If my girlfriend is Christian and I am Muslim, is it ok for us to get married? I am not a very religious person, but it is an important thing for me. People say that these kinds of marriages are not successful for very long, is it true? I have also heard that when you have kids they will be also confused between religions and culture; I would like my kids to learn my culture. Also, if my girlfriend wants to be a Muslim to marry me or prove that she loves me, do you think she will be happy with me afterwards. I am always telling her that we are from different countries and different cultures and our life styles are different, but she thinks it will not be a problem. I think there are a lot of things which are normal for her, not for me and normal for me, not for her. I am very confused and don’t know what to do. It would be hard for me to convince my family to marry her, but I want to make sure first that I am taking the right decision.
2006-12-19 19:08:24 · 20 answers · asked by Guy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry to say... but just by your description it definately seems like this kind of marriage won't work... you have to have some similarities to be able to live with each other for life... but with too many vital (example: religion) differences there would be a divorce some point soon, after the romance wears off.
2006-12-19 19:13:49 · answer #1 · answered by Middle of the Desert 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
To some, not all those things are important. I would let the children choose which religion they like without being forced. Although with Muslim relgion is a very important part of the culture.
Now, your GF wants to convert to be a muslim. Did you explain the involvement and that religion is not big to you?
the confusion to me (trying to right you this) is how much of the muslim culture do you live by? Are you wanting her to abide by all the conditions set on muslim women?
of course maybe you could drop a few things and be a modern muslim..there are lots of things in the bible Christians do not follow as practice.
But..you could look at the brighter side of it all that the religions are similar and a sense
almost the same values being simple the 10 commandments are basics of the bible and the Muslim faith lives by the same values..
2006-12-19 19:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is if you two manage to make this religious merger work, you have reached the highest enlightenment known to man. Those two religions practically hate each other. It's very important that the whole family know what's going on, and at lease are willing to accept it. Chaos usually results in extreme opposition. For your girlfriend, if she wants to change religions it should be for the belief and not you. Or chaos could result. For the children, I think it will be great(with no arguing) to live in a bi-religion home, especially two with so much tension. They will be able to know and understand both sides. I don't think they will be confused, they'll either chose one or the other, or neither. The best advice I can give is through discussion and understanding of all parties( you, her, parents) before any vows are taken. Changes have to be made only for true belief and not to please the other, that never works out. Don't worry to much, there is hope it could work out fine.
2006-12-19 20:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by pandora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there !!! Love is so beautiful , yet we must be realistic about issues like religion when it comes to a relationship. Upbringing of children can be affected, custums, traditions,ect.. Your religion and hers is very different. This is a very hard situation. Then you mention you would have to convince your family to marry her, that is not a very good start in my opinion. But then what do I know ? Yes they say opposites attract, but when it boils down to questions of faith, major problems can arise, and even more issues with family members from a different culture. You should do some deep soul searching, pray and ask for guidance, place this in Gods hands, may it be his will.
Wishing you the best
Happy holidays
love light and peace
2006-12-19 19:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE TELL ME THIS IS A JOKE!
I have worked contracts in Saudi for 9 years and know more about Islam than you and am not a muslim. What are you gonna tell her when your first son is born? That his name will be Abdullah, Yusuf, or Faisal? When will you tell her that Islam allows you to have up to 4 wives? Does she know she is not as much an infidel as others because her religion believes in the same God as yours and this makes her more "convertable"? How will she be accepted by your family as a non-Muslim? Are you gonna whisk her away to an Arab country where she has to plead for help at her embassy to get your permission to leave the country to see her parents once a year? How will she deal with your prayer rugs that get pulled out 5 times a day? How will she deal with the idea that sex is for reproduction only?
You know it won't work--but you are thinking with the wrong head. That is not how you will win her to Islam, Homey!
Get yourself a muslim like your family wants you to, willya? Sheesh!
2006-12-19 20:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by Patrick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT! would you let your sister or female relative marry a christian man???? why does she have to become a muslim? why not you become a christian?
do either of the above n i'll change my statement.your girlfriend will not have a problem with it, but her family will. n that will bring curses on you n a lot of sadness to her family, seeing which, she will also be sad.
GO AWAY from her life. You have no idea how much i hate people like you.
Wish you all the best to find someone of your own cast.
2006-12-19 21:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by jude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I have dated 2 Muslim guys in the past. I don't think I feel confident in telling you but I never really was comfortable having the guy go to young girls houses while there going out with you. I think its in your best interest to marry a Muslim girl. Its not racist, its just the fact that she would have to change herself to be with you, that's not right in a relationship and it always leads to I wish I had married someone who was not Muslim. Lots of regrets,lots of suffering of her parents, her parents having bad feelings of you, I would cut it off, and tell her that you must have fun. I really would think having children with a Christan person would not only dishonor her and make her family disown her, but it would be like having a bad omen. So rethink your life, and dont rush into things to quickly.
2006-12-19 19:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by girl176a1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You better think long and hard before you do it.
You are going to have a lot of difficulties as it is not to have an arguement over religion or your beliefs because I am telling you now that there will be.
Just discuss any and everything you can think of that will cause trouble and if you can't resolve them now,
I would NOT get married.
2006-12-19 19:12:56 · answer #8 · answered by Stephie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can marry to her but before marriage she have to be change her religion and accept Islam to marry you. In islam marriage does not valid until both girl and boy are muslim.
Don't you worry aboput sucess of ur marriage. Its all depend on both of ur understanding.
I saw so many inter relegion marriages very sucessfull.
All the best
2006-12-19 19:23:47 · answer #9 · answered by Tannu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never wrong for you to marry your girlfriend. One of you should transform into the same religion so you both can avoid any problems in the future. I think you should transform into a christain. Religion is not a problem. Marry her if you want.
2006-12-19 19:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋