she told me she racke dit up over 4,000 dollars and didnt know ow to tell me so she had been keeping it from me. Im pretty angrey with her, Im not real sure what to do. I love ehr so much shes so immture sometimes with money. But im pleased she came forward.Should i give her honesty points?
2006-12-19 18:40:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Im affraid if i talk to her about it ill blow up.
2006-12-19 18:42:31 · update #1
She doesnt work outside of our home shes a stay at home mom yes i know its a ob and shes good at it, however Im considering having her get a job to help pay for it
2006-12-19 18:43:59 · update #2
i cut up the card
2006-12-19 18:46:19 · update #3
I would never even dream of doing something like that. My husband would tan my rear end if I did. I don't have to ask my husband for permission for every little thing I do, but something like getting a credit card DEFINITELY has to be ran by him. I think its bad enough she got a credit card without your permission, but to run up a huge bill like that is inexcusable. It was good that she came forward about it, but that doesn't mean you don't have to do something about it. I know everyone is telling to to make her get a job, but as a stay at home mom I can tell you the only person you will be punishing by doing that is your children that are used to her being at home with them to take care of them. I'm not saying don't make her work it off but you could do it in other ways like making her doing your dry cleaning instead of paying to take it somewhere to be done, or don't pay to have someone come mom your lawn make her go do it. Along with that I would definitely give her a long session over your knee. I've read your other questions and know you spank her sometime. (Nothing wrong with that my husband spanks me too) This is a spankable offense for sure.
2006-12-20 03:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by Luv_My_Baby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a woman I can tell you how hard that must have been. I almost got a Macy's card behind my husband's back. Even though I didn't do it, I still told him about it. Coming to you was a very difficult hing to do for your wife. I had a friend who did the same thing. She ended up selling stuff on Ebay to help pay off some of the debt. Good Luck!
2006-12-20 02:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by myredskirt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband did the same thing as your wife. He is the main breadwinner in our family and I am the stay-at-home wife/mother...but, it takes away things from EVERYONE when someone spends money like this. I was very angry.
I would insist that she get, at the very least, a part-time job to cover this extra debt. She made it...she should pay it.
No, you should not give her "honesty points". She has violated your trust...and if you can not trust her with doing what is best for your family...what can you trust her with?
2006-12-20 02:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by Susanne W. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be understanding but be truthful as well. Whatever you do, you don't pay for it...she's gotta learn the hard way or she will take advantage of you in the future...You said she didn't know how to tell you?...Yeah, then wait till the bills is $4000? So she finally got BRAVE and told you......so that you can help pay for it??? Love is love mate but don't spoilt her by paying the bills for her.... she has to learn from her lessons. That will teach her to be careful with money. It may sound mean but that's life.....in the end in will come out good....you'll see....you spoil her now, you will spoil your future......good luck!
2006-12-20 02:50:21 · answer #4 · answered by Cream 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a good idea to have her get a job and pay the bill. Wait a couple days until you are calmer and then ask her how she intends to pay the 4 grand. Hopefully she will bring up the idea of getting a job. If not- then tell her you aren't going to pay the bill so she will need to figure it out herself. Don't bail her out.
2006-12-20 03:00:04 · answer #5 · answered by peggy j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would make her get a part time job to pay off this debt, alos dont allow her to have any money outside of bill money,food money,gas money,or other important things. Until this is paid off. If she has to have something, she must ask you first ,and you as the main breadwinner can decide if she may purchase it. Sounds like to me she is spoiled.
2006-12-20 03:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by Lilmisssassy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you think you just have c/c issues, you are wrong.
it shows she didnt trust you enough to be able to tell you til now.
work on your honesty and communication with each other.
and also, cut up credit cards, i have a 16 year old niece that is
more responsible than that with c/c.
talk all finances out, get em all on the table and ask questions.
if your wife dont work, then give her a set amount each week to spend on herself, take care
good luck
2006-12-20 03:06:31 · answer #7 · answered by sharma 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG..ok..you need to tell her you are upset. Tell her that trust is important and that not knowing about a credit card creates money issues and it also causes trust issues example: what was she charging on the card? Imply that is one of the signs of cheating (even though she isnt) and that it breaks trust.
My suggestion. to have her close the account and pay it off.
2006-12-20 02:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she came forward to tell you the truth. Tell your wife about the time when you had that guys night out, got drunk, and screwed that stripper. She'll probably give you honesty points for that too. Good luck
2006-12-20 02:44:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Gotta tell ya.. women don't tell their men everything, especially spending. I would say, big deal on the credit card, there's many other things that you two could be worried about. Ask her if she got any "fun stuff" for the love life on the card and then enjoy!
2006-12-20 04:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋