why do husbands cheat on their wives when they have it all at home?

Answer 1

They want to still feel like that HAVE IT!!!! They can still get other women. They don't realize what they have at home until it is too late. They want their ice cream AND cake.

Answer 2

There are several reasons. They are selfish, their ego is being fed by someone else giving them attention, and/or they don't appreciate what they have. Guess what though? Many of these husbands that cheat realize after it is almost or is too late that they really did have it all. Then they live with guilt and regret and wish they could turn back the clock. Of course they can't turn back the clock and then they beg for forgiveness and say they will do whatever they can to make it right and won't ever cheat again. Some actually won't cheat again and really do realize what the have and what they won't ever have if they do cheat again. Then there are those that live up to the saying of once a cheater always a cheater. Every situation is unique. It is even sadder when there are kids involved because not only is the husband cheating on his wife but also the kids are being cheated on too. The best and only thing a wife of a cheating husband can do is pray. Then if and when the husband that cheats realizes stuff; it is all up to the wife if she wants to forgive him and try to move forward. This is not an easy task because forgiving is possible but forgetting is very hard to do.

Answer 3

there is this man and he has all the money he could want for his life. He has a major job and a model for a wife. He still cheats. I do not know why. People think that if you have it all it should be enough. I am his friend and I just do not have an answer. To look at him and his wife and kids they have the American dream. But no one can see what goes on behind closed doors. He is lacking something that he can not find. He says he loves her. But the very person he says he loves is the only person he is hurting the most. Maybe to have it all is never enough because once you have everything then what is left. These types of people will never be happy. They will never get to that point of just feeling blessed that they have a wonderful family. To the spouses they deserve better. They deserve a spouse that will love them and only them. So if this is happening to you. Just let go. They will never change and you will always be the one getting hurt and you do not deserve this. So good luck and God Bless

Answer 4

Husbands aren't the only ones who cheat ... I know lots of wives who've done the same and reasons vary far and wide, some just unhappy some just for change

I've even known some couples where everyone knows what's going on but the couple gets more benefit from not leaving because it's financially better not to divorce ...

Answer 5

If he is cheating on you then either he is a scumbag, which is possible and you need to ask yourself honestly if he is, or he is getting something elsewhere that he can't get from you. It doesn't have to be only sex or even a sex act like anal or oral, it might just be that the passion has gone out of your marriage and he is looking for it elsewhere. Something I have just realized is that men need to feel needed and wanted and if you take away that feeling some men will withdraw and others will leave and others will stray. He might be a scumbag but it also might be your fault (yeah, how can a woman say something like that to another woman) and I've seen other women drive their husbands away from them without even realizing that their doing it. Some men are dogs and some women are biatches and unfortunately the two don't always match up. Sometimes they trash out really nice people, women and men alike. Does he really have it all at home? Sounds to me, since you were the one who mentioned it first, that he might not and that you are trying to just tell yourself what you want to hear.

Answer 6

I agree, they are stupid! And selfish too. People always want what they aren't suppose to have. And I think sometimes people cross the line and act selfishly. But I do believe what goes around comes around. Yeah he may cheat, but there will be a time that he will be cheated on. And then he'll see how it feels. Or she for that matter, because wives can cheat too!

Answer 7

The same reason wives cheat on their husbands. Variety I guess.

Answer 8

First, this is a loaded question. This is coming from a wife who thinks she is meeting all of her husband's needs; however, I suspect that the husband in question would not agree with the assumption that he "has it all at home". If he did, it is unlikely he would be cheating.

I think there is a lack of communication in this relationship--the fact that one party thinks they are fulfilling the other's needs when this is clearly not the case is an indicator. These two people need to sit down and discuss what they each need and what they are each willing and/or able to provide for the other.

Cheating is very rarely about sex _per se_. It might be presented as "I went outside the marriage because I wasn't getting any at home", but the real issue there is why were you not getting any at home? Usually it's repressed anger and resentment. The parties have failed to live up to each others' expectations. (Note that there are dozens of scenarios here. I'm only addressing what I feel is the most common one from what I've seen.)

It's not about a specific sex act (usually), although I have seen situations where one party has an undisclosed or unexplored fetish which they later develop (e.g., BDSM). Generally speaking, if you have a kink and try to repress it, you end up angry and/or frustrated. Likewise, if you discover your spouse is into activities that turn you off, you can either tell them that you refuse to indulge them or you can indulge them reluctantly, which is almost as bad as just saying no. People want partners who are into it as much as they are, and if they know that their partner is just indulging their fetish, that's kind of a turn off. You're either into it or you're not into it.

It's also possible that the two parties have grown apart as far as shared interests and activities. Again, you can try to interest yourself in the other person's hobbies and pastimes, but what is really wanted is someone who shares the passion for the activity. Participating in a begruding manner is obvious to the other party. Try to find something that you both share a passion for.

Furthermore, it could be that you do not stimulate your husband intellectually. To go back to some of the comments about men who look for women who are half their age, etc.--I am quite familiar with several situations in which the mistress is older, heavier, etc. than the wife, but what she provides is constant brain candy. No intelligent man wants someone who is intellectually lazy and expects him to do all the thinking for both of them. One of the biggest turn-ons is the intellect. A woman who is educated, cultured, well-traveled--someone witty, well-read, clever, who can discuss more than what little Johnny did in school today--this is paramount to keep the interest of a man with a brain. I have heard numerous times that the spouse is intellectually lazy, stupid, etc. That these people are not engaged at a mentally stimulating level. That requires being aware of the world around you--not just what happened in the world today, but being able to analyze what it means. Familiarity with pop culture, yes--but what does it say about the society we live in? An intensely burning curiosity about the universe--*that* is sexy, that is attractive.

A friend of mine put it thusly: "My husband and I intersect. We do not interact." Interaction is what creates passion in a relationship. Intersection means two people who share the same living space, the day-to-day happenings--discussing children, household issues, mutual friends, local happenings--but nothing of substance. An exchange of information.

Interaction, on the other hand, involves philosophical, political, emotional, spiritual, intellectual, etc. discussions--things where each party challenges the other to push beyond the familiar. True intimacy and growth.

Interaction is what makes a relationship thrive.

I could go on here, but I think I've touched on the tip of the iceberg for the question. I sincerely doubt you "have it all at home" if your husband is at all intelligent and you are not providing for his needs as outlined above. Too many people think that providing for surface needs will suffice--"yes, I'll have sex with you 3x/week"--not realizing that doing it in the missionary position every time leads to what has been termed "crappy, mechanical sex"; i.e., devoid of passion. Or "yes, I talk to my husband"--not understanding that talking about the children and what happened at work today is not the same as sharing how you feel about these events.

But I'll stop for now...

Answer 9

Maybe what they have at home is bitchy, always has a headache, or always dresses like a bag lady !!! WHO KNOWS ? What I do believe is that women should not let their husbands have too much recuperation time. We are always ready and there are so many beautiful and willing females, if we are permitted to leave home with our weapons "loaded", well then.....

I don't think men leave home planning to cheat, but surely, if their ammunition has been exhausted at home, they aren't really likely to cheat when they are away.

Answer 10

Same reason why some wives cheat on their husband although they have it all at home - stupidity. Nothing but blatant, uncurable stupidity.

Answer 11

Well obviously they dont think they have it all at home..doesnt the grass always look greener on the other side of the fence?? Theres always the thrill of the chase and the excitemant of conquering... all traits of immature men..