I ran into someone on the street today, and he asked me for directions. His was angry that the directions he had been given were wrong, and volunteered the information that he didn't have time to waste. He has inoperable pancreatic cancer, and has about two months to live. I said "well that's never nice to hear", and gave him proper directions. As he crossed the street I said "take care" and he said "I haven't got much longer anyway".
Now, I don't know that person, but it brought me back to when a close relative was dying of cancer, and we'd visit her in pallitive care. I didn't quite know what to say to her either.
So what is appropriate to say when someone is dying? They know they are going soon, so there's really no "cheering up" to be done. No "get well" cards, no plans for the future. I wrote my relative a card, and told her that once she left she would be as she was before getting sick. Other family members said it was a sad card....well what should I have said?
2006-11-10
05:58:00
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Nikki
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