2007-07-12 23:46:23 · 26 answers · asked by Johnny Mandeville 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Ask yourself, and be frank, is she sleeping here, or does she live here? If the answer is living here, and using the toilet paper and the soap and whatever else without coughing up money for it., I'd have a sit down heart to heart with the roommate, and say, " you know, she is here 6 of the seven days of the week, she is living here, and doesn't pay for a thing, not rent, not utilities, not the phone, and she showers and eats here, too. She uses the supplies I have bought for myself. Forgive me for pointing out that I am feeling a little used here. She isn't my gf, so tell me why I am paying for her to live here?" Try to keep the critisism out of your voice, you are just asking. Listen to the string of excuses that will doubtless follow your question, and make your decision: she stays and you are OK, or she goes, or you go, or they both go. Or you start seeing money.
And next roommate you get, you will know not to trust anyone with living arrangements, and get it in writing first, no girlfriends, or money is expected to be forth coming. So many people here on Answers! have had this problem, it is very common, I shouldn't be surprised to find how many people are out there that take advantage of a roommate situation. When I acquired my first place, that was the first question from a friend. "Are you going to get a roommate?" "No, I'm not, I never will. Too much trouble." And I never have. I knew by her question, she had someone in mind, the buzzards were already circling, LOL.
People, I don't care if the roommate is your best buddy, a stranger, or somewhere in between. Get a lease signed before the roomie moves in. Cover things like non-payment of the other person's share, utilities, girlfriends, etc. It may seem trivial and petty, but after the gf moves in, it can be a really long, sleepless, loud, messy, and expensive thing. Red flag: someone does not want to sign a lease. Translation: my gf is waiting in the wings for me to move in, so she can move in for free.
Good luck, hope this helps.
2007-07-13 00:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
you need to talk to your roomate about that. if you feel she's causing an increased energy bill, you should talk to him about them paying 2/3 of the bill. but she's only there when he is, the bill probably hasn't gone up has it? if he had a different woman there 6 days a week, you wouldn't expect him to pay more, so why because its 1?
2007-07-13 10:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by twosey ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Actually, this is an important issue. She's taking up your bathroom space, eating out of the refrigerator, etc.etc. - and not only is she not helping with the bills, but she's probably maintaining her own place as well. Not good economics.
Speak with both your roommate and his girlfriend - in a non-threatening way. Explain that you're happy for them - that they've found such a good match for each other.
And then broach the issue of adjusting the lease and utilities to either include her or exclude the both of them (they may want to move to her apartment).
They may be offended - but stick gently to your guns and insist that some compromise be reached. It's truly not fair of your roommate to expect you to pay for his girlfriend.
2007-07-13 08:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Six days a week is more like living there. I'd get all expenses divided by three instead of just two. Your helping to keep her the way things are right now.
2007-07-13 09:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That depends, is she using a lot of extra electricity or eating everyone else`s food? Is she helping to keep the place clean or helping out in other areas? Maybe it is time to discuss with your roommate about moving out with his girlfriend so they can have a bit more privacy.
2007-07-13 07:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by Smiley 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Anyone who stays at an apartment 6 days a week is not a guest, she's a renter and needs to pony up and put in her fair share on everything.
2007-07-13 06:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by Debra D 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I do not think helping with the light bill is going to help all that much will it? face it she lives there...somethings come to mind..
does she clean up the place? does she cook and perhaps bring groceries ? is she good company ?
-- if not shes a free loader --
If you are going to say something, it should be to her b/f..but prepare yourself, you might place yourself into a triangle situation...meaning them against you...and, eventually they will move out..
2007-07-13 10:04:23 · answer #7 · answered by Winters child 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your room mate about it.... if she is practically living there (eating, showering, ect.) then yeah she should be helping out. However if she is just hanging around for a few hours a day while he is home then no.
2007-07-13 08:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah! She's living there 6 days a week, why not ask her for some rent money as well?
2007-07-13 06:56:43 · answer #9 · answered by konstipashen 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It depends
if she just hangs out there six days a week, then yeah, it's tacky
if she has her stuff there, she sleeps there, and basically lives there, then go through your roommate, but make sure she's helping out
2007-07-13 06:51:57 · answer #10 · answered by jcaded2007 2 · 10⤊ 0⤋