This might sound selfish and rotten to others but i have fallen in love with a married man. A little background- we used to work at the same place untill i moved to another job. I didnt know him that well when i was at my former place, but from the beginning i could sense the attraction between us. These days i run into him occasionaly at corporate events. He is married to a much older woman and has one son. We are very compatible and look good together. I am not having an affair with him as yet but fantasize about us all the time. I really dont know about his intention but the chemistry is strong. I want to know- is it really wrong to fall in love with a married man? I dont want to break up his marriage and yet i want to have an affair! Btw i am not married.
2006-12-19 18:52:27 · 28 answers · asked by Summer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you will get hurt in the long run.
So go to far far far away land and don't go down that road.
I promise you he is not going to leave his wife and if he does what makes you think he won't leave you for someone else?
2006-12-19 19:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by Stephie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you choose to have this affair, you will suffer. Four person will suffer, that is you, the man, his son and his wife. The most innocent one is his wife. Imagine if you are his wife and one day you came to know about your husband affair, how you will feel??? Heartbroken and full of hatred. Why you want to be a vixen to break other woman heart just for own selfish need? If the man go into affair with you, do you think he will let go his family, just to be with you?? He also have chemistry with his wife and love his wife too, or else he would not have married her at the first place. Don't be silly, mostly married man don't want to leave their wife, only some of the wife leave them when they found out about the affair.....
2006-12-19 19:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to have an affair with a married which might one day break up his home. does that sound right to you? Remember our today is a product of our yesterday. Whatever you sow today is what you shall reap tomorrow. Your past has a way of catching up with your future. If you do that and one day get your own husband, someone else would definitely do that to you maybe in a much worse way. Beware!!! stop listening to the devil's suggestions and follow God's way. There is a way that seems right to a man but the end is destruction. Why do you choose that path? Follow your heart or your head? If you heart is not filled with the knowledge and word of God then don't follow it. As a man thinketh in his heart so is he, out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh so the Holy Bible tell us.
I don't know you personally but I love you to tell you the truth as Jesus Christ Himself would have told you if His was physically around you. Even now Heis around you continually and speaking to you too, the reason why you might not hear Him might be because the world rather than the WORD has got your ultimate attention. Remember Jesu loves you.
have a nice day.
2006-12-19 19:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating or having an affair with a married man will get you no where. Not only would you be ruining his marriage, but his wifes and childs lives as well. (and it obviously didn't bother him when he married her that she was much older)
Has he ever said anything to you to make you think he is even attracted to you or is this all one sided??
You need to find yourself a man that is SINGLE. There are enough of them out there.
Besides, you need to think of your own safety, because a lot of women would definitely put a hurtin on you, so this guys wife might feel the same, or she could even take it further than that, many people have died because of an affair....
2006-12-19 19:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by slpkwp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not try to have an affair. But if you are set on this you need to find out about the relationship between him and his wife. You dont want this to happen and then get hurt in the long run. Also you need to think about his son and the consequences that might come out of that. I have been there and done that and it can get pretty sticky.
2006-12-19 18:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by Squirrel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. If you were his wife you would not want him messing you around so think about his wife who is the innocent party here. And I do believe that if you have an affair with him you will just end up with a broken heart. Married men very seldom leave their wives for another woman - especially when ther are kids involved. So my advice is save yourself the heartache and move on to a healthy relationship with someone who is not bound to someone else. And remember - if he has an affair with you while he is married and you somehow end up together - what is to stop him having an affair with someone else when he is with you ?
2006-12-19 18:57:05 · answer #6 · answered by Tequila Sheila SA 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell me how it would feel if you were the married one and another single girl steals your husband from you. Duh? Is it really wrong to steal? Whatever you think you feel will never justify having an affair with a married man! I wish you could be married for once and just feel the hurt of a failed marriage just because some single girl feels she is more compatible with your husband than you are! If you want an affair get someone unattached! Puhlease!
2006-12-19 20:38:44 · answer #7 · answered by mylenekeane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're asking this, deep in your heart you know it's not right. If he's ok with this affair, what makes u think he's a good guy and wouldn't do the same to you in the future? If he's not ok, are u able to take rejection? Either way you're on the losing side, as long as he's still married. It will drain you emotionally. Don't be blinded by passion- what'll happen when it's gone?
2006-12-19 19:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by mel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should follow both. You follow your heart and love him but does he love you enough to live a life with you? If he does not, follow your head and leave him. Yes, it is morally wrong to fall in love with a married man. He is also morally wrong to fall in love with you as he has taken the marriage oath to be with his wife "in sickness and in health." It is, however, not only you who must decide. The man must also decide to between you and his wife. If he cannot decide to be with you for the rest of his life, then I believe you will be better off with someone else who can. Please remember that you could be the one who suffer the most in an affair when it finally ends. God bless you, his wife and son, especially if he is still young!
2006-12-19 19:04:22 · answer #9 · answered by Alfretz T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't mess with it. Too complicated and too much for a life of a single girl.
I have known so many cases like this and they never end nicely. The person who will get hurt is you and that is for sure. No it's not wrong to fall in love with him, but it will definitely be very wrong if you take actions towards this man. If he can't even commit with his wife and son, do you think he will be able to with you?
Who cares whether you look good with him or not. It's not even the point girl.
2006-12-19 18:57:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A human being cannot control there feelings toward another human being, however we can control if we act on those feelings or not, dreaming of having an affair with a married man is abit ..loose? of you. Not to be offensive. But you should respect that he is married, and respect that he HAS a wife, and you should respect her, he is hers, not yours, a marriage is a binding spiritual contract, and it shoulden't be disturbed because you are acting out on a simple attraction.
2006-12-19 18:56:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋