Is this bullying?

Question

There is this woman at work,who doesnt like me,she is having an affair with a married man there and she is married herself. I think she is jealous of me,i dont know. She always gives me dirty looks and belittles me infront of other people,what should i do?

Answer 1

Yes that is bullying, maybe she sees you as a threat. Tell her husband what a cheating wife he's got. Also put a complaint in about her higher up...firstly about how she is treating you and if the guy she is seeing is from your job report that too, as they hate relationships at work!! I lost a job over that!

Answer 2

You mean in your whole life, you've never had to deal with an asshole? Ever? Wow. And then you ask strangers to help with 2 sentences of background. If I were you I'd crawl under a desk and cry about not having interacted with people enough to know what to do in a somewhat common situation.

Seriously, just be a ***** back. Carry yourself in a way that commands respect and you'll get it. Don't take ****. I wouldn't bring up the affair if either of the two have any influence in your job, or even if everyone found out and they were the talk around the water cooler for a week or so, you could be the one fired or regularly picked for unnecessary tedious jobs or come outside to a car with slashed tires everyday. Maybe she hates you because you've been telling everyone they're having an affair when it's not your business and you have no real proof? Just a guess.

Answer 3

If she is caught up in marriage relationships then clearly she is a sad person with no self esteem. Ignore her and be glad that your not having to stoop to her level to enjoy life.

If you feel bullied then leave an anonymous letter on her desk - makes sure its typed so she can't recognise the hand writing and tell her in the letter that several people are aware of her affair and intend on telling her husband and her boyfriends wife. This will put the S&%$ up her enough that she should back right off! If you feel bullied chances are others do too.

Answer 4

Ignore her. That is the best thing to do.
Do your job properly...after some time, you will have your co-workers sympathy....you will have someone to crib about.

And don't ruin her affair...her husband would eventually find out. Just consider that she is not important enough for you to think about what she has said, hence won't do anything negative against her.

...Remember one thing...when a dog barks at you...you don't bark back ; )

Answer 5

It definitely sounds like a case of jealousy to me. I would be coming out and saying next time she tries to belittle you "Having a bad day are we"?, but at the same time saying it so nicely to her. Or you could say " Burning the candle at both ends, changes ones personality". Good luck anyway.

Answer 6

She has more issues wih herself than she does with you. I'd just ignore her, live your life, have fun. She's obviously jealous of happy people because she's so unhappy since she's a lying, dirty cheat.

Answer 7

You might want to sit down with her,offer her a drink,ask her what's wrong and settle the problem.Don't even think about announcing her affair.It's her personal affair,let her deal with it.

Answer 8

tell the married man's wife and the married woman's husband then get them all together in a place and you can see them at each other throats.

Answer 9

Tke it cool! if you retaliate then she would be happy as she wants to anoy you, and so try to show how cool u are the time will judge her. And u know sometimes silence is better than utterance.

Answer 10

Tell her husband about her affair