How should I take that response from him?
2006-12-29 15:05:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need a change in you're life.
2007-01-01 13:47:13 · answer #1 · answered by κύριος κτίστης 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you want him to say when you asked that? To me his response was what most people would say during an argument if asked that question...
You two need to find better ways to deal with things than fighting in this emotional way. This is a prep time for marriage, and the fights will be soooo much more serious after marriage, that you need to be able to disagree without slinging mud and getting so upset.
2006-12-29 23:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heated arguments can lead to relationship danger if these kind of things continue. Hurting each other with strong statements will slowly dissolve your relationship if you both are not careful.
Could be the truth is coming out from you both. Sounds like there is resentment from both of you possibly seeing each other for some "hidden" reason(s). I would highly suggest you both keep the communication lines open and get this stuff out in the open and get it resolved or eventually your relationship will come to a crash and burn end. Marriage is no different. If you cannot honestly communicate, you are in very DEEP ****! Good luck.
2006-12-29 23:21:38 · answer #3 · answered by HowFuzzyWuzee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all your question is a thought type of question, as in you don't really expect him to have a logical response and his response wasn't anything of logic. "i don't know you tell me" he said that as a quick response to your question its a no brain er response. You thought of the question so he expects you to have the answer. He obviously doesn't think the same as you because he would of said "I don't know, why, are we together?" That's when you should really start to get worried. You should just ask him "what is that supposed to mean?" then he will give you an explanation on what he means by "i don't know you tell me" and then you react on to what he says however you take it.
Good luck Keisha
2006-12-29 23:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he doesn't know why you and he are together. Maybe he thinks you know more about it than he does. He could mean that he has some idea but thinks you have another idea. He could also mean he doesn't want to be with you anymore and it may be that he doesn't think you want to be with him anymore. I think you both need to talk about it and stop fighting between yourselves. Fighting doesn't solve anything. Only communicating your feelings solves problems. Also it depends on what you are fighting about. If you really want to work things out then you both need to listen morfe carefully to what the other person says and insure that you understand each other thoroughly. Know what I mean?
2006-12-29 23:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he meant that if you have to ask, maybe you shouldn't be together. I don't know why when couples fight they think that means they can forget everything and insult and put each other down. I don't think that's love. Think about it. Maybe you are with the wrong person. Better to find out now than after you get married.
2006-12-29 23:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, tell him. You said something stupid and he could have taken it many different ways. I would worry more about what consequences saying such a cruel thing to him will have. He's probably thinking to himself that you have been questioning why you are in a relationship with him and that you are having second thoughts and have been for a while. Sit down and think about why you guys are together and talk to him about it. Make it a romantic apology.
2006-12-29 23:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by Schlumpy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it seriously. In a heated argument, some people might say nasty things to hurt the other person's feelings because of anger. And afterwards, will admit and felt sorry about it because they really didn't mean what they had just said.
2006-12-29 23:16:35 · answer #8 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has been asking himself the same question. Maybe you two aren't right for each other. It is better to find it out now rather than after you get married! Good Luck and Happy New Year!
2006-12-29 23:09:40 · answer #9 · answered by Maggie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that he was just giving you a "come back" to what you said. Sounds like both of you said things u didnt mean in anger. After you calm down, ask each other if u still mean it (i bet both of u will say no).
2006-12-29 23:20:42 · answer #10 · answered by Hilllbilly_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has fights with the person their dating. We all say things we don't mean. Give it time to calm down. Talk to him apologize and hope that it was a mistake. if its true love it will all pan out in time.
2006-12-29 23:09:31 · answer #11 · answered by lilponypoo_08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋