I have been with my fiancee for a while. Recently, I have taken an interest in the panties that she wears (usually the really pretty, silky ones from victorias secret). I'm so curious to try them on as part of our bedroom activities. I'm totally straight and have no desire to be a woman or anything like that (nor do I want to go around wearing them all day long). Its just that the idea of trying on something of hers thats so intimate and forbidden really excites me. How do I approach her about it? If shes not sure about it or opposed to it, how do I get her to accept it? Please help because its something I really really want to do and share with her (hopefully without freaking her out). Thanks.
2006-12-29 15:05:23 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No matter what advice anyone gives here, the final decision is yours. I have no problem with my guy trying on my stuff in a sexual setting. It's kinky and fun. But that's me, it may not be your fiancee. You've got to bring it up with her. My guy mentioned it while we were cuddling after a really nice evening, wink, wink, and I was tickled by the idea. She may like it. Give it a go.
2006-12-29 15:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by foxiee_chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I suggest that you talk to her about this and your courisity about it. There's nothing wrong with it and normal... You and your lady should be close enough to talk openly and honestly about almost anything by now. After all she will soon be your wife.. so just talk to her about it or come up with some sort of topic to regarding it and say Blank what would you do if I said I wanted to try on a pair of your panties? I'm sure you can think of ways to bring this topic up. And you already know she knows your a man so I truly don't think your going to freak her out.. if nothing else the both of you will be laughing about this for many years to come.
Good luck!!
2006-12-29 23:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by ssgtmommy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go for it! She may find it funny....you can always laugh it off as a joke. So go ahead..put them big girl panties on and try it!!! My boyfriend did it and I thought it was the funniest thing! He wasn't serious about wearing them all the time, it was a spur of the moment thing for him. Anyway, Good luck & Happy New Year!! You could always do this on new years eve and wear a party hat with them in case you are worried about her freaking out!
2006-12-29 23:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by Debcee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just put on a pair, hop out of the bathroom, and laugh about it? If she laughs with you, then she probably won't think it's a big deal if you wear them sometimes. I think this is something that you should judge by her personality. If she's pretty openminded and freespirited, try the above approach. If she's pretty uptight, then you should ask her (while you're on the subject of sex to begin with) how she would feel about it. I think it all depends on her personality. Personally, it wouldn't bother me if my husband did, but he's a guns and cars guy and bigger than me, so I would probably get mad at him for stretching my underwear out beyond repair.
2006-12-29 23:11:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my ex ruined my favorite pair of undies doing that. I think alot of men like doing it and I have no problem with it , if you can fit into them. If not you should buy your own. I don't think she will get upset if you ask her or like someone else said pop out of the bathroom with them on. My ex just kind of put them on after some loving for a good laugh. You can always say that you read this question on Y and ask her what she would do if you felt the same way.
2006-12-29 23:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by Bilinda G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such a small percentage of women that would be ok with. If I were you I would try them on in secret first and see how you feel, what does it really do for you. As a suggestion you could go on transgender site and have a read, if by chance you do this and she is accepting of it, keep it to a bare minium, she has chosen to be with a man not a lesbian figure.
2006-12-29 23:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by Bev J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband just jumped into them as a joke.. I thought it was hilarious at first, but you know it is cool that you guys can do that. In my opinion it shows you are very comfortable with you secxuality. So, maybe you should try joking about it and see how she takes it. That was if worst comes to worst you can always say you were just joking you know what I mean! But, I don't believe there are too many women out there who would find it to horrible. They may find humor in it as well. There is nothing wrong with being adventurious! So, seriously... I personally think you should try to joke about it and drop the hint! I bet you'll find you don't really have anything to worry about!
2006-12-29 23:17:17 · answer #7 · answered by jm_radi2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just try in on in private. At least this way you'll know what they're all about. Why not try getting silk boxers to settle you down a bit? I wouldn't say you're a freak or anything but I really think it's something you should keep to yourself.
2006-12-29 23:13:47 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could always do it as a joke. Or when shes not at home.Your not a freak. If you approach her. but it really depends on how deep your relationship is. You could always get drunk and then play a game of secrets and tell her.
2006-12-29 23:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just go for it. Let her know what's on your mind and how you feel about it. I mean if you want to wear them that badly, just go for it. Now getting her to accept it, is a whole other subject. You can't make someone like something. But you never know, she just may have a wild streak to!
2006-12-29 23:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by Jacki T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋