Whenever i have plans made with my gf, i always take off work and change the schedule with my bosses. However, whenever i just can't do anything about it, she gets very upset and sarcastic, no matter what i say. Is there anything i can do? I'm not even sure if I'm doing anything wrong, I try my best.
2006-12-29 15:09:20 · 7 answers · asked by X16 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not doing anything wrong. Except maybe taking off of work for her in the first place. Then she kind of expects that from you, even when you can't. I've never had to do this, but you need to make her understand that you can't just blow off your job. Maybe you can explain to her that you won't be able to take her out anymore without the money you make at your job. It sounds like any way you say this, it will make her upset, but hey, ya gotta work!
2006-12-29 15:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're doing as much as you can to work your schedule around her, it doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong. She sounds a little insecure though. The only thing I would suggest is reassuring her that you and she have a strong relationship and that there are just sometimes when you can't get off of work to spend time with her. Either she will understand or she won't. If you haven't given her a reason to question you, it seems she just has issues that you may need to address in your relationship. If you have given her a reason to question you (i.e. cheating on her before) maybe she has reason to be upset. In that case, address the issue and talk it out. Let her know how you feel and she will most likely tell you how she feels. Good luck.
2006-12-29 23:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by hotcuddle18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do about her getting upset. I used to be the same way. Whenever my guy just couldn't take time off... or was too tired to go out I would get upset. Looking back... it was really immature for me to do that and I've since tried real hard not to get upset or sarcastic when I don't get my way.
But honestly, its been a tough road not to. Especially since I was always used to getting my way which is probably the issue with your girlfriend.
Okay, the only thing I can tell you is that the guys that I've dated in the past have told me this "You are used to getting your way... and if I'm gonna be with you... I'm gonna have to break you out that."
The first time I was told that... I just laughed... because I didn't look at things that way. But then when the next guy I dated said almost the same thing to me... I started to really think. I started feeling guility. I started thinking to myself why am I being such a b*tch... its not like the guy doesn't want to hang out with me... he just can't on that particular day.
Anyway, you can't change a person... that person has to change themselves. However, you can give them some incentive to change by making a comment sort of like the aforementioned. I think that comment showed that the guy cared... but wasn't gonna deal with my antics... and because he cared... he would put some effort in helping alter my behavior.
Hope this helps!
2006-12-29 23:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by Ocean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a female point of view... Arrrgghh.. Sorry to say it, but she sounds really selfish and controlling. Unappreciative to say the least. I understand caring about someone so much that you just can't wait to see them again, however when someone jumps through hoops in order to be with me I appreciate it. Sounds like she enjoys being manipulative and watching you sweat for it. Maybe you should analyze this a little... step back and really see if your efforts are being reciprocated or she is just enjoying the control she has over you...
Good luck !:)
2006-12-29 23:18:26 · answer #4 · answered by ivy9toes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk about it. Be sure to bring up the times you did get off and make it your point to tell her you're trying.
2006-12-29 23:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by TILAC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's not appreciating the fact that you are a hard working man. She sounds like a B**ch to me you should find somebody that'll understand, and appreciate you for all that you're worth.
2006-12-29 23:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by kandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she look like she care about u and no ur not wrong but she just not smart 2know dat ur job is important and u just try 2do somthing new and special 4her they love that just make her undrestand that u need ur job she should undrestand nothing eals u can do .
2006-12-29 23:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by mohame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋