I am raising my toddler son by myself and there isn't a male in his life. His father isn't in his life and he only sees relatives, such as Grandpa and uncles, once in a blue moon.
I have no interest in dating anyone let alone have a male in my life acting as him father.
Has anyone raised a son without a real male role model and how would you say this affected him growing up? or.......were you raised by a single mom without a male around?
2006-12-29 14:52:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was raised by a single mom along with my little brother. Sometimes it would hurt not having a male figure around. Other times I was thankful I didn't have to put up with some fool's attitude.
Have your son join cub scouts, boy scouts, sports, big brother sponsors, etc. There is a lot out there, but, your son has to want to do it. Won't help if you push him. I was in cub and boy scouts....which really helped me out in a lot of ways. I was in band for about nine years which I enjoyed immensely.
The sky is the limit. He will be affected in ways you won't see. However, I'm now a single dad who is remembering mom's method and techniques for raising my two boy's.
If anything......having a woman as the only parent made me respect women very much.
2006-12-29 15:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by Pat B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mom of 4 kids two are boys. My oldest is 10 and I have been a single mom for most of his life, he has no grandpa because they are both deceased as is his father so, its me and my kids. I wouldnt say this affects him at all, he is great in baseball and is not a "momma's" boy by any means. I get out there with him and play sports with him just like a guy would. We do "boy" things together so, it really doesnt affect him like a lot of people would think. It doesnt matter who raises them, they can grow up just like a child raised in a two parent household. It just depends how you raise them. Him and I go to the things where its supposed to be father son things because i am mom and dad.. I dont let him miss out on those things just because he has no daddy in his life. People are actually nice there and they dont get mad or upset that i am there with him. Kids dont really need a male and female role model as long as they are being raised properly.
2006-12-29 15:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but there are just some things that only a man can teach. Case in point: that pesky standing up while peeing thing. =) There are plenty of ways for single moms to make sure their sons have positive male role models. Find male relatives, friends, teachers, etc. to spend time with your son. If none are available, there are mentoring programs such as Big Brother/Big Sister that can help.
2016-03-29 00:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best guy friend was raised without a male role model and he is just fine. He was basically brought up with me and my mom was a single mom. He was a bit feminine growing up - but now that he's an adult all those little "feminine" things are great - he knows how to cook, clean, likes to shop - his wife loves it! But, not all boys without dads turn out like that. Just make sure your son is able to hang out with other boys his age and get him involved in sports or other activities.
2006-12-29 14:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was raised well by my Mom all by herself until I was 9. My Mom did the best she could. Worked 2 jobs, put food on our table, I always had clean clothes (maybe not the best) and made sure I was taken care of always. She met and married a man when I was 9 and he adopted me. He was a great stepdad to me and raised me as if I were his blood. They had a great marriage (36 yrs) until my Mom died 3 yrs ago. My stepdad doesn't see me much anymore because he says I remind him too much of my Mom. Oh well at least he was there for us til she died. Sorry to get so sappy but that part hurts even tho' I am an adult now.
2006-12-29 15:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by Maggie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I admire you for raising him alone and it'll be hard but you can do it. I know I'm a female in all but when i was little and even though my parents were married my dad was always working so my mom was raising me and my two brothers pretty much on her own since he was sleeping or working.
2006-12-29 14:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HAVED RAISED MY SON WITHOUT A MALE IN HIS LIFE AND MY HUSBAND RAISED HIS SON WITHOUT A FAMALE IN HIS LIFE. YES THERE IS A BIG DIFFERENCE IN TH ETWO BOYS. MY SON WANT HARDLY DO ANYTHING CHALLENGEINGLY, HE WANT HARDLY DO SPORTS, HE VERY TO HIMSELF, NOW THAT I HAVE MARRIED HE HAS COME OUT OF IT ALITTLE. MY HUSBANDS SON HE VERY UP FOR A CHALLENGE, HE IS IN A SPORT EVERY SEASON, BUT YOU CAN TELL WHERE THE FEMALE PART WAS NOT THERE. SO YES IT DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE. I CHILD SHOULD HAVE BOTH FEMALE AND MALES IN THEIR LIVES. FIND HIM A BIG BROTHER, HE NEEDS THAT CONNECTION WITH A MALE.
2006-12-29 17:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was not raised by a single mom, but my dad wasnt around a lot. he ran around on my mother and worked a lot. and i turned out perfectly fine. **speaks the the voice in my head....shut up. im tryint to type out this answer......dont tell me to shut up.....no, im not going to feed you.....fine. ill go make some mac and cheese***
2006-12-29 14:56:27 · answer #8 · answered by Taylor S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ive never seen my father and my mom done the job and a good damn job
2006-12-29 14:54:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was raised by mom because my dad is in business and he travels a lot but my parents aren't divorced my dad is just always in different countries
2006-12-29 14:58:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋