My boyfriend told me that his "type" of girl is a skinny blond with blue eyes and big boobs. I, on the other hand, am a sporty brunette with brown eyes and a small B cup. Should I just accept that is every guy's "type" or am I justified in feeling a little inadequate?
2006-12-29 14:58:42 · 16 answers · asked by antelope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look, it is irrelevant as to what he thinks he likes! There is a Huge difference between having an image of what we want to be with and what we actually choose to have. In other words, he might have an image of a perfect women in his head, and this image would always change, but a girl who he is with is the one whom he really wants.
On another hand, if he is keeps saying this on a regular basis, clearly indicates to me that you have a low self-esteem and he is trying to make you feel inadequate just so he can have an upper hand in relationship. Once again, don’t pay attention to what he says, next time he says it, you can tell him:
“well, I would like a men with 12 inch penis, but yours is soo cute that I just have to stick around!”
This way you would condition him that these questions would result in actions that would hurt his ego, and most of the men are very proud.
Ideally, the less of a deal you make of it, and the less response you show to his attempts to manipulate you, the harder he is going to try at first, but if you don’t retaliate in any way, but realise that this is all it is, an attempt to manipulate rather then reflexion of your shortcomings, then eventually he would give up.
Everyone you ever going to be with, will try to control you in some way or another. Some through guilt, others through fear, some would play on your motherly instincts, such is like, you just have to learn how to take charge (indirectly) and do your own thing.
2006-12-29 15:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the nature of this question, I'm guessing you're a teenager... Seriously don't feel inadequate, he's lucky just to have a girlfriend being as picky as he is. If he's making you feel inadequate, there's plenty of other guys that will be into you. The blonde hair blue eyes type is attractive, but there are many other types that are attractive also.
2006-12-29 15:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by mikee5432 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is not every guy's type. No reason to feel inadequate. I'm not really into the blond with blue eyes, big boobs...blah..blah. I don't worry about all that-I just fall in love with who I love and the rest of that superficial crap doesn't matter.
2006-12-29 15:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by kws504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
humm, that wasnt very nice of your boyfriend to tell you that you arent his type. Hes your boyfriend he must like you and the way you look. Do NOt feel bad on inadequate I am sure you are beautifull the way you are. DOtn worry you may not be your current boyfriends type but there are boys out there who like sporty brunnetes, lol. Stay positive and sure of who you are that is the most beautiful aspect of a person.
2006-12-29 15:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by Vanessa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he's crass enough to even SAY such a thing, he doesn't know jack about appreciating a woman enough to deserve the company of one. Some guys never learn at all and that's where bad relationships are born. If he doesn't appreciate you enough not to say crap like that in the first place, he should have his pecker in a knot and be pushed off a pier. He's a nitwit who doesn't know what its about. Never let a guy treat you that way; it has no future. Its not about boobs; its about liking the whole package that's carting them around.
2006-12-29 15:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by gamerathon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your boyfriend is trying to make you feel uncomfortable in your skin, and from the sound of it, he's succeeding. You cannot change who you are, and if your boyfriend is so tunnel-visioned that he can't appreciate your sporty brunette, B-cup wonderfulness, maybe you should move on and find someone who will.
2006-12-29 15:02:23 · answer #6 · answered by foxiee_chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your justified in considering your boyfriend an inconsiderate nitwit with a big mouth.
Incidentally, what is a "sporty brunette"?
2006-12-29 15:02:00 · answer #7 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell HIM to go on and get him one of those....and inform him that" that is YOUR type too, but you settled for him thinking his brain was bigger than his penis, guess both of us were a little disappointed, huh babe?".... Damn girls!! Love ya like a sis, but STAND UP!!!! Don't take that kind of s--t from a
lame a-- guy!! Do you have any idea how many there are out there? If they don't treat you like you want to be treated, show them the fire hydrant & get a new leash!
2006-12-29 15:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by lizrdluvnmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what's it worth to you? There's always bottle blond and implants. I would blow him off (did that come out right?). You just need to find someone who does not obsess over upper body dimensions. There's lots of guys who prefer dark hair. Personally, I like it black. It reminds of my girlfriend in the 3rd grade (not kidding here).
2006-12-29 15:09:09 · answer #9 · answered by jhartmann21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally for me yes every person have an "ideal" person in their mind. Also for me personally if my boyfriend told me that his "type" was something completely opposite of me i would ask him why he was with me then. If he gives a good answer and apologizes then of course forgive him he is a guy you know. otherwise stand up for yourself because no woman dissevers to be belittled.
2006-12-29 15:04:42 · answer #10 · answered by lilponypoo_08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋