I gave her everything and she says, that she does not like me because, i am contented. I am a govt emp. and she asked me to resign my govt. job, to get married. I said YES. Then, she asked me to wait for another few years for marriage. I said YES. She is 25 and am 33. I asked her whether she can assure me that she can marry me after few years. She said, she was not sure about that. When we were into relationship...in the fourth year..she had sex with her boy friend...She regreted to me. I did not support her emotionally and so she had sex with him she told. After 8 years she wants to live free...not to get into committments. I was so supportive. Even, after I knew she had sex with another guy, I was prepared to marry her. Now she is moving with another guy. She goes to parties..drinks daily...and allows all guys to stay in her house. I am married last week. STILL I THINK OF HER. I WANT YOU PEOPLE TO SAY WHETHER SHE WILL FEEL SORRY FOR HER MISTAKES AND COME TO ME BEGGING...PLEASE...SUGG
2006-12-19 18:43:41 · 16 answers · asked by Klizzi i 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you said you were already married?
why do you still want her to come back to you and beg?
she is not someone who is made for you
forget her and be fair to your wife!
2006-12-19 18:46:28 · answer #1 · answered by sedatedeyes209 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i dont think theres much you can do about this situation. I mean peoples feelings can grow for someone but then they can go away too. Most of the time this happens. It also probably has something to do with the age difference you guys had(no offence). Hopefully for your sake she will come back when she figures out she made a mistake but then again this could be a good thing for you to because you dont want to live with someone who ruined your career because of a promisse that they broke. Remember just go through this whole eight years and look at the positives of not having her around. Now you can concentrate on your life and one day fond someone a little bit more like you that respect what you want to do and remember to respect her wishes aswell and dont rush into big decisions like your career even though it sounds like a good thing at the time. Think of the positives in the future aswell.
2006-12-19 18:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by lizzyroxndunoit_bossy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy for me to say, but the action is much much harder: LEAVE HER. I've been through the: "If you jump through this hoop, I'll give you what you want. Okay, now jump through this one." You aren't a circus monkey and it sounds like she's taking advantage of your good nature for her own enjoyment or thinking that you won't jump through said "hoop" so she can end it. If you're truthful and have indeed given her everything, then why isn't she around? I know the feeling and can't explain why some people just can't appreciate what's before them, but you can find someone who will. She's probably going to make you jump through more hoops the rest of your life IF she comes back. Pick up your dignity, leave her, and put the pieces of yourself back together.
2006-12-19 19:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by That Guy! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww... poor guy. hopefully she'll come into her senses and realize how great you were to her. but, she had sex with another man, she asked you to leave her job to get married, and to wait until marriage... she sounds too needy then she breaks up with you saying she doesnt want commitment?? and then she moves in with a guy... she doesnt sound that great for you. i think you deserve a woman who doesnt take things for granted. a woman who cares about the things you do for her. and, there is a woman out there who fits that description.
2006-12-19 18:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she told you like it was. Actions speak louder than words. Look at everything you did to show your love for her. Look at what she did to show you she didn't. You have to add up the facts and not buy into the illusion. I know it hurts, I'm sorry for that. Try to focus that energy into your new wife. She'll adore it and appreciate it.
2006-12-19 18:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anathema 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I WANT YOU PEOPLE TO SAY WHETHER SHE WILL FEEL SORRY FOR HER MISTAKES AND COME TO ME BEGGING..."
That was what I wanted my exgirlfriend to do when we broke up, but sorry that jus ain't gonna happen. I jus wish you wouldn't be
like me and wake up from this nightmare as soon as possible. From your description of your girlfriend, she ain't worthy of you either. Go for someone better.
2006-12-19 18:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by Rollercoaster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very immature and lost in life.. no offense. As an intuitive I'm seeing that there is someone else in your future. She is not the one I am sorry to say. In the end I see you happy she left your life.
2006-12-19 18:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by KelBean 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i wouldnt hold my breath for that to happen.....she doesnt sound as though shes drowning in remorse. she may come to her senses eventually, but for now it sounds like shes not even close to wanting to settle down. just move on with your own life and new marriage and leave her to her own crazy life--sounds like shes got a lot of maturing to do.
2006-12-19 18:48:43 · answer #8 · answered by mickey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I'm sorry it doesn't sound like she'll come back to you unless she wants to use you again.Try your utmost to get this girl out of your mind,she is immiture and controlling...
2006-12-19 19:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she took advantage of u like a sucker.. she prolly used n cheated on u through the whole relationdship.... ne ways, doesnt sound like she'll b begging for forgiveness ne time soon.. move on..
2006-12-19 18:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by latinababe0105@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋