2006-12-26 06:20:16 · 12 answers · asked by afrprince77 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi. I think you should stand up for your wife provided she is right. In any case, you shouldn't allow your family to insult your wife or vice versa. Although I am sure you love your family there comes a point where a line needs to be drawn. I would pull my grandparent or aunt aside and talk to them and let them know that neither you nor your wife appreciates that. Let them know that they do not have to like her but they can at least treat her with respect for your sake. I don't know the situation in detail but like I said that line needs to be drawn somewhere. Good luck!
2006-12-26 06:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by Sandra F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd better have the courage to stand up for your significant other/wife and let everyone know that insults will not be tolerated, or...your significant other/wife will feel like you have abandoned her and have no interest in her protection. You can let family members know gently: "Since my "other" isn't here at the moment, I want you all to know talking trash about her to me will not be tolerated. I don't want to hear it. I love this woman and she's good to me. I love you all, so if you guys want me to visit and be part of this family, please don't talk about my wife/sig other. I'm on her side." Nuf Said!!! This is a wonderful question and I wish more men would seek this kind of advice!!! Godloveya. Your gal is a lucky woman!
2006-12-26 07:07:21 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When in law confrontations like this happen it is your duty as the one with blood relations to tell your family that since this is your wife, fiance, etc, that any disrespect towards her is disrespect towards you, and then it is up to you to set up boundaries, usually it is family that almost always thinks they have a right to get into another's relationship, this is not right, what your family needs to understand is that this is the person you chose to be with for the rest of your life, and that unless they want to see you unhappy, that they shouldn't say anything at all, it is alot easier to lose a spouse than it is a relative, also let your spouse know that you love them as this might be a really difficult time for them. good luck
2006-12-26 06:51:55 · answer #3 · answered by Summer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Refrain from making it public in Yahoo... And try to forget about it... Families often argue b/c of their expectations. I.e., family members expect other family members to treat them a certain way, to act a certain way, etc. When the expectations are subverted, a massive state of confusion ensues resulting in a dispute... Don't worry about the relatives, unless they commit a crime. You and your wife have a life - live it and don't let anyone press your buttons, much less a relative with convoluted expectations.
2006-12-26 07:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them if they can't be nice to your mate then you would rather not see them anymore. It doesn't take much to be nice. It is your life and they will just have to deal. If they can't then it is there loss not yours. If you did everything the way your family says you should then you would be living there life not the one you chose.
Tell them they are welcome in your home, but they must abide by your rules and leave the sarcasm at home or don't bother coming over. It is there loss not yours. You pay the bills in your home, then you make the rules. Never tell them that they can't come over. Only that they must stick to the rules and you love them no matter what they decide.
2006-12-26 09:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by twentyeight7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pull them to the side and tell them to stop the behavior. Even if they're not willing to apologize, you warn them about doing it again. If the behavior continues, you apologize to your wife and you both leave. If this occurs in your own home, you ask the offending family member to leave.
2006-12-26 06:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let them know you don't appreciate them insulting some you really care about. If they are going to continue disrespecting you in this manner, then you must stop coming around them.
2006-12-26 06:52:21 · answer #7 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in the same boat bro,my soon to wife is from up north and my father is always telling yankee jokes or is saying something about ppl from up north.i think im going to find the right place and time and pull a side and have a talk wiyh him.because it up sets my soon to bride,and it upsets me to see her feelings hurts.so i hope it works out for you
2006-12-26 07:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her, you should defen her but don't be mean to the other person just tell them to respect you significant other because you love her. And that should be the only thing that matters for them, your happines;)
2006-12-26 06:27:56 · answer #9 · answered by GM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be a man and stand up for your wife.
2006-12-26 09:36:14 · answer #10 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋