i love my bf with all my heart more than he could ever imagine,but i know with the way he is i could never be open and loving to him because he doesnt really give me what i need as far as emotional . i could be with him for the rest of my life. how do you let go when you love so much for that person.
2006-12-19 18:46:49 · 5 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think, first of all, you should take some time and sit down with him, and discuss your feelings with him. He may need to hear it from you, firsthand, and he may get a better understanding as to what he can do, to help the relationship.
If that isn't something you feel can be done, then I think by letting him know that you've done all you can to salvage the relationship, and the 'ball is in his court' now, and he needs to make a decision, based on how much HE loves you.
Everyone makes decisions, and you can't change who he is, or how he interacts with you, but you can provide him with details on how you feel and put it back on him, so you don't feel obligated to 'try' to hold onto a relationship that may not work for you, and your best interests.
If this is something you've done, already, and have gone through all these routes, then maybe it's time to prepare yourself for 'letting go' of him and know that you've done all you can, but you need to look out for 'you' and your needs, because if he isn't considerate of how you feel, or is being somewhat 'selfish', then you need to 'move on' and maybe this might be what he needs. This may be something you can also look into - leaving him for the time being, and when he realizes that he's missing out on a great person, then that saying, "absence makes the heart grow fonder" will come into affect, and he may 'see' what he needs to work on.
Consider all your options before dropping the bomb on him. You need to seriously think about this, and know you're making the right decision.
Love is a difficult thing to break, especially if you don't really want to leave this man, but you know, deep down, that it's all 'one-sided' and it's not what you need, right now.
I hope this helped.
2006-12-19 18:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by argamedius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remind yourself that there is someone out there that will give you what you need emotionally. Love sometimes isn't enough to make a relationship last. You have needs and they are not being met, by your own admission. You are then unhappy and you deserve to be happy and enjoy your life. Your BF may never figure it out and you will resent him and break up somewhere down the line anyway. When it comes to love, there is the giver and the taker. It sounds like he is the taker and not giving. Anyway, whatever you decide, I wish you the best!
2006-12-19 18:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by Twisted Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with Arga. Follow what your instinct says. No harm to give a try for your loved one. No one is perfect (that's what i see so far). Try and try... but don't keep you hope too high. We can't teach someone how to love us completely. Don't beg for it.. worst by worst after try everything, take a break. Try being ignorant... and see if he feels it and realize what he is lacking of. All the best & good luck to you.
2006-12-19 19:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by cute 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is made of three different, yet very important factors; chemistry, mentality, and emotionally (Agreed on enough to be taught in schools). You're missing one, and that's a big deal. The relationship need to be comfortable, not closed and unloving (you said it yourself). Break it off for your sake and his.
2006-12-19 18:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by Somebody Real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
convince yourself first that you dont want to be with him anymore. cause once you break off, its the point of no return.
2006-12-19 18:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by aesthetic90210 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋