Well J.J. has finally popped the question. And yes I have accepted. We are planning to be married in a beach ceremony in the middle of the summer.
J.J.'s cousin is helping us plan the wedding and her sister suggested something that I think is tacky. The woman actually suggested that I wear a white swimming suit with a white sarong around it. Now how tacky is that? Believe it or not the woman actually got mad when I asked if she would wear a wedding dress to a pool party lol.
Was I wrong to say this was tacky or should I be more open minded. I want to have my wedding my way. not anyone elses
2007-01-16 04:06:27 · 21 answers · asked by one_sexie_senorita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well her sister wasn't exactly wrong to suggest such a thing. But neither were you for rejecting the idea. I also believe that wearing a swim suit with a sarong around it to a wedding is tacky. Even if the wedding is on the beach.
I have been watching Who's Wedding is it Anyway and several brides on there have had beach weddings. They usually tend to pick a light weight sheath dress. Also you might try a White Sundress.
Remember it is what you want. Your fiance's cousin should take that in to consideration that this is not her event to plan. She should let you wear what you want to wear.
However you could have been a little bit less flippant with your response. The poor girl was only trying to help. She was just stating her opinion. Everyone has the right to have an opinion.
2007-01-17 06:18:39 · answer #1 · answered by Babie Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you asked if she would wear a wedding dress to a pool party but you are planning on wearing a wedding dress(I guess?) on the beach and you think SHE is tacky? It's not tacky...it's different. Alot (not all) of beach weddings happen like that. Some people like the casualness (is that a word?) of it all. And a sarong can be quite beautiful, same with the suit. Hot day, long wedding, beach sand everywhere....personally, I'm a pretty traditional gal but the swim suit sounds like the way I would go.....it took long enough to get the rice out of all the different creases and folds of my dress...sand will only be that much more fun.
Either way, it's YOUR wedding, the only mind that matters is yours, not hers. Don't do anything that YOU will have regrets about. Say thanks for the suggestion (didn't have to be rude) and keep your plans for the dress or whatever you want to wear. Good luck wearing heels in the sand!
And congrats on the upcoming wedding!! Enjoy many years!
2007-01-16 04:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by emtalex 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-25 00:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!
I guess it's all a matter of opinion. I, personally, think a bathing suit and a sarong is horrible attire in which to get married, but that's just me (and you). I guess if you were both beach/surf bunnies, who met and lived on a beach and your whole world revolved around the beach, it might be okay. But this is your ONE day. I am in the middle of planning my wedding as well, and it's hard, but you have to keep in mind this is the day for the TWO of you, not you, him, and all of your aunts, uncles and cousins. You do what you want to see in pictures 25 years down the road. And seriously, when you show your grandkids your wedding pictures do you want to be in a bathing suit????? No, you more than likely want something that makes your grandchildren say.. "oh grandma, you are so beautiful!!!! I want to look just like you when I get married"
Just my 2 cents. Best of luck to you!
2007-01-16 04:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by Dawnita 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding, you can do it any way you want. She probably thought she was helping, although I wouldn't care for that idea either. As for her getting mad, maybe a little more tact was needed when responding to her suggestion. It's all about you and your day, but remember that other people have feelings, too. If you get a suggestion that you don't care for, maybe saying something like - I'll take that under consideration - would be a good choice. Good luck on your wedding.
2007-01-16 04:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since it was only a suggestion I wouldnt take it to heart. It was only a suggestion- not a demand.
Her idea of a beach wedding may be different from yours, but it doesnt make it any better or any worse than yours.
The nicer thing would have been to say "thank you for the suggestion, but i have already decided that part of my wedding". She couldnt have taken offense to that.
Have a wonderful wedding and congratulations!
2007-01-16 04:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you were wrong for being rude back to her. She was giving you an honest suggestion. If you don't want to take it, then don't take it. Etiquette dictates that you thank her for her suggestion, no matter how tacky you think it is. Again, you never have to take suggestions or advice.
And remember, your wedding involves two people. Having it "your way" is not the best attitude to take. Your fiance has to agree with your choices, you still have to be kind to people involved or trying to help, and you have to remember the guests are just that, guests.
2007-01-16 05:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She was probably just trying to be helpful, but yes, it IS a super-tacky idea. Maybe she was thinking of the wedding episode of "Baywatch" when Pamela Anderson got married. Actually, I'm pretty sure she wore a bikini to one of her weddings.
2007-01-16 05:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its obvious that idea is not for you... but in the future I would suggest that you kindly turn down her bad ideas, because she might come up with a good one, but may not say it becasue she doesn't want you to put it down. But I completley understand its your wedding, not a beach party. I can picture you in a nice slim fitting silk dress, wow that would be so pretty. Congrats.
2007-01-16 04:13:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to be open to anything - its your day. but you still have to respond with some tact. Treat others as you wish to be treated.
For some reason people think their opinion is always welcomed when it comes to a wedding, but it isn't. Especially relatives. Be strong & just thank them for their thoughts & move on.
It isn't the idea I would go with either - its your ONE day to be a bride, do it up right! Good luck!
2007-01-16 04:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋