Family & Relationships - 29 December 2006

My first marriage of 9 years ended when my then husband cheated on me and left me for the other woman. I got remarried 5 years later to a wonderful man, also divorce. However, he committed adultery several times during his previous marriage (during the early years - they were married for 16 years). We have a very commited marriage - we have been married for 2 1/2 years, but i can't stop having this small fear in the back of my mind that he will eventually cheat on me also. I admit I suffer from ptsd, and I read too many things into nothing. The thing is that I do trust my husband, but I feel that trust or no trust will not determine this issue. I struggle with this issue. I did not cheat on my first husband and have not cheated on my current husband. To me it is totally unacceptable, and have never even found it tempting. Why are men tempted so easlily?

2006-12-29 15:13:50 · 17 answers · asked by kmvh 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-29 15:12:21 · 17 answers · asked by Pure_Alpha 2 in Singles & Dating

Picture this: My wife and I were married for 15 years, have 3 kids and another coming. We had some fights and squabbles over the years, mainly due to me being a womanizer, but all are settled and was forgiven. For two years now, I havent done anythingto displease her, as I promised. Now comes the big problem. I didnt know that she was talking about our problem to our relatives, and that they held grudge against me. Her cousin onced lived with us once in a while and suddenly stopped going in our house. In the spirit of the season, not knowing about how they feel about me, we visited her relatives this Xmas. I was surprised when almost everyone tried to snob me. Her cousin who used to stay with us, challenged me for a fistfight and humiliated me in front of everyone including our kids. My wife tried to pacify. But then, she didnt say a word to her cousin to point his mistake. When we got home, I felt she was siding with them, as she blames me for what happened. Is it right to separate?

2006-12-29 15:11:55 · 10 answers · asked by Drew 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm moving out of the apartment in February. I told him that I would stop paying my half of the rent, but I do not think that he have enough money to pay the full rent payment. It had been very hard living with him because he is an alcoholic. We have been married for three year and finally I have courage now to live him.

2006-12-29 15:11:35 · 15 answers · asked by brenda29 1 in Marriage & Divorce

he lives in capurso bari in italy he his 40 years old

2006-12-29 15:10:41 · 1 answers · asked by rachelecapobianco@rogers.com 1 in Weddings

2006-12-29 15:10:28 · 11 answers · asked by finander 1 in Singles & Dating

Two days ago, I was having a great time. I was with a group of three of my best friends, helping my best friend Kim repaint her bedroom. I was up on a ladder then all of a sudden out of the blue, I was overcome with a huge wave of lonliness. I just suddenly felt like crap. No rhyme or reason to it.
I have been single for what seems like for ever, and I have always been okay with being single. I dont date people just to be dating someone. But I dont know why it hit me so hard all of a sudden. And why just then, when I was having so much fun with my friends?

Makes me think of something my friend used to say.

You can be lost on a deserted island all alone with only a vollyball to keep you company and be completely content, but there you can be lost in a crowd of people and feel like your all alone.

I dont like feeling like this.
I am at ease with the way I live my life and dont mind being singel so much, but then, how can that be entirely true when I feel so alone?

2006-12-29 15:10:06 · 11 answers · asked by Sheri 2 in Singles & Dating

Whenever i have plans made with my gf, i always take off work and change the schedule with my bosses. However, whenever i just can't do anything about it, she gets very upset and sarcastic, no matter what i say. Is there anything i can do? I'm not even sure if I'm doing anything wrong, I try my best.

2006-12-29 15:09:20 · 7 answers · asked by X16 3 in Singles & Dating

I just got a brand new camera for Christmas. Don't think it is any big deal. My friend saw it and said "what a sexy camera". Sometimes, I think she has romantic desires for me. Over this camera comments, do you think she wants me?

2006-12-29 15:07:38 · 2 answers · asked by carol 1 in Singles & Dating

how can i get her back

2006-12-29 15:06:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

come on...you have to be at least somewhat attracted to a person for a relationship to work out, yet so many people are immediately labelled shallow for not wanting to date a seriously ugly person. (i hope i have not offended anyone)

2006-12-29 15:05:28 · 18 answers · asked by innit_x 2 in Singles & Dating

How should I take that response from him?

2006-12-29 15:05:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have been with my fiancee for a while. Recently, I have taken an interest in the panties that she wears (usually the really pretty, silky ones from victorias secret). I'm so curious to try them on as part of our bedroom activities. I'm totally straight and have no desire to be a woman or anything like that (nor do I want to go around wearing them all day long). Its just that the idea of trying on something of hers thats so intimate and forbidden really excites me. How do I approach her about it? If shes not sure about it or opposed to it, how do I get her to accept it? Please help because its something I really really want to do and share with her (hopefully without freaking her out). Thanks.

2006-12-29 15:05:23 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Some people say I the girl I like is out of my league. Yet we are really great friends. I have asked her out and still waiting for a reply but she said I have good chances. I do not want to drag her down in her social life. Yet I really like her. I am in 8th grade and she is a ninth grade cheerleader captain. I am in the band

2006-12-29 15:03:52 · 13 answers · asked by James R 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-29 15:03:37 · 18 answers · asked by theleader 1 in Friends

At work, somewhere you shouldn't have been, or just someone walking in unexpected.

2006-12-29 15:03:23 · 22 answers · asked by whitney 1 in Singles & Dating

most of my guy friends are (3-6yrs) older than me because i see them as big bros, which i never have. i get along all of them pretty well... there's this particula friend whom i would joke most of the time and we'd say that "we'll wait for one another to finish college." about a week ago, we hung out in the mall and we ended up in the babies department and started looking over baby stuffs and talking about what ifs in having kids... i always kid him about settling down because he's not getting younger at all and he would kid w/ me and say that he will someday with this knowing look.
should i be aware of this?

2006-12-29 15:02:38 · 2 answers · asked by DruNkStripPeR 3 in Friends

http://www.jointcenter.org/DB/factsheet/marital.htm

2006-12-29 15:02:19 · 26 answers · asked by Galbi 3 in Marriage & Divorce

i got hurt and i retaliated out of fear and or revenge and if you are reading this i have the same feelings for you i would like to talk to you!!!!!!!

2006-12-29 15:02:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am so jealous. especially when it comes to my boyfriend. i mean i know deep down inside that he loves me and that he wont ever do anything to hurt me or cheat on me but ive been burned by a past relationship and i cant help but to think when hes out with his friends or if hes not at home or if i cant reach him, if hes doing something wrong? i know with out trust u cant have a good relationship, but hes like that too. we trust eachother, but there is always that thought in the back of our heads, what if? u Kno?

2006-12-29 15:00:27 · 15 answers · asked by Lizeth 2 in Singles & Dating

this new year is our 3 yr anniversary and a part of me feels like what we had is dying and evertime i try to talk to him he has this i dont care attitude i dont know what to do im positive it is not another girl god i dont know what to do like right now im supposed to be happy but im not i realize i have dependency issues the real me would drop him first time he upset me but lately i feel alone he works 7 days a week i see him every night when he gets home we watch a movie and go to sleep why cant i leave him? should i? what would you do?? im soo0 fd up in the head and i should be having fun right now not being miserable im only 22 yrs old what is wrong with me??

2006-12-29 15:00:19 · 5 answers · asked by bkgrl718 3 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-29 14:59:31 · 32 answers · asked by boopbty64 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-29 14:59:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend told me that his "type" of girl is a skinny blond with blue eyes and big boobs. I, on the other hand, am a sporty brunette with brown eyes and a small B cup. Should I just accept that is every guy's "type" or am I justified in feeling a little inadequate?

2006-12-29 14:58:42 · 16 answers · asked by antelope 1 in Singles & Dating

Okay, my social studies teacher, Miss Chatfield........FARTS ALL THE TIME!
Its becoming unbearable..........I can't talk to the guidance counseler..or principal..I would be wayyy to shy and that would be un nessecary, and mean. Any suggestions on how to stop this ferocious farting?

2006-12-29 14:57:19 · 18 answers · asked by GROOVY LILY 3 in Singles & Dating

My b/f and i r fighting constantly like i said in one of my other q's but he also nvr lets my talk 2 n e of my guy friends he'll go on my im name and delete my guy friends off my lists so i don't talk 2 them!! he also barely lets me talk 2 my friends that r girls even or hang wit them !! and if i wanna go shopping he always wants 2 come so i dont like check other guys out or sumthin!! I TOLD HIM I NVR WOULD!! plz help!!!

2006-12-29 14:57:13 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was just wondering if white guys or other races prefer dating a light skin black girl or darker one. Because whenever I see a white guy with a black girl their usually light skin. Even though I'm hott, nice, fun to be around, they seem to choose the light skinned ones. Even if I look better than them. Why? I was just wondering...because I don't think it's fair. I'm really pretty (I get that alot) but it seems like I get overlooked by white guys because I'm dark (Brown skin)

Why do some of you do that? Just wondering because I'm really into white guys. I think their hott, I just don't know how to catch one because their usually after mixed, hispanic, or white girls (Which are pretty also.) I just wanna know what yall think about dark skin black girls....

2006-12-29 14:54:57 · 28 answers · asked by iluvashtonkutcher676 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-29 14:53:41 · 36 answers · asked by kurt cobains gun 1 in Singles & Dating

I am raising my toddler son by myself and there isn't a male in his life. His father isn't in his life and he only sees relatives, such as Grandpa and uncles, once in a blue moon.

I have no interest in dating anyone let alone have a male in my life acting as him father.

Has anyone raised a son without a real male role model and how would you say this affected him growing up? or.......were you raised by a single mom without a male around?

2006-12-29 14:52:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Uhh.
Me and my boyfriend, exchanged christmas gifts FINALLY today.
We did that at walmart. Only because my mom's oil was leaking and had to get it fixed so we decided to meet there since me and my mom would be stuck there..
So we were walking to the back where the music was and i saw him and his cousin, and i was freaked out. and they left his grandmaw to go look for me. and i gave him a hug. then my mom wanted to talk to his grandmaw. (just to do it) and when we left, HE pulled me to get a hug,.and his grandmaw made that "yuck, grr, evil" kind of face. WTF is her problem? if someone should be mad its MY MOM because I'm the GIRL.Sumthing is up with that woman! why is she so protective of him? my god!!

2006-12-29 14:52:24 · 11 answers · asked by Itsallaboutmehunni 2 in Singles & Dating