Family & Relationships - 19 December 2006

just wondering..

2006-12-19 19:09:23 · 12 answers · asked by CARMEN S 1 in Singles & Dating

I have dated at least 3 guys in their 40's(i'm 22). My current bf is 42. Whenever i tell people his age or i say i like older men they give me a weird look or say 'what are you doing etc',it's like jeez is it such a big deal these days?look at Michael Douglas and Cath Zeta Jones. As long as we're happy why should it matter?

2006-12-19 19:08:28 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If my girlfriend is Christian and I am Muslim, is it ok for us to get married? I am not a very religious person, but it is an important thing for me. People say that these kinds of marriages are not successful for very long, is it true? I have also heard that when you have kids they will be also confused between religions and culture; I would like my kids to learn my culture. Also, if my girlfriend wants to be a Muslim to marry me or prove that she loves me, do you think she will be happy with me afterwards. I am always telling her that we are from different countries and different cultures and our life styles are different, but she thinks it will not be a problem. I think there are a lot of things which are normal for her, not for me and normal for me, not for her. I am very confused and don’t know what to do. It would be hard for me to convince my family to marry her, but I want to make sure first that I am taking the right decision.

2006-12-19 19:08:24 · 20 answers · asked by Guy 3 in Marriage & Divorce

One of my best friends just got engaged. She is 38, has had a on again off again relationship for 5 years. The challenge in this relationship is that he is younger and never married. They have broken up on several times because he says he wants a younger woman who will bear children for him. My friend has been married twice and has 3 children from age 12 to 18; she does not want more children. Over the years she has been tormented by this relationship and when I or anyone else asks a quesiton about him she always tells us she doesn't want to discuss it. I have never even met this man in a social situation and know him only from work. I don't even think he knows that I am her good friend! The thing that bothers me is that a month ago she was crying because this guy decided to call her for some reason she wouldn't discuss (they were broken up at this time.) I'm really confused. I want her to be happy, but I also want what is best for her. Am I right to have these feelings?

2006-12-19 19:06:30 · 6 answers · asked by LuvGrapes 2 in Friends

what does that mean? i still want to marry him and i've told him that.

2006-12-19 19:06:02 · 12 answers · asked by ames 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My ex broke up with me and i wrote this rap song 4 her. Tell me what ya think: I remember that time I saw u waiting in line.Couldnt help myself and check out your behind.I know what I say is kind of corny.With one look at u made me so horny.I waited my chance to say my line”May I dance with u?”and you said “fine” Later on we went to the bar for a drink and I got you # so later we could link.As we got to know each other through the phone,I wish I could have u closer to home.I took a few flights to spend a few nights to have u in my sights.As time passed on, I moved to T.O. becuz I wanted to c u a lot mo.In the past year we lost some of that fire.The same routines can make a relationship tired.I know we need to be able to change to be together becuz without some work nothin lasts 4 ever.What makes it worth it is the love that we have.And to c that end it would be real sad.

2006-12-19 19:03:36 · 14 answers · asked by J Z 1 in Singles & Dating

Im 17 right, and im in the last year of secondry school with a bunch of 15 year olds (dont laugh - the classes are all in Spanish...well, catalan and spanish) and theres a guy in the year below me who is 15, 16 in about a month or 2...but he´s WAY bigger thn me(like taller...he´s MASSIVE)...and he lives in my village...and he´s reaally fit (he does rowing) and he´s a reaaaally nice guy too!
Should I? I´ve got a reputtion to keep up but....what should i do?

2006-12-19 19:02:33 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

So im 20 years old, and havent lived with my parents in over a year.
We had been engaged for quite a while, and my parents knew about that. My father is stationed for the military in Japan and kept asking me whens the big day, for I live in Hawaii and hed have to make plans way ahead. My fiances parents live all over the mainland US.
I got tired of waiting for everyones schedules to work out for my wedding so me and my fiance flew to Vegas and eloped alone.

Im my fathers only daugther, and i have to tell him because he is going to write me off on his taxes since hes been sending me $1K every month so i guess he'll have to find out soon. Weve already been married for a month, and its hard every time I talk to him and not tell him. Hes going to be so upset . . would telling him in an email be too tacky when we have a very close relationship?

2006-12-19 19:02:16 · 21 answers · asked by Barbara Faye 5 in Family

The first time a guy talks to me or asks me to go out with me...it has to be for us to get "intimate"....I don't know if they're just testing me, or if they mean it...because they really what they always ask for from me....they never want anything serious....that's why I don't think I will never have anything serious...

2006-12-19 19:01:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I dated someone whom I have so much respect for because I thought she was an angel. She said she is an evangelist in a Baptist church in South Jersey NJ. The only colored person in a black church -lol. Very well respected. Just found out she has been cheating on me the whole two years though I am very active sexually. Is this cool? Where are we placing the bible and morality?

2006-12-19 18:57:31 · 13 answers · asked by agakpe41 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-19 18:56:16 · 13 answers · asked by slexysareno 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I always hear the terms "once removed and twice removed" when referring to families, but I never knew what it meant. Can someone please help me with this dilemma?

2006-12-19 18:54:51 · 4 answers · asked by HustleGirl 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

See there was a girl Whom i loved and still do now this case really went too well.I was really mad after her and everyone told me that she would like it if i tell her about my madness for her and thats what i did.IT WAS THE BIGGEST MISTAKE BY ME .she went to some other city and never replied to my males AND now after 1 full Year she Accepted my friend request on Orkut Which i sent an Year back i don't even have her Phone no. Please Give some really suitable Tips so that she could be again my gf [Its an Indian case if it could help]

2006-12-19 18:53:17 · 19 answers · asked by hey 1 in Singles & Dating

This might sound selfish and rotten to others but i have fallen in love with a married man. A little background- we used to work at the same place untill i moved to another job. I didnt know him that well when i was at my former place, but from the beginning i could sense the attraction between us. These days i run into him occasionaly at corporate events. He is married to a much older woman and has one son. We are very compatible and look good together. I am not having an affair with him as yet but fantasize about us all the time. I really dont know about his intention but the chemistry is strong. I want to know- is it really wrong to fall in love with a married man? I dont want to break up his marriage and yet i want to have an affair! Btw i am not married.

2006-12-19 18:52:27 · 28 answers · asked by Summer 1 in Marriage & Divorce

...to fall in luv with someone that u juz chat with online and nvr meet b4? I chat with this paritcular girl online and we exchange pics. But this few days, I been started to missing her. And even dream of her when sleeping. Worst is, when I make love with my gf, my mind is all her.... how? Am I fall in love or what?

2006-12-19 18:52:18 · 14 answers · asked by porridge0000 3 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-19 18:52:02 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i have this boyfriend,we're together for about 3 or 4 years already. lately, i have noticed that he's got other priorities. i totally understand if he puts career and studies before me but what i dont get is why he'd rather meet his friends than me. he always says that he's thinking of our future. that he's working and studying hard and all that. and i dont complain against work and all but dont i deserve some of his time?

what should i do?

2006-12-19 18:48:23 · 21 answers · asked by aesthetic90210 2 in Singles & Dating

I elopoed with my wife, got traditionally married, lived happily for 10yrs, into 12th yr. I am a multiple professional, with own office and client base. My wife is in touch with all her relatives for the past two years except, her mother. She is not of my caste and her parents are not wealthy like us. Past two years my career graph is rising, With some difficulty I am managing exclusive sundays time with wife and child. Movies and outings are regular. Still she says I am not honest and likely to dessert her.SUSPCION is the word 4 past 2Yr. Over silly issues like my responses with my client, my client base quality, my friends, how I am compelled to stay away, how I interact with the people, all such things are under Microscope and gets annoyed, says that I am not caring. Remains silent for the days, weeks. Often threatens to leave me, kill herself. I am afraid of going home by every evening caz I don't know on what issue she becomes angry? My whole time is spent in trying to pacify her

2006-12-19 18:48:16 · 28 answers · asked by auditorsudhakar 3 in Family

What is super corny that a girl would love just because it's corny? Are there even such things?

2006-12-19 18:47:07 · 11 answers · asked by Mad Mr. May 1 in Singles & Dating

i love my bf with all my heart more than he could ever imagine,but i know with the way he is i could never be open and loving to him because he doesnt really give me what i need as far as emotional . i could be with him for the rest of my life. how do you let go when you love so much for that person.

2006-12-19 18:46:49 · 5 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Singles & Dating

This co-worker's technique is to isolate one individual at a time until he can get all to agree with him (and work for him). Now he is isolating me.

2006-12-19 18:44:13 · 10 answers · asked by curious 3 in Friends

I gave her everything and she says, that she does not like me because, i am contented. I am a govt emp. and she asked me to resign my govt. job, to get married. I said YES. Then, she asked me to wait for another few years for marriage. I said YES. She is 25 and am 33. I asked her whether she can assure me that she can marry me after few years. She said, she was not sure about that. When we were into relationship...in the fourth year..she had sex with her boy friend...She regreted to me. I did not support her emotionally and so she had sex with him she told. After 8 years she wants to live free...not to get into committments. I was so supportive. Even, after I knew she had sex with another guy, I was prepared to marry her. Now she is moving with another guy. She goes to parties..drinks daily...and allows all guys to stay in her house. I am married last week. STILL I THINK OF HER. I WANT YOU PEOPLE TO SAY WHETHER SHE WILL FEEL SORRY FOR HER MISTAKES AND COME TO ME BEGGING...PLEASE...SUGG

2006-12-19 18:43:41 · 16 answers · asked by Klizzi i 1 in Singles & Dating

I cheated on my ex gf and she left me, had learnt my lesson well and wan to win her back. Had been working very hard for the past 2 yrs but still nothing happen.

2006-12-19 18:41:50 · 9 answers · asked by nickyT 1 in Singles & Dating

she told me she racke dit up over 4,000 dollars and didnt know ow to tell me so she had been keeping it from me. Im pretty angrey with her, Im not real sure what to do. I love ehr so much shes so immture sometimes with money. But im pleased she came forward.Should i give her honesty points?

2006-12-19 18:40:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have been dating my current boyfriend for almost 15 years and we have a 12 yr old daughter together. I have been asking him lately about where are we headed in this relationship. I recently told him that I needed more and he stated that I was pressuring him. I have been out on my own for half of our relationship and he still lives with his Mother (only child). He told me a week ago that we would get married in July of 07 but, he has told me dates before and never preceeded to follow up with details. I love him dearly and he is a great provided. Does anything in the world for his daughter and I but will not commit to marriage. He is 33 and I am 30. Should I move on or wait?

2006-12-19 18:40:22 · 15 answers · asked by drella 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have these 3 friends - whom never used to be as close as they are today, anyway, they brought to my attention the other week they are worried about me (I am 23 with a boyfriend of 3 years). They think I am tryingto have a baby (which I am not), and also think I am negative and pesamystic (cant spell). Anyway I found out in the weekend that they have been talking to all sorts of people about me having a baby and how it would be a stupid idea etc. Its only cause they dont agree with mt boyfriend. They have never liked him, and also now think that we are unahppy. Which I might add we have not been this happy before. They came around last night trying to give me advice etc, which turned into one huge argument. THey also think me house has nagative vibs etc. Are these people real friend trying to help me with something I am not aware of, or are they trying to stop me living a life that they cant have right at this moment? I am confused.

2006-12-19 18:40:11 · 7 answers · asked by mizz0wl 2 in Friends

medical billing, medical assistant, or pharmacy tech

2006-12-19 18:38:54 · 2 answers · asked by k2u 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Whenever I go to the local drugstore, I always see this attractive girl working at the pharmacy desk. I want to get to know her and ask her out, but I don't want to go to the drugstore often just to see her. I'm afraid she'll think I'm a creep or something. What's the best way to approach her and get to know her?

2006-12-19 18:37:18 · 15 answers · asked by ocorangepeel 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-19 18:37:14 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

been so drunk the night before. an woken up next to someone you wouldnt touch with a barge pole.an try to sneak out of bed but thy wake up an catch you.

2006-12-19 18:36:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating