ok I have this friend and last summer her parents started fighting ALOT then they got a divorce and now she HATES her Dad cuz of the divorce and thinks its all his fault but I know for a fact that it wasnt!! Hes a really nice guy,hes like asecond father to me!! I grew up playing at his house with the other kids that were there(he was open to foster kids and day care) She said he changed and he's really mean but hes not! The divorce hurt me too! Her family was like my family to....so I dont understand why she hates him so...even when I told her "it takes two to fight and two to forgive" She still hated him. and she said that her Mom only married him so they could have a place to stay and a place they could have a dog....so wouldnt that mean they were just useing him?!?! and not the other way around!! I love her like a sister but I also love her Dad like a father. She doesnt want me to talk to her dad any more but, I knew him way longer then her but then again I dont want to hurt her!!
2007-01-16 04:12:30 · 3 answers · asked by Cat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
A good friend wouldn't ask you not to talk to another friend of yours. That's very selfish and shouldn't be happening. It isn't your fault that her parents split nor should you have to feel the pain of it. It's your choice on who you should and shouldn't talk to and she shouldn't punish you for those choices. I can understand why she's saying that but she's just really upset right now. When she comes to her right mind, I'm sure she wouldn't keep you from talking to him. As for you, don't quit talking to him. It seems that he's been a lot for you and you don't need to give that up because of someone else.
2007-01-16 04:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by Steve S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is common with children after the parents split up. She is blaming her Dad and taking HER anger out on him for hurting her and her mom. Give it time. It will take some time but she will accpet what happened. All you can do is be there for her right now and be a good friend.
2007-01-16 12:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by Lace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You each have your own relationship with him.
You can't be upset at her for feeling the way she does, she is allowed to have her own feelings just as you are.
If he is not around ther should be no reason for you to have any realtionship with her father,.
You have to decide what is more important her friendship or her dads. You can't have both.
2007-01-16 12:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋