Is it OK for someone to ask someone else to rewrite a check from 3 years ago?

Question

I just recently found a couple of checks that my in-law wrote for our anniversary and for Christmas, I asked my husband to see if his dad would rewrite the checks and he said that it isn't proper to ask someone to do that.
He is in his late 50's and from the east coast, I am in my early 40's and from the west coast.

Answer 1

I think it is improper to ask for it after all this time. You should have cashed or deposited them when they were written. At that time they were prepared for the money to come out of their account. You have no idea what their financial status is at this time and it's unfair to ask them. At this time it could look like you just want their money. Even if that is the only reason it's still inappropriate.

Answer 2

It really isn't a good idea to ask them to rewrite the checks. It's hard to say what their financial status is at this time and it may be significantly different than the time the checks were written. Another reason is that it may make them feel like the gift wasn't appreciated since they weren't cashed or deposited. They may have noticed that the checks (on their statements) were not cashed. You could call them and tell them that you found the checks from long ago and still appreciate their thoughtfulness. I hope this helps!

Answer 3

I am surprised that they did not mention to you the check was not cashed earlier. They are not strangers! Doesn't everyone monitor their open checks to balance their accounts? No matter what coast they live on. If they never mentioned it, obviously after a point they counted on you not cashing them, or to this day they will be reminded of their not being cashed by still having this money floating around in their checking account. I say don't ask if they never asked. The money is basically gone.

Answer 4

After 3-4 years it would be effective. as quickly as I joined the AF i grew to become into informed in basic terms tickets in the final 3 hundred and sixty 5 days had to be stated. I had a dashing value tag from 3 years previously, (nevertheless it did not truthfully go on my checklist, driving college.) it in no way truthfully brought about a issue and that they checked each and every thing for me, because of the fact I had to have a extreme protection clearence.

Answer 5

It's really not nice, it's tacky. It puts people on the spot and they would feel forced to rewrite them even if they couldn't afford it now. Think of it this way, it would be like telling someone to hold onto a gift until you felt like taking it. I agree with your husband on this.
(I'm from the East Coast)

Answer 6

Seems funny your in-laws never asked why you didn't cash their checks. Doesn't matter how old you are, or where your from.
I'd let them know you found the checks and let them offer to write new ones. You may never get another check as a gift if you never thanked them.

Answer 7

I don't think it is proper now. Like, when they wrote them their financial conditions might have been different. Also , I wouldn't do that, cos I don't want to look like a cheapskate,

But if you are going to ask, why not go all the way and ask for 7% interest as well?

Answer 8

first of all ;it is mostly rude if you now ask to have others checks to be written , it was a gift and you did not cash it , it is the same as refusing their gift ;
therefore , no ,you cannot ask them for another check
sorry ,etiquette says # NO #

Answer 9

That would be rude to ask. One thing you could do is apologize for losing the checks and messing up their checkbook and maybe, just maybe they will offer to give you a new one.

Answer 10

No, it's not proper. You in-law has balanced his book since then and this would be like a new expense.