Strip Club with my boyfriend?

Question

this weekend i want to a few of the strip clubs on the block with my boyfriend because i have never been before and he said that it has been a while since he has been there. it was pretty fun....didn't get jealous or anything....however yesterday he told me that he had stopped in the gentleman's club a little bit ago (i guess like 1-3 weeks ago?)....is it wrong for me to feel betrayed or kinda upset/jealous??

Answer 1

No don't get upset that is the worst thing you can do. He is just now starting to trust you enough to tell you. You don't want him going and not telling you right? Many men go to strip clubs and their wives have no idea where they have been. I actually have a better time when my wife goes, you get way more attention from the performers.

Answer 2

Don't get too upset--that scene is different from talking to a girl at a night club or something. Was he checking the place out to bring you? I don't think I'd bring a woman to a strip club unless there was a reason--if she's bi, it could be fun. If she needs to see what sexy looks like, it could be educational. If you want to see him turned on so you can get jealous (and channel that jealousy into something positive), that could work too. I can't think of another situation where it would be a good thing for you to go with him though. They are really places for men to escape reality for an hour or two.

Answer 3

It depends on what type of agreement you have with your man. If he agreed that he would not go without you then you have a valid concern. Otherwise, 1-3 weeks ago could be a while for him if he is used to going weekly. Discuss with him what you would feel comfortable with in term of him visiting strip clubs. Get you feelings out while you are alone, and then get down to business.

Answer 4

Is it wrong to feel upset/jealous if a guy goes to a "gentlemens club" ... is this different than a "strip club"?

Right or wrong--for you, or for people in general? In some societies, women are chattel (a possession, like a chair, a cell phone, or a cow). In some Christian groups, both men and women wear chastitiy rings--a promise to themselves and God that they'll remain chaste until after marriage. SOME married couples belong to swing clubs, where they swap partners.

I'm suggesting you take some time and listen to YOUR heart: if you feel betrayed, then you are!!! And don't let anyone tell you otherwise--especially not this guy. Tell him your wants (try to listen to YOUR heart--some of us allow others to tell us what we want). And then tell this to your boyfriend.

A friend LISTENS and then ACTS in a way that is respectful of both of you. If you're cold, would you want someone to say, "No you aren't!" Of course not. You'd want someone to give you a sweater or blanket or shut the door or turn on the heat--something that would make you more comfortable.

The hard part here is that it sounds like your guy enjoys these places and you don't. I know I wouldn't like someone who frequented these environments--there's so much MORE in life that feeds my soul, and piques my joy. These places have their "friends" but neither place nor person would be on my list of what I want to experience in life.

I've dated several men who have talked about the strip joints around here, or about women (WOMEN--in general) in a condescending fashion. These revealing thoughts about their character caused me to withdraw my interest and protect my heart--I didn't want to share the intimate me with someone who had such low esteem of women (and it usually stems from their resentment of their mother--let a professional figure that out with them, stay away). For ME, I knew I'd never be loved in the way I want, need, and dream of--school of experience speaking.

Cherish your dreams, girl...and look for one who will cherish them with you. Each insult wounds your heart and leaves a scar. Protect yourself from lack of respect--go places where you'll learn to be respected.

Answer 5

Well, this is how I would handle it. I wouldn't say anything to him about it. Instead, I would go to a strip club for women i.e Chippendales etc - whatever is available in your area. And casually mention it to him and see how he acts. Most me LOATHE the idea a their woman stuffing dollar bills down a hot male's g-string. They think it's ok for them but not for you. Total double standard. But I will say this - It is NEVER cool for a woman to hang at a "gentlemen's club". EVER. Basically your condoning the objectification of your own sex AND you're practically signing your endorsement to your spouse/partner to go whenever he wants. Next time around - after this relationship has ended - and it more than likely will....I would set up ground rules for my partner BEFORE it ever heads in that direction.

Answer 6

why would he opt for her to strip? he's been there, is conscious the deal, and it ain't a turn on anymore. At this aspect of their relationship basically sex is a turn on for him and after a lengthy time period that receives performed out 2. yet he hasn't considered strippers yet, so it really is a superb theory Nicky is conscious he will have a fuken blast (truly the first time) My problem is why interior the *** would you opt for to bypass with him, that ain't no position for no females who aint strippin! era, i can not stand females who casually hit up gentlemans golf equipment like that's all solid, it aint, dyke! <--- Sorry bout that, what'd you imagine of my answer?

Answer 7

I personally would feel all of the above. But I think women are just that way. He should have told you; I personally think it's sleazy entertainement for people anyway; women who to the clubs aren't any different. But that's just my opinion =) If you're comfortable with that idea and things are great between the two of you; then don't fix something that isn't broken =)

Answer 8

Doesn't sound like it's a huge problem yet. You need to sest out some ground rules. If he starts spending all his money at the strip club, that's a problem.

Answer 9

Forget the club, stay home and put on a private dance for him. My gal Melrose loves to do private dancing for me; she even makes homemade movies for me!

Answer 10

no, it is not wrong because he did somthing behind your back he should of told you either before he did it or right after not 1-3 weeks later he just probly felt bad becuse you guys had fun when you went together.