Etiquette - July 2007

I live in a loud apt complex and am woken up at least several times a month at 3am and I don't know what else to do, aside from moving out.

I also try to approach the noisy parties first and ask them if they can keep it down, but it hasn't seemed to work. When it's happened again, I had no other choice but to complain to the landlord. After the 3rd time this happened, I called the police (but I don't want to keep bothering them). Anyone else have any other ideas (aside from moving) out next time this happens?

2007-07-13 02:14:58 · 9 answers · asked by Jennifer360 2

Women and Girls began gobbing and spitting in public the way males do?

2007-07-13 00:34:18 · 22 answers · asked by proud walker 7

A while back, there were a lot of threads on YA about poor tipping among blacks. I am black. I go to a lot of restaurants. My friends and I always tip 20%. So, I was shocked to read the comments on YA, b/c I never knew it was a real issue.

I even discussed the matter with my friends, who then swapped embarrassing stories of dining with cheap relatives and co-workers. And that made me more curious about the topic.

Well, last weekend I decided to do my own research. After eating dinner and paying the bill, I very diplomatically asked the waiter if he found that African-Americans tend to tip less. He (also very diplomatically) said yes, and it prompted a brief and good discussion.

I appreciated the waiter's frankness and honesty, but I got mixed reactions from my friends for what I did. One friend was so mortified that he left the table to wait outside.

Even though it's a little awkward, I want to ask more waiters this question. Do you think it's okay or inappropriate?

2007-07-13 00:00:49 · 16 answers · asked by ballewmar 4

2007-07-12 23:46:23 · 26 answers · asked by Johnny Mandeville 2

1) We can't take care our elders
2) We are neglecting our children
3) We don't want to take care of our sick if they don't have medical insurance
4) I am not sure whether we have any moral and values any more
5) We don't have any respect for our intellectuals except for those self centered, greedy rich and bankers
6) No compassion, passion & care for other human beings. Where ever you go it is "me, me, me...
7) It is only your money not your education, manner, character or humanity what matters here in America
8) No body care how you get it, it is how much have what every body see..
9) To the most part kindness, politness and honesty is considred as a weakness or as a foolishness
10) You don't get job because you have BA, MA/MS, Phd or Scientist, you get it if you are affilated with powerful political organization like Rebuplican... , what is going on my fellow Americans?

2007-07-12 22:18:20 · 7 answers · asked by LMiserab 3

2007-07-12 21:11:19 · 12 answers · asked by wyzeguy82 2

There is this woman at work,who doesnt like me,she is having an affair with a married man there and she is married herself. I think she is jealous of me,i dont know. She always gives me dirty looks and belittles me infront of other people,what should i do?

2007-07-12 21:08:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

really...i think it's obvious he wasn't interested in helping anybody, just wanted to seem like an authority figure here: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AtLbOETfCc.vywEJ3aDDH74jzKIX?qid=20070711095241AAwxn7K
lemme know what you think

2007-07-12 17:41:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-12 16:38:54 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-12 16:18:56 · 15 answers · asked by tracyterry 3

I was wondering if anyone believes that a doctor should or should not offer credit to their patients.

2007-07-12 15:59:39 · 8 answers · asked by webbs301 2

what's the best way to deal with chatty teenage girls in the theater? should I just tell them to shut up or ignore it?

2007-07-12 15:43:55 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been working with Dave for the past 5 months. Recently, I moved into Dave's office for the past 3 weeks. My job has taken a load off of Dave. Dave is leaving his job. We have known this for the past 2 months.
Dave is a white male. Before Dave, Steve was doing the job and he is a white male. Before Steve, Jim was doing the job and he is a white male.

Now, they have hired John to fill Dave's job. John is a black male. I just met him yesterday. We are sharing the same office together. I like John, he is nice.

Today, I chatted with my supervisor, Bob. Bob is jewish male.
Bob is the first person to say this to me:

"Are you getting along with John. Now that you and John are sharing the same office room. John seems like a nice guy?"

Bob never asked me this before about Dave? I did not say anything negative about Dave.

Found it weird that Bob asked me about John.

What is your take? Why do you think Bob asked me about John? I think it was racially motivated.

2007-07-12 14:42:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

To make a long story short, my sister (who lives in a different state) became engaged on New Years and the wedding is in October. Shortly after, she started planning the wedding. She has had her bridesmaids picked out for some time now and I was offended that, being her only sister, I was not asked. Well I believe that word got back to her that my feelings were hurt and NOW she has asked me to be a bridesmaid. After some thinking about it, I declined because I just figured if she really wanted me in the first place, she should have asked.... Am I being rude???

2007-07-12 14:28:42 · 26 answers · asked by hotblonde1305 2

I'm 16 and have not yet had a Bat Mitzvah. Is it better to have a late bat mitzvah at 16 or 17 than not to have one at all? I feel terrible and embarrassed about not having had one yet, but I really want to be bat mitzvahed and I know I'll regret not doing it.

2007-07-12 14:04:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't mind helping my neighbors out at all, but I am worried because this puppy takes a piss on everything...the floors, the steps, me...everything! I feel bad about saying that I cannot do this, but I also don't think it would be a good idea especially because I have to go to work during the days and the puppy would often be home alone in an unfamiliar flat. It's only for just a bit over a week, but it still may be a bad idea.

Last year, I had to babysit the neighbor boy's Furbies too. They were the exact same way with pissing all over everything...the floors, the steps, me...everything! I ended up blindfolding one and dropping it off somewhere and cooking the other one. I told the boy that his Furbies were kidnapped...

I don't need a repeat of last summer! Eh, it would be worse instead because last summer it was just the Furbies. This summer it is the Furbies plus a puppy, but it's hard to say 'no' when someone asks for help...

2007-07-12 13:17:24 · 21 answers · asked by aanstalokaniskiodov_nikolai 5

2007-07-12 13:05:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

our office is planning to throw a surprise groom wedding shower for our male co-worker. is it appropriate to invite co-workers from the company the groom is aquainted with not knowing if they are inviting any of the co-workers to the wedding? will we be putting pressure on the couple to invite co-workers to their wedding?

2007-07-12 12:57:45 · 6 answers · asked by queenbrb 1

God Bless You or Gesundheit when you sneeze? Or do you prefer no response at all?

2007-07-12 12:51:42 · 9 answers · asked by Pryva D 3

I think it is the rudest thing for people to stare. Yeah, I am talking to you. You know who you are ! Do you have a problem or what?

2007-07-12 12:28:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay, okay, I'm just being sarcastic on that one. I wouldn't really hit her with a shovel. But she IS getting under my skin. Here's how.

Basically, she acts like I am some kind of degenerate unworthy of being in her family. (She didn't even come to my and my wife's wedding). Every time she calls the house and I answer, she'll say, "Can I speak to my daughter please?" Not "Hello Jon, how are you today?" or even a freaking "Hi" or "Hello," just a "Can I speak to my daughter please?" spoken in a polite, but chilly tone of voice.

Another thing: When she comes over, she really likes to talk about my wife's exes. In fact, when she was over this past Saturday, she said to my wife---with me sitting right there in the room---"You know, honey, I was at the store yesterday, and I ran into Mike." (Mike's the ex she dated before meeting me). "He looked so nice. Tell me again, why did the two of you break up? He was such a good catch."

2007-07-12 12:13:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Normally, I go to lunch with my co-workers.

One of my co-workers and I have been sent off-site for training. When lunch time comes around, we've been going to grab a bite together as we would if we were in the office. The only difference, in this case, is that the training location doesn't have a cafeteria so we have to go to local restaurants.

I am a male, and my co-worker is a female. We are both married.

Is it inappropriate to go to lunch together?

2007-07-12 10:52:36 · 15 answers · asked by Chris B 3

2007-07-12 10:12:24 · 34 answers · asked by Thia 6

2007-07-12 08:49:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

my names are bright fushia........will they care?

2007-07-12 08:47:35 · 17 answers · asked by jellybeanqueen 3

Is there a difference between misspoke and lie? Like yesterday, my doctor asked me if I exercised, and I said yes, I "cycle everyday". He repeated back "everyday" to me and I said "ok, let me clarify, I exercise the majority of days". Which is true.

I blushed though and felt bad. Did I lie to my doctor?

If you correct yourself, is it a lie?

2007-07-12 08:15:06 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

ie. a man and a women would you stop to help calm it down or walk by and not get involved

2007-07-12 07:04:00 · 33 answers · asked by silvernightthorn 2

I have a coworker that gets away with anything she wants. For example, today she casually strolled in to the office at 11am. WTF? We are customer service and we are supposed to be here no later than 7am.

That's not the half of it though.....she wears VERY promiscuous clothing (not professional at all). She wears no bras (to turn on herself in front of the guys), her daughter's shirts (she is 40, her daughter is 18), she talks about her rauncy sex life, and is overall lazy.

I don't understand how she continues to have a job? My boss is aware of all of this yet does nothing. We can't go to his boss, because he boss doesn't work here and he doesn't deal with problems this far down the food chain.

Something has got to give. I get so discouraged from being a good employee when I see her acting this way and yet no punishment.

What can I do? I cannot ignore it.

2007-07-12 06:44:01 · 8 answers · asked by Mary A 4

That is sick, and it does not make them feel equal at all. I would never do such a thing.

2007-07-12 06:19:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

a big ole loogy ?

2007-07-12 06:18:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous