The grandmother of an old friend of mine passed away. My friend and I were very close growing up. And I was close with the family. We haven't kept in touch very well over the years. And the last time we talked was probably a year or so ago. I plan to send flowers, but I am wondering if I should do more. But I haven't a clue what. I'm not good at these things. And I usually avoid them. But I feel I should go. Is there something I should do, send, bring??
2007-01-16 04:10:54 · 18 answers · asked by fiestyredhead 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Pick out a nice sympathy/condolence card and mail it to your friend with a short note inside. Do the flowers thing if that works for you.
At the wake, keep your comments simple such as "I'm sorry for your loss" and move on. Your presence speaks volumes and it will be somewhat like a family reunion. Weddings and funerals bring out the family.
In about a month, call your old friend and renew the acquaintance. There is such a high activity level for at least a week after the service, then everyone goes on with their lives.
2007-01-16 04:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sending flowers sounds like a good idea. If you plan to go, just be as supportive as possible and bring food (preferably something that you made). If you don't attend, the flowers will be just as well. You could also send the food over, too.
2007-01-16 04:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by Delvala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sending flowers is a great gesture. I am sure it would mean a lot to your friend if you went to the wake because it would show your friend that you still care a lot for your friend and that family even though you haven't stayed in touch all the time. Remember: Thoughts and actions speak louder than anything.
2007-01-16 04:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paying your respects to the grandmother and to the family going through this horrible ordeal is a Good Thing. , even tho you havn't talked with the family in quite sometime...Flowers are also a good thing to send. Lets the family know you care*
It will be awkward but that's all you can do ....Just be there for the family if you can....but just going to show your respect is about all you can do*
2007-01-16 04:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just your being there will mean more to your friend & her family then any flowers you could buy.Go to the wake and just be there for them.If you feel like you need to do more then just show up you can also give them a sympathy card.To be very honest when my mom died I could have cared less about any flowers which get thrown out anyway.What was important to me was having my family & friends there to support me.
2007-01-16 04:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sending flowers is good, and gives them the option of knowing you care and contacting you if they want to. I've had a similar situation lately with a friend of mine who's dad died. I called him on his cel phone, when I knew he wasn't busy at the funeral or something, and left a message letting him know that I was sorry about his dad and left my number in case he needed anything. Just accept the fact that the person may not call you back, because that's their choice. He didn't call me back ;)
2007-01-16 04:17:28 · answer #6 · answered by Meghan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being there in person I'm sure would make your friend feel much better than sending a card or flowers.
2007-01-16 04:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by James Dean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In Judaism, we don't bring flowers - we bring food. If you want to do something special and helpful, prepare a meal, or have one prepared and sent. When my grandpa died, people brought over meals for my grieving grandmother and family. It was a sad time, but it was nice to not have to worry about feeding ourselves, or the people who were coming to visit.
2007-01-16 04:16:44 · answer #8 · answered by Go2Laurie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about her loss.....flowers are absolutely a nice idea; if you are able to show up; that would be very nice as well. If you aren't able to etc...flowers and a card a a nice touch.
2007-01-16 04:15:18 · answer #9 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't send flowers becasue when my father died, the funeral director told us that cemeteries only allow 2 bouquets due to the disposal costs afterwards. If she died from heart disease, for example, it would be nice to donate money to the Heart Association in her name.
I would go to the funeral home. Just shake hands, murmur your condolences and get out of there. I hate that stuff, too.
2007-01-16 04:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋