Family & Relationships - 26 December 2006

that counseling can help or simply prolong the pains. There are certain things that you cannot just reason through.

What's the best that you can hope for? Can passion be revived through counseling? I don't think so... Counseling at best can answer some questions and make the facts more obvious.

2006-12-26 06:25:06 · 21 answers · asked by joesecretive 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am maried over 15 years, i love my wife but not in love anymore, is that wrong?? i am in love with another woman and i know she is too, but some thing inside me doesn't let me go on and she is waiting for me but i can't move one, what is it ? Is that means i still in love with my wife or i am scared to hurt her? don't know what to do?

2006-12-26 06:24:24 · 31 answers · asked by Da one 1 in Marriage & Divorce

A few members of my family are visiting for the holiday and they want to go on a trip to the beach. I do not want to go out with them because I just don't feel like and further more I feel like I am always obligated to go wherever they go when they visit. I am 23 yrs old and I feel like I should be able to make my own decisions. I pay my own bills etc so I am not living with parents or anything. I am just visiting my parents as well for the holidays. My parents especially my father (its his relatives) wants to treat me like a child and insist that I go. I think they need to realize that I am grown and independent and should be free to do whatever I want. Do you think I should go and are they being fair? Thanks.

2006-12-26 06:23:37 · 23 answers · asked by Sandra F 2 in Family

Okay...I have always believed that you should never wait for someone else to do things for you. If its something you want, work hard until you can obtain it. I believe I have my priorities straight. I have always had my own place, my own car and have been able to pay my own bills. Is it wrong for me to be this way? I have sisters that depend on men for everything...including happiness. I watch them struggle, and often have to help them out. I have 4 sisters. I try to do the total opposite. I am a single mother who works full-time, and i'm in school pursuing a degree in Nursing. I dont consider myself a man hater. I just dont have a man at the moment because I am taking some time out of the dating scene.
My question is: Why do guys run away from Independent women?

2006-12-26 06:23:03 · 13 answers · asked by vivian M 2 in Singles & Dating

Their family members "playfully" refer to their girlfriend as "daughter in law"? (I said it once too, and he said it didnt bother him when I asked if it did- I wanted to slap myself after syaing it cause I dindt know if he'd like me joking that way and I dont wanna "scare" him) His mom and grandma were saying this all Christmas weekend long, and it's not the first time its happened. I dont think he heard it, but honestly I was flattered. I know they like me A LOT, and they think I'm a positve influence on him so maybe its wishful thinking that we'll marry one day. (I hope so too.) Does this make guys feel weird or have any girls gone through this? What do you think about them liking me so much to already consider me part of the fam? Dont get me wrong- I'm NOT complaining cause it makes me feel good that they think so highly of me, I just dont want him to feel weird about it.

2006-12-26 06:22:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My grandmother is dying of cancer. I didn't know that she was this sick until my sister called to tell me that Hospice has come in to the home and that my grandmother is in the stage now where she can not get out of bed and her lungs are starting to fill up with fluid. I took a picture of her grandchild in for her, but I want to do something really special to let her know that she is loved. What can I do? I love her so much and I am going to miss her...

2006-12-26 06:22:04 · 13 answers · asked by Proud Mama 2 in Family

I feel that guys think I am ugly and fat which i am not i am not even close to fat.This dude in my class i think he likes me but i don't think he likes me.I don't what to hurt feelings so should i give a chance.He is like the only guy in my class that doesn't make fun of me.S o what should I do?

2006-12-26 06:21:19 · 14 answers · asked by Mixed-Girl 3 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I have been married a little over a year now and about a month ago he told me that he doesn't have any emotion left in him. We've had problems in our relationship that caused this wall between us (it wasn't infidelity). I love my husband so much but he's also told me that he didn't know if he wanted to continue to work on our marriage or not. He says that he wakes up and goes to sleep with a "whatever happens, happens" type of thinking meaning if I choose to leave him it wouldn't hurt him. How do I get him to love me more or give more with our marriage? I've explained to him that the first year of marriage is the hardest but I just don't know if to leave it alone or keep pushing for something that isn't there anymore.

2006-12-26 06:20:56 · 26 answers · asked by bettyspagettii 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-26 06:20:16 · 12 answers · asked by afrprince77 2 in Family

I am 14 and I live with my aunt. She is very mean. When ever I tell her my problems or what I like and don't like, she says she does not care. When I say sompthing she does not like, she says I am an A** hole, crazy son of a b----, or other names that I do not like. She hits me and my brother in the face, for no reason (sometimes) and we are usually not aloud out of the house, on the phone, or to eat what we want, when we are not hungry.

I am thinking of telling my BM, but usually when I tell her, she does not care about it. That is probably why she sent me off to live with her.

Any thing I can do? Help~~~

2006-12-26 06:18:55 · 49 answers · asked by Riley S 1 in Family

i want to keep it simple and reserved. my boyfriend and me doesnt have too much money but it doesn't mean we have to choose for a cheap-look wedding. i want to make it in a resort cuz i love the beach and as i live in the dominican, beaches here are pretty cute. That could means that it will be during the day cuz at night im gonna have a big suprised for my future husband (ie. A very Special Dinner).... so what kind of dress would i have to wear? what kind of decoration, food, apperitizers should i have to prepare??? I was thinking of - as soon i know about designing - to prepare the flowers bucket and invitations myself. can you help me? Im getting married within 6 months, So i guess i dont have too much time.

2006-12-26 06:18:34 · 9 answers · asked by *live,laugh,love* 2 in Weddings

on his way home from cranking all weekend. we gave him $2 and i told him to never ask us for money again and also that he had a lot of gall to pull that stunt. furthermore i told him it's not the money - it's the principle. it's not the first time and i put my foot down. of course he blames for being the bad guy. what do you think ? this is a guy that we got a job for and he quit. he does not work - he lives with mama and he's 40 yrs old

2006-12-26 06:18:18 · 2 answers · asked by bbq 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

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2006-12-26 06:18:11 · 3 answers · asked by rhiannon_kc 1 in Singles & Dating

I broke up with my finance in November after 11 months to go on a weekend vegas trip with an ex boyfriend--it was not an intimate weekend trip-- but it happened to be my 1 year anniversary with my finance, although we were apart at the time. When I returned I realized the mistake I made by going on the trip and tried to repair the damage but found out the following week that during that weekend trip he replaced me with someone he met at the bar. Since that weekend he has been seeing that girl and stringing me along indicating that he wants to repair our relationship. Stupid me thinks we are going to fix things and make it work. Am I in fantasy land? I'm 36, not in high school!!!! I sit at home and cry myself to sleep, my teenagers tell me to move on but how can you move on when your heart tells you to go back. He continues to see her and tells me that he loves me but needs time to break it off with her because she is just to nice. HELP! What should I do?????

2006-12-26 06:16:54 · 44 answers · asked by Hopeless 1 in Singles & Dating

Is this wrong. Okay theres this guys i kno i luv and hes knos that i luv him and he wont leave me alone about it. He finally told me that he loved me too and that he wanted to have sex with me, when he asked me this i was like NO. He told me i was f**ked up, well when he told me that i lost my mind, because he had the nerve to say i was messed up when he is the one that has a girlfriend. After i yelled at him he told me he was sorry abd he asked me again if i would have sex with him. I really love him and i want to but he has a girlfriend is it wrong to do this???

P.S. I lost my virginity at the age of 11 and now he thinks i am vunrulable(dunno if thats spelled right) and i am willing to have sex with anybody!! help

2006-12-26 06:16:28 · 11 answers · asked by Jus call me "BUBS" 3 in Singles & Dating

scrotum, now I have some white and green stuff oozing, help? what is it, what to do?

2006-12-26 06:15:58 · 8 answers · asked by seahawk 1 in Singles & Dating

i have been dating my boyfriend for 5 years. pretty much he is all i know. but i dont know if there is anything better out there for me. i want to keep this as short as possible bc i am at work but what i need to know is how many of you men are truly good guys. my boyfriend is short tempered..spoiled...obnoxious.... me names from time to time..moody...doesnt go out of his way to please me, pretty much doesnt do anything to please me....i am not happy with our sex lives...he doesnt really want to spend time with me...and then 2 days later he is the exact opposite a totally perfect boyfirend...please tell me what you think of this situation. some days i am afraid he might really hurt me and then other days i am completely in love with him

i am very pretty..i feel he is lucky to have me..i have taken him back after bein cheated on by him 4 times hes has physically and mentally abused me...he is not patient..he doesnt like being at home i just need to know r all guys like this

2006-12-26 06:14:39 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My b/f of 5 months bought me a beautiful engagement for Christmas and popped the question! We have had problems all along with his lying to me. I told him i loved the ring and would love to marry him, someday, but only if i can start believing in him again. He got mad and said that if his wanting to marry me didn't prove he loved me nothing would.
I feel like if he loved me, he wouldn't be lying to me all the time. Am i being too sensitive, or am i right?

2006-12-26 06:14:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-26 06:14:14 · 6 answers · asked by CUTIE 4 in Singles & Dating

My cousin wants to "Do it" with me he tried too the last time I went over his house he just fingered me he was about to stick it in me until I stopped him now I regret it and think I should've let him done it he said next time he is going to do it whether I like it or not Should I let him or not?

2006-12-26 06:14:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

We had a great relationship going fo a while. But there's something in between us that recently became apparent but I have no idea what it is other than it's extremely painful for her. I respected that...for a while, but I think I've had enough. It's like she wants to take a break from us only so she can try to forget about "it" again and then pick us back up. But only to end up right back here, as I see it anyways. So I want to tell her that I love her and care for her, which is why I can't be in her life only some of the time. Any suggestions on how to deliver this without sounding accusatory or downright mean? Should I even care if I do? I would love to be with her and I want to do this in a way that leaves that possibility open in the future.

2006-12-26 06:13:36 · 9 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Singles & Dating

Heres the story , at first my very close friend was going to have a big wedding and I was one of the bridesmaids, then she changed her mind and the wedding is in Vegas and she did not pick me to be one. I really did not care but I am annoyed by the fact that she pick a childhood friend of hers that she barely talks to. She and I speak on a regular basis, she calls me everyday asking me my opinion about things regarding it , has me get on the computer to look at the chapels, wedding dress, bouquet, resturants, etc. I am quite exhausted listening to her we do not live in the same city and we dont use the same cell company so this also costing me money!! Everytime she calls I think to myself where the **** is her bridesmaids??? She also picked her sister( which I told she should do) and a girl she hasnt known for quite three yrs. yet b/c she feels obligated b/c the girl is giving her an engagment party. Should I say something ? Im just annoyed not pissed? I have a dress to wear already!

2006-12-26 06:13:17 · 34 answers · asked by *sexy mocha* 4 in Weddings

One of my best friends gets jealous whenever I go out with anyone. Even my best female friend. When I leave he comes over to my house and sits until I come back, waiting on me. Once he even went out to look for me when I went out to lunch with my other best friend. Lately he's been getting out of control with it. He saw this guy he knows I like at walmart and told him I'm stalking him and all of this crazy crap that isnt true so he wont like me. It didnt work but I still dont appreciate it... Of course he swears he didnt do it but I know he had to. No one else there knew about the stuff he twisted to scare the guy. Are all 18 year old guys like this or is he psycho? How can I calm him down a little so he wont ruin my life?

2006-12-26 06:12:53 · 7 answers · asked by I Inquire 3 in Friends

I just got married to the man that Ive been with for 3 years in August...But the thing is I just dont feel like having sex anymore..Its not that he turned unatractive or anything...I just stay at home with 2 kids...and when he gets home he barely lifts a finger to help with them..so when it comes time to do it..Im just to tierd..but I also dont feel like Im attracted to him sexually anymore....any advice?

2006-12-26 06:12:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-26 06:11:45 · 17 answers · asked by Special K 2 in Singles & Dating

ok well my ex is taken but i really love her and i really want her back the girl she is with is such a bore she is no fun and my ex wants to be with me to but she is a fraid that imma hurt her when i would never do that

2006-12-26 06:11:18 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I'd like to get opinions from other girls who work in a retail store about this situation. There is a girl I have seen a couple of times at a store I shop who I like and would like to ask her out. It's just that everytime I see her at the store, she is always busy working and there are always people around so there is no privacy to talk to her plus I don't want to get her into trouble at work. Usually in the past when I have asked out a girl, I usually talk to for a while first but I don't have that opportunity in this case because I don't know her outside the store she works at. What I'd like to ask is: is it okay for a guy to just ask for your number right away without talking to you - such as "Hi, my name is Chris, can I have your number so we can talk later?". If you are a girl and a guy asked you this quickly for your # would it make you feel uncomfortable or would it not matter if you liked him? Which is better - small talk then ask for # OR get straight to the point?

2006-12-26 06:10:56 · 18 answers · asked by Chris C 1 in Singles & Dating

He has cousins and nephews, but no son, daughter, father, brother, sister, mother, or grandparents. This is just hypothetical...a la Harry Potter.

2006-12-26 06:10:35 · 14 answers · asked by sariff 1 in Family

My husband is set in his own ways. He washes the dishes but will not wash the pots & pans. He take his dirty close and put the beside the dirty cloth hamper. He makes up the bed but will not valcum the floor. He start painting the living room and finish two months later.
Any suggestions will be appretiated.
Help Help Help.

2006-12-26 06:09:07 · 39 answers · asked by Grand Ma Jay 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-12-26 06:08:55 · 24 answers · asked by renew69 2 in Singles & Dating