I have been dating my current boyfriend for almost 15 years and we have a 12 yr old daughter together. I have been asking him lately about where are we headed in this relationship. I recently told him that I needed more and he stated that I was pressuring him. I have been out on my own for half of our relationship and he still lives with his Mother (only child). He told me a week ago that we would get married in July of 07 but, he has told me dates before and never preceeded to follow up with details. I love him dearly and he is a great provided. Does anything in the world for his daughter and I but will not commit to marriage. He is 33 and I am 30. Should I move on or wait?
2006-12-19 18:40:22 · 15 answers · asked by drella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since you were 15 ??!! Yeah, move on.
2006-12-19 18:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
By letting it go on this long you have let him get comfortable with the way things are! 15 years, why worry about marriage now. You guys have a child together and have been together for 15 years , your basically married. I would be annoyed to be living with his mother. No privacy there. But a piece of paper is a piece of paper! You have what all women want, a long term relationship. It has lasted this long why worry about it now, you should have worried about that when you had your daughter!!! The fact that he has been with you this long proves more than a piece of paper could prove. Just start using his last name and referring to him as your husband and MOVE out of his mothers house!! Don't end it now, you have your daughter to think of. Good Luck!!!!
2006-12-19 18:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by noramom4life101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave him!!! You invested so much time with him. You have spent more than half your life with your boyfrined. Don't break up with him because he does not want to get married yet. Give him time eventually he will come around. Even if nothing happens if you two truly live each other than stay together. You don't need a piece of paper that validates your love for one another. Just wait good things come to those who wat. Focus more on the positives. Who knows maybe someday you will be happily married to the love of your live. He seems too good of a catch to pass up. Think of it this way all of you are a family. Keep on staying together. Take it one day at a time and you'll be fine. I hope this was helpful, and take care!
2006-12-19 20:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anthony D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this man has not married you after 15 years of being together, I would bet the farm that he never does. It sounds to me as if you really don't need this man. My God, he is 33 years old and still lives with Mommy? I consider this to be strange. If he has already set dates before and never followed through, there's you answer. It is not only not unfair to you to that he has not made you his wife; it is also unfair to your child. Give him an ultimatum and you set the date. But to tell you the truth, I am sorry to say that I think you are going to be wasting your time. I know that is not what you really wanted to hear, but sometimes we have to give up on things that we hold dear to us.
2006-12-19 18:51:08 · answer #4 · answered by rosey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a child together and he still lives w/ mommy? There are definately some issues here and it's not about him refusing to marry you. He doesn't see himself as an adult and the parent of a child because his mommy is still babying him unless of course he takes care of her. If you love him you either have to accept he doesn't want to get married and live with that or move on. He's been successful at leading you on this long why should he bother?
2006-12-19 18:46:11 · answer #5 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest you should have asked for that like 10 years ago, he is very comfortable now. And anyway, he has commited for 15 years thats a long time regardless. If he loves you and provides for you. If he wanted to get married he could have asked when you got pregnant etc etc.... As long as he's affectionate and loving, its all good.
2006-12-19 18:50:50 · answer #6 · answered by Unwritten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you have to be married you have had him for 15 years that's a long time and i think he knows that you are the only one that will put up with him and will take his **** so i don't think he is going any were and i think he might get married some day just not today so give him some time and see were that goes
2006-12-19 18:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by sumer h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is 33 and still lives at home? Sounds like you are with him because he is all you know. move on
2006-12-19 19:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by hello kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him to july 07 then if nothing happens move on
2006-12-19 22:09:48 · answer #9 · answered by jacelynlarkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel you have to be married to enjoy each other. Will he move in with you to maybe try it out first.
2006-12-19 19:21:23 · answer #10 · answered by Yonni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey wake up,dont wait for nothing.its hard to have a husband who is a mama's boy.believe me it wont work.after all he is a great provider for you and your daughter that will be enough .so look for someone who can make YOU happy.
2006-12-19 23:15:00 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋