My b/f and i r fighting constantly like i said in one of my other q's but he also nvr lets my talk 2 n e of my guy friends he'll go on my im name and delete my guy friends off my lists so i don't talk 2 them!! he also barely lets me talk 2 my friends that r girls even or hang wit them !! and if i wanna go shopping he always wants 2 come so i dont like check other guys out or sumthin!! I TOLD HIM I NVR WOULD!! plz help!!!
2006-12-29 14:57:13 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's waaaaaaaaaaaay to overprotective. If you were being flirty with those people that would be one thing, but even then he's too controlling.
2006-12-29 15:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by meepiscool 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your man has some serious problems....if there is jealousy in the relationship to that extent it isn't even worth your time on staying!! You are NOT his property you are a person too and he needs to understand that he DOES NOT own you!! If he doesn't let up I would leave cuz in many cases it just gets worse!! You don't need that, how do you let him tell you what you can and can't do.....that is what we all have parents for!! Is this guy really worth you not having friends or a life?? IF he is then stay with him, if NOT then find better things to do with your time and get off the collar that he has you on!! Your not a pet and he doesn't need to have you on a leash, you need to check your man and kick him to the curb!!
2006-12-29 15:03:48 · answer #2 · answered by Floridapurrfection 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It certainly sounds like he is a controlling person fueled by jealousy and insecurity. My suggestion would be to run, not walk, away from this situation before it turns into something more aggressive. If he is this jealous and controlling now, imagine how much worse it will be once he feels as though you are HIS... and by HIS I mean HIS POSSESSION. You will have no rights or entitlements of respect in his world. As long as you tolerate it, he will continue to treat you this way.
I am unsure of your age, but I would say you will have many more opportunities to come your way if you just get away from that, respect yourself (no one else will if you don't) and find what you deserve!
Be thinking of you! Good luck girl! :)
2006-12-29 15:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by ivy9toes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This type of behaviour is one of the warning signs of a potential abuser. Isolating you from family and friends is only the first step. If you continue to let him get away with this, he will brainwash you and break you down to the point where there is not a shred of your personality left. Get out now, before it's too late.
2006-12-29 15:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me is sounds like that he is controlling. Also it sounds like that he wants to pick your friends. Please don't go down that road. It's a long dark road that leads to nowhere but heart aches, and pain. You need to make a stand and make a stand now before it's too late. The only ones that you should listen to is your parents, and God. No one can control you only if you let them. You have friends male and female. Don't let him take your friends away from you. Because if that happens, your friends may not be there if you need them because they are afraid to approach you due to the person that is controlling you.
2006-12-29 15:10:21 · answer #5 · answered by George 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him. Believe me, it will never change. He has a problem that you can't fix and neither can anyone else. He will have to find it within himself to get help and that has to be without you. You need to move on. You DO NOT want to be with someone like that. Use caution when breaking up with him too. I will tell you, I've been through this. He will probably try to harm you because usually guys like this say if they can't have you, nether can anyone else.
2006-12-29 15:07:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously...you probably won't listen but honestly...dump him. There are plenty of guys who aren't insecure. You deserve to be trusted just like you trust him. Tell him that you need some time apart so that you can see what real life is like. There are guys out there that will let you have your freedom.
2006-12-29 15:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is NOT your boyfriend he is your owner!!!!!! You are setting yourself up for a lifetime in prison if you keep going out with him.
Sounds like you would have more freedom in jail honey. Trust is very special in a relationship, and I am sorry but he doesnt trust you or respect you and your privacy.
2006-12-29 15:04:33 · answer #8 · answered by Bev J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out while you still can girl im sure your friends and family will feel more comfortable to know that you are safe...that is if your bf even let you have a chance to talk to them...hopefully you can still get on the comp. to read these helpfull answers from the public!
I wish you luck and for your best interest please dump him i would like to know what happens please add more detail when you can to let us know! [= good luck!
2006-12-29 15:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by Kelsyyy(: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is very controlling and that is not good it will usually lead up to worst things..possesivness than abuse mental emotional and physical..try telling him u dont like it when he does that if he gets mad you should really rethink whether you want to be in a relationship with someone like that..its not healthy trust me i know i have been there
2006-12-29 15:02:53 · answer #10 · answered by kelly s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋