had sex with my bf the 1st on Jan. and my period came but it was lite n its usual heavy

2007-01-16 04:05:09 · 3 answers · asked by sexy 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm getting married soon!!!!
Since i have pretty short hair i decided not to wear a veil.
And i think tiaras are just too tacky.
So i thought a pretty headpiece would be nice.
Or maybe some nice hair pins.

Where can i find such things?
Any good websites?

Thanks in advance!

2007-01-16 04:03:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

how do you tell or show someone you love them without actually saying "I love you"
I was given 12 red roses last week and to me it did not say I love you, it just said he can spend a fortune or flowers that are going to die, I wondered if it was just me being odd when I thought if he is trying to say " I love you" he could of picked a better way!

2007-01-16 04:03:49 · 17 answers · asked by ? 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

hi im 14 and this girl i like is one year older than me and we used to be bf and gf after we met online but today she just spoke to me again which she hasnt for about 4 months i really liked her cois she was nice listened and everthing but she always wanted me to do stuff for her which i HATED like take my clothes off and weried things which she can be a weried girl but if i dont do that then she gets bored and goes she is commign online again today i think and she will properly ask me to do that again im NOT i have had lots of gfs and none of them tell me to bloody take me clothes off for them lol is she weried or mental or something haha

2007-01-16 04:03:43 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

This guy and I have been friends for awhile, and we have liked each other since we met, well, at the time, we both had.... significant others? and now, him and his gf are broken up, and I know he does still like me.... but then he dropped that on me, nd well, I dunno if I should read into it or not... Please help!! Thank you!

2007-01-16 04:03:33 · 17 answers · asked by Lastasia 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm Happy With The Participation !

2007-01-16 04:03:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

if we have a argument he always twists what ive said or done prior to the argument so that it always is my falt weather its money religion the kids just at my wits end with his childish behaviur and need some words of encouragement on how to handle the situation

2007-01-16 04:02:24 · 56 answers · asked by joanne t 1 in Marriage & Divorce