Or is a paper card more appropriate? And: do you send "thank you" notes to the hosts' home, or will one person's email account suffice?
2006-11-10 02:32:03 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I don't know about you, but I get really excited whenever I get something other than a bill or junk in my mail. Even if you are really close friends with someone, I think it's always nice to send a thank you card in the mail. I think that sending things like thank you's via email is still uncharted waters and may not be appreciated by some people. They went through the effort of inviting you to the meal and cooking, etc. so the least you could do is spend the extra couple minutes writing out a card. I just think that email is much too informal in impersonal.
2006-11-10 04:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by brainy_blonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would really depend on the individual, some find it very tacky to send an email, others do not mind. So really you need to know the personality of the individual. I personally, would not mind the email, it is the thought that counts and the fact that they took a minute to be polite and gracious. If you choose to send by way of snail mail, send to the host/hostess home address. Good luck and God bless
2006-11-10 02:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on the type of person your host is. The goal of etiquette is putting the other person at ease, so I believe that true etiquette takes into consideration the type of person you are interacting with, their values and comfort ranges.
A younger generation (up to the age of 50 ish), laid back person who regularly communicates by email & who isn't very focused on the traditional details of etiquette in their own personal life will be impressed by a thank you via email. This is the person who sends e-cards for their friends birthdays / other occasions, and who did NOT send you a printed invitation to a formal dinner - but perhaps made the invitation by phone or email. This person would find a paper "thank you", sent by mail, to be far too formal and might be a little uncomfortable receiving it.
An older generation (55 or older) person who enjoys hosting a more formal dinner (which you would be expected to dress up for & who sent a printed invitation to you) and following traditional etiquette rules would be dissapointed by an email "thank you" and would really enjoy receiving a paper "thank you" sent by mail.
2006-11-10 02:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by steve d 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think it will be more approapriate and in your best inerest if you send a paper card expressing your gratitude. I mean an email is also a nice way, and is surely better than nothing at all, but in my opinion it's a bit impersonal. A card lets the person know how much you appreciated being invited, and that you had an enjoyable time.
Send the card- the person will really appreciate it.
2006-11-10 05:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by laska 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it depends on the person... if its a girlfriends parents, then i think a papernote is way better than an email..
if its a first time date.. a cute email is sooo sufficient.. make sure u add color to it if u can...
if its a girlfriend, an invite to ur place for the next one is great..
and if its a guys parents... u should have bought a gift to them to begin with...
it depends a lot on the age... but i think that a phone call if u basically know the person is sufficent... and i think that an email if its someone u know very welly and they are of the same age as u... member to always respect ur elders... so the older they are, the better the thank you should be...
2006-11-10 02:39:08 · answer #5 · answered by red.one9luv 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Usually a paper letter is more personal, but nowadays most people don't even take the time to do that. So if you don't choose the paper thank you note, an e-mail would be nicer than nothing.
2006-11-10 02:35:54 · answer #6 · answered by sim_maroon 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on how formal the relationship is. The more formal it is, the more you should consider "snail mail". If it is less formal, and the invitation came through email, I would think you could send thanks through email.
These are uncharted waters in this modern world, so the above is simply my opinion. I personally save all personal correspondence in my email, but do NOT do so with snail mail small things like thank you notes, if that holds any bearing on your decision.
2006-11-10 02:34:47 · answer #7 · answered by finaldx 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It would be so impersonal to go by email IF THE OTHER PERSON was materialistic!
Email is 100% safe. Hell, it's the way of the future. Save a tree right? LOL.
Anyway, yes email is just as good. If your dinner host gets upset that you didn't send it on paper instead, they are materialistic and immature.
A thanks should be appreciated not matter how it is given.
2006-11-10 02:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by Joshua4F1 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on your host. Some people are more email-friendly than others. Personally, I always use paper notes in the mail for such cards. People are always thrilled and it doesn't cost much or take much time.
2006-11-10 02:35:04 · answer #9 · answered by Tavita 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You send a written note to the hosts' home. An email is too informal.
2006-11-10 02:34:37 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋