Family & Relationships - 6 December 2006

We were married 9 years. We knew one another 2.5 years before marrying. He left me and the two kids 8 months ago. He has become involved with another woman. He says that nothing went on before he moved. (Yeah, right.) Anyway, why can't I just forget about him? He treated me without respect, was more interested in his buddies or worked all of the time. It is so bad that I wish I didn't have kids so that i can move across the country. Any suggestions people. Thanks for anything that can help here. Everytime I decide that I won't get in touch with him ( exchange the kids at school without seeing one another) he comes up with something that I have to talk with him about., like transfering to another school or the mortgage. He has admitted to me that he is seeing someone else but tells his friends and family that he is not so it looks like I am insane for not being kind to him. No. I have no interest in being his friend. I need some suggestions or even hope that you do eventually move on.

2006-12-06 05:11:10 · 10 answers · asked by jeri t 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm torn between morality and logic. My exhusband hasn't paid his child support in over 3 months (not a PENNY), he's given up 2 days a week with them. My dilema is this - do I spend money on a gift so the kids can buy him a christmas present? The kids LOVE getting gifts for people, and I've always tried to teach them that Christmas is about giving.....what do I do when giving means going above and beyond what I think is logical? HELP!!!!

2006-12-06 05:10:53 · 22 answers · asked by thelilred_whocould 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Is it his hair, his eyes, the way he walks, his manners...??

2006-12-06 05:10:14 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm starting to feel bad right now for my exboyfriend (besides the fact he was in a car accident) it just has me thinking about how last year he got me something for christmas and i ended up leaving him the day before so he gave the gift to my sister to give to me, its so sad.... i dont know is this normal to feel so bad for things like this i just want to cry!

2006-12-06 05:09:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My little brother has Down-Syndrome he is 15 his name is Cameron and I was wondering why everyone who see's him looks at him like he is a freak?Yes everyone in my family loves him belive it or not he is one on my best friends and im 18 lol

2006-12-06 05:08:27 · 9 answers · asked by *Pooka* 4 in Family

My boyfriend is married. he said he was trapped in this marriage of 20+ yrs due to his love for his kids. We met since he works in a different country and his family never adjusted. So he is in the country by himself and I worked with him. He is going to travel next week to brake it to his family that he wants a divorce. He hasn't had sex with his wife in over 8 months. He even went to meet my parents and told them that he promised to come back to put a ring on my hand. I feel bad and do not know if is ok to love him so much knowing he is going to break up his family (I know that i am not the cause of this), We didn't choose this it just happened to us, and I know he is honest with me. Do you think that maybe he would have made a different decision if he hadn't met me? HELP!

2006-12-06 05:08:01 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I mean, why does my BF feel the need to do that when he can have the real thing anytime? It makes me feel bad and not wanted.

2006-12-06 05:07:59 · 28 answers · asked by Curlz 2 in Singles & Dating

hi frends..am engaged to this man who used to care and love me a lot...but since a few months he has got very attached to a three year baby girl of our common frend.he wants to spend all his time wid her..he takes her to school, plays wid her all evening..takes her to the park..for sometime i found it very sweet but now he spends all his time wid her...he doesnt really care if i am around.i tried to talk wid him but his words were: " i am gonna be wid her as much as i can u can stay at home if u dont like to come wid me"... i really need some good advice ...please help!am soon to marry this man....

2006-12-06 05:07:27 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

been married for 5 years. I met this girl 3 years ago, cheated with her on my wife, and asked for forgiveness when she found out. I did stay away from the other one for 2 years, till last spring. we met again, had that lust feeling overwhelm me again, and fell again. Now wife won't forgive me, and i have realized what an a s s hole i've been. What do i do now?

2006-12-06 05:07:15 · 14 answers · asked by MICHAEL G 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-06 05:07:00 · 10 answers · asked by K. O. 1 in Weddings

I've been in a long distance relationship for a good few months. When I go down to see my boyfriend, I stay at his place, don't have to put my hand in my purse once. But when he comes up to see me, he does have to pay around £50 a night in a hotel and has to pay for his food etc... this is because I live wit my parents, and we're not serious enough for him to chill out at my place wit my parents. However, he's sayin he won't come up unless he can sleep at my place,he was gonna come up just before xmas when my parents are away, but is reconsidering it. I told him that he'll have to stay in a hotel, cuz my sister will tell my parents that he stayed when they get back -bear in mind that this guy's salary is pretty high, do you think he's being unreasonable or does he have a point?.

2006-12-06 05:06:55 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-06 05:06:50 · 7 answers · asked by mario07_2005 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

someone new, sweet and accomodating or someone comfortable/familiar, takes you for granted sometimes.

2006-12-06 05:06:15 · 5 answers · asked by prettyboy 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-06 05:06:03 · 1 answers · asked by mario07_2005 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

or spend it with my family??

2006-12-06 05:05:49 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2006-12-06 05:04:36 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

About a year ago,i was standing with my friends waiting for our friends' band to come on stage.In the band,i spotted a new member.I asked who he was,and thought he was good looking but that was about it...then during playing,as i watched them,we locked eyes.At that moment,i felt a blow,as if someone had hit me in the stomach...and i actually felt as if i was in shock.And his expression looked very similar.A year on,i see him every day and he gives me a 'look',but i have a boyfriend now.But the feeling never leaves me,nor him i dont think.What was this?Anyones stories?

2006-12-06 05:04:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-06 05:03:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-06 05:03:47 · 20 answers · asked by MINDY 1 in Singles & Dating

Say, you and your fiance break up.. he bought me the engagement ring. Do I have to return that to him?

2006-12-06 05:03:21 · 38 answers · asked by brokenmuffinz 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband cheated on me a year before we got married and he got the girl pregnant. Now he is starting to act real strange again. I am finding strange phone numbers from women I never met before in his cell phone, in his pocket, and I found one today on my coffee table. He said these women want him to do work on there house but he never does any work. All before he used to where is hair out in an afro and now he is always rushing to get his hair braided. I have to beg him for sex he is always so tired. For our anniversary I bought him roses; he didn't buy me anything. Whenever I ask him about other women he becomes offended and starts to rage. Every since I became pregnant it seems like his interest has been somewhere else. I am deeply in love with him but he is really breaking my heart and I can't trust him. I am afraid to trust him. My gut feeling tells me everytime I can't seem to locate him that he is cheating on me. Please give me advice? He saids he loves me I don't think he does

2006-12-06 05:02:37 · 14 answers · asked by sweetlove30 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have an old friend, haven't seen her in 15+ years...how can i track her down? is there an e-mail phone book?

2006-12-06 05:02:21 · 11 answers · asked by Doctor J. 3 in Friends

My friend just called me and left a message crying histaricly and said to come to her house as fast as i can when i get off work. and the number is busy and has been. i need to know where she called from.

2006-12-06 05:01:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I took my car to get the suspension fixed. Ive taken it to a place by where I live and it cost $102. (this was like a month ago). One of the parts that I had ordered ended up being defected, so it broke. I called the company that sent me the first one and they sent it out to me again. Only problem is that I was in a different city (2 hours away), so I have to get it installed there. They are charging me $220, to do the same work.

Do I have a right to be upset? My boyfriend was the one taking the car to the shop, and when I heard this I was very upset. I wasn't mad at him and I made that clear, I was just frustrated with the situation I was in. THEN he got all mad with me because I was angry??? WHY?? My anger had nothing to do with him, I was just expressing how I felt about it. Was I wrong? or should he have been more understanding? It is 100 dollars that I'm just throwing down the drain!

2006-12-06 05:01:12 · 18 answers · asked by xo0ox143 1 in Singles & Dating

FEMALES ONLY PLEASE

2006-12-06 05:01:09 · 8 answers · asked by EvilJames 1 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and I love each other. He likes to compliment me, take me out, say he wants to give me the world, and spend time with me. He tells me that he can't live without me and he believes I'm the most beautiful, caring girl he's had. But our relationship has just gotten so boring and he just seems so uncaring since he's returned from his business trip. Since he got back from his business trip, I didn't see him for two months and I didn't talk to him for one month. All of that is due to job mishap and depression. I only wish he would've let me help him. December 3, 2006, he calls me and says he wants to take me out. I was angry and upset because I totally put the relationship on hold. I don't know what to do or say because, now, whenever he calls and we see each other, he can't keep his promises. I don't blame him because he's in search of finding a job and he has no transportation. Still, I'm afraid I may hurt his feelings if I tell him because it's not his fault he can't call.

2006-12-06 05:00:26 · 3 answers · asked by sportsgirl 2 in Singles & Dating

isnt it really cheating to fall in love with somebody else before marriage?

2006-12-06 05:00:09 · 26 answers · asked by Aswathy 1 in Singles & Dating

Dave or Paul just pick a name

2006-12-06 04:59:09 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Christmas ideas for hubby??? I need help?
I want to get hubby something really good this year. HAHA He had a tumor earlier last year and it came back. He's had surgery and is back to work. But-- last year we were soo $$ pinched, that we did for the kids and that's it. He loves golf~ he has a new golf bag and new clubs. ( i don't wanna do anything like that b/c its winter and he can't really enjoy it) He is really into sports, and stuff. Should i do like a subscription to sports illustrated or anything? IF you were a guy what would you like for christmas from your wife?
He's got ps2 and nintendo3 all that stuff, i don't really want to do something that way. THANKS SO MUCH!!!

2006-12-06 04:59:01 · 7 answers · asked by Brook 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

well we found out that some people on a school trip where stealing from walt disney world. when they were cought and thrown out of the park my two best friends felt sorry for them and since i did not feel sorry for them (because they were the ones that stole they brought it on them selves.!) well my friends won't speak to me now because they think that i was in compasionate. What am I to do?

2006-12-06 04:57:58 · 10 answers · asked by miss.priss 2 in Friends