Marriage & Divorce - 22 July 2007

We were talking about my brother and his wife and he constantly accuses his wife of cheating. I asked him if he would be forgiving if he knew that I cheated on him and he said that he wouldnt waste his time fighting with me or the other guy, he would just leave. Weve been together for 17 years and married for 13. I recently had been cheating on my husband. I ended that relationship with the guy and my husband doesnt know anything about it. I look at him everyday and it eats me up that I cheated and I want to tell him,but my heart and something inside tells me not to say anything. I made a huge mistake with this other guy and I broke it off with him.. Should I get it off my chest and tell him or leave it alone.. What would you do?

2007-07-22 11:36:34 · 16 answers · asked by its not that serious 2

2007-07-22 11:30:49 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

OK, here goes......
Two years ago I found out that my husband was having an emotional affair. There was no sex involved(that I know about). But there was sharing of deep personal things and betrayal and lies, etc. He has asked my forgiveness and claims it has been ended. I am having a hard time trusting him again.
The real problem lies with me. Before this happened, I thought we had the perfect marriage and family. I was content to be a wife and mother. I dressed like a mom. I always wore makeup and looked nice. Now, I have this urge to be sexy and wild. I lost 45lbs. (I wasn't even fat to begin with) I got two tattoos. I bought clothes like I wore in highschool. (short skirts, tube tops etc.) I want to be wild and care free. I want guys to want me. I feel like I am caught between two worlds. I don't know what is wrong with me. I'The woman involved in my husbands affair was the type of woman I feel like I am attempting to be.(sexy dressing, flirtacious and wild). Any thoughts?

2007-07-22 11:30:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-22 11:28:05 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My marriage of 2 years is so much in trouble. from the day one, we had so much conflicts and I wanted to divorce him anytime. But somehow, as I was a child of divorce, I tried to put up with the situation and work things out. Unfortunately the problems have not been resolved and we don't even talk now. In between, I got pregnant and I have a 2 month old daughter now. I just can't put up with my hubby anymore, and I'm preparing myself for divorce in a couple of years time, when my child is 2-3 years, and I have time to find a job to support us. But I don't know, if I should bring her up in a 2 parent relationship where she would see her parents not talking or with no intimacy, even as much as we try to hide it, ,,, or a divorce with one happy parent is a better option. What happens to her? Is she gonna hate me if I get divorce? Is she gonna be an unhappy child just for this?,, what if for any reason, I couldn't follow my dreams of being the perfect mom for her and become unhappier?

2007-07-22 11:26:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why is it when your married theirs nothing that says you have to send your children to college, but when you divorce the courts make you send your kids to college?

2007-07-22 11:26:23 · 8 answers · asked by keithm_1 1

I have a customer that often makes strange sexual remarks pertaining to an employee I have (he's only 18) the customer is about 32 or so. Every time I talk with this lady about work she has comments about this employee and just how sexy and hot he is and how if she wasn't married she'd do X & Y...you get my drift. Well all of us look good when we are 18 or 19. I just think it's kinda weird, I've had lots of customers over the 20 years I've been in business but none like this. In addition this customer is married and has a small child! Should I drop this customer? She's flirty with me as well but I'm pretty much mentally married thus it doesn't matter...the account pays great, she sometimes overpays, but to me money isn't everything and I have tons of business. Drop the account or not???

2007-07-22 11:19:25 · 10 answers · asked by charlie m 3

Ms. stands for....I know Mrs. =a married women and Miss= single women. The only conclusion I could come up with was that Ms. stands for a divorced women whom has not re-married. If anyone knows I'd love to hear from ya. Thank you.

2007-07-22 11:17:14 · 11 answers · asked by UlickNme 2

He is so wonderful, gorgeous and brilliant. What would I ever do without him. He completes me. Before him, I was a shell of a person, now I am so much more because of my wonderful husband. Oh my, how lucky am I....No man on the planet is as wonderful.

2007-07-22 11:16:19 · 20 answers · asked by 2fine4u 6

2007-07-22 11:16:08 · 4 answers · asked by ~*Redbutterfly*~ 1

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Husband is incarcerated. We have not been together for 15 years. I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years and we want to get married.
I have not had the money for the divorce up until now.
Can anyone please tell me how I go about starting this process?
I live in texas if that matters...thank you very much!

2007-07-22 11:14:18 · 6 answers · asked by Amy M. 1

quick history: i am 38 widowed with a 10 yr old son.who lives with me.....her no kids never married till now for a yr to me she is with child due march 2008... we are renting atm and looking to buy a house... my question is there a way i can lock my son into 1/2 the house if i die so she cant write him off.?.if so who do i talk to? and when? while buying ?before we talk to a realtor? she is very aware of this and how i feel...You hope you marry someone who will do the right thing but it does happen...( i dont think she is this way)....if i have to leave the house to her is there a ironclad contract that we can sign saying she will not cut my son out...i already have a 250,000 life insureance for him and 500,000 for her... all i what to do is make sure my son gets his share after i am gone.. when the baby is born i will open up a 250000 life insureance for her/him.....

2007-07-22 11:09:02 · 8 answers · asked by cpljdog 4

with all these finding about underachievment in single parent children and a pole shown on the BBC news the other day that children would rather the few upsets that happen in the family and wouldnt have it split for the world when should you call it a day ?

2007-07-22 11:08:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am looking for someone to answer my question that has gotten married by a J.P. I am wanting to know if there is any other costs besides paying for the marriage license.

2007-07-22 11:06:56 · 12 answers · asked by camilliam19 3

My husband cheated on me and I left. We have been apart for 7 months. We worked things out and just got back together a month ago. I can not have kids and we have tryed for 4 years. We both just found out she is having his baby. She has signed over all right to the baby and doesnt want anything to do with it. Should I stay or go?

2007-07-22 11:05:47 · 16 answers · asked by k f 1

2007-07-22 11:04:38 · 14 answers · asked by Sandra H 1

First of all, she left me in Jan 97. 4 years earlier, I was a jerk and hurt her feelings. I didn't cheat on her, I was just insensitive. Anyway, she dated a few people and then started seeing a guy from work. She started sleeping with him but would never tell me until I had positive proof a couple of months later. She was ready for the divorce then. She would call me and tell me everything they did until I asked her not to call me anymore.
She got out of her lease and moved in with him in June a few years ago. On Christmas Day she said she made the biggest mistake and wanted to come home and work on our relationship. I took her back out of revenge just to see her walk out on him on Christmas day. Ihad lost all love for her since I chased her for several months to no avail.
She seems truly sorry but hasn't done the little things for me she told me she did for him. We have been back together for some time now but I still have issues with it. We are in counseling. How do you recover?

2007-07-22 10:55:55 · 10 answers · asked by Bobby 2

Alright my cousin is 19 yrs old basically like a little sister to me and she even babysits my kids sometimes.She fell hard for her first bf senior year he became her first well you get the picture.They got enagged but he broke up with her after the first semester of college for another girl and this has torn my cousin up.Now this guy has come back he still has the same gf though and wants a fling with my cousin.She recently told me she is going along with this to get pregnant so he will want to marry her?She is comparing her situation with what happen with my husband and i.Which is very rare I got pregnant by accident during a fling but my man and i would get together for 4.5-5yrs.Because 3 months after my son was born my man was in a car accident that left him almost paralyzed for almost 2 yrs.I helped to care for him during that time but after he recoved we both saw other people for a while before getting back together and marrying.How do i convince her my situation is not hers?

2007-07-22 10:54:39 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'd like child support modification...?
My income has dramatically changed. From $50 per hour, to $14 an hour due to circumstances beyond my control. My child support is $325 per week (3 kids), my pay is $560. I have the kids 3 nights a week, so it is greater than 40%. I live in Florida. Any suggestions? I want to get an attorney and get it modified. I can hardly make ends meet. Kids are 16, 15, 12. She has since remarried, as have I. As I struggle, they are planning a large addition to the house...

2007-07-22 10:49:30 · 11 answers · asked by Smith S 2

I am a child of divorce, my mother and father split when I was in the sixth grade. While they were together there was a lot of stress in the house and some stuff not worth mentioning. But life has gotten better since the divorce. I can't remember any good things about my dad hardly but I remember every bad thing. So my question is, were you as the child of the divorce happy before and afterwards, what was the case in your situation. If you don't mind me asking.

2007-07-22 10:45:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

are they a good idea in a realationship?

2007-07-22 10:09:51 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok so my ex is suppose to see our child on a certain day of each week...he is always a jerk to me when he calls...and last week he wanted me to meet him somewhere to see his child because he didnt have the money to come out...and i told him if he was goign to treat me like that and call me names then im not going to do him a favor like that...and so he ended up not coming...well that day of the week is coming around again...so should I call him and ask if he's coming? or wait to see if he shows up? what should i do? what's the easiest way to deal with this? I have full custody of the child...and he has to see her under my supervision, as it's stated in the courts. please help me. thank you

2007-07-22 09:56:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-22 09:54:04 · 17 answers · asked by dina197520022000 2

well to make a long story short we have no kids together we moved from san diego to salinas and i am injured from work have been since april 06.i have carpell tunnel in both my wrists and a back injury,i also have no family or friends,so its not like i can go to anyone for help.i have tried to go to shelters and they only accept women with kids and for the other i can only be there 1 month.he is very mean and i want to leave but with my injury i cannot do much.it even hurts to drive,bathe,etc...im living with his mother and she is tired of his ways as well.i do not know what to do because i am in a bad spot with not being able to just move cause i would have to replace my doctor get a new lawyer etc.its a tough situation cause even if i left and tried to get a job society is not too good with the disabilty and to get a job with these injuries is nearly impossible.i am a trained cna but cannot do it with this.he is mean when he drinks and im sick of it,what do u suggest!

2007-07-22 09:52:05 · 31 answers · asked by swirl 2

I have told my husband that I can no longer with his negativity and bad attitude any more and it stresses me out. Also, he doesn't hardly show me affection except in bed. I have been talking to an old classmate for two years now. He had been trying to contact me for 32 years and had a crush on me in school. I know now that we had a physical attraction at first but now it has changed. I love him because of his good attitude. I tend to be negative but I am very positive around people who are positive. I worry about my health due to the stress from my husband's negativity. This man is also very smart and not afraid to say or show his feelings. He is also married to a negative person. We are constantly asking questions to make sure we are compatible. We plan on being together after his youngest graduates from high school. The hard part is whether we can live with the hurt it will cause our spouses and families. I don't want to live like this for the rest of my life.

2007-07-22 09:41:31 · 13 answers · asked by JJ 1

I know a lady who is leaving her husband because he is now disabled due to a violent attack, another who left her husband because he was dying and another because he had MS. Have peoples values changed and is all me me me

2007-07-22 09:07:27 · 24 answers · asked by Peter 4

My wife says she wants sex more often but RARELY does anything to let me know. I am completely turned off by women who are sexually passive so I find it hard to initiate 80-100% of the time and still be attracted to her. I can easily do 50-60%

Also, her body language and mannerisms repel sexual advances. She finds that men do not respond to her sexually. I think this is affecting her work and personal life. 90% of what we say is in our body language but she won't hear it. She insists that she 'is who she is'. That sounds like a cop-out. People change and grow every day.

I don't mind if she doesn't use body language to look attractive or to attract me, but I can't take her demanding that I and other men respond as if she is, when she isn't.

Do all women expect results from nothing?

I personally don't care if we have sex again... But I don't want to be scolded for not thinking mediocre is wonderful. If you want to be considered wonderful, then BE wonderful... no?

2007-07-22 08:21:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've told her to ask for a raise, but she says she just got one two months ago and asking for another one would not be prudent. I have suggested that she take on a second job in the evening to supplement the income, that I would be willing to sacrifice that extra time with her for some financial security, but all she can say to this is that she needs her rest. How can I get her off my back and convince her to be less selfish? I've told her she should have worked harder in college so she could have gotten a better carreer and she acts like I am some kind of a**hole. Please help.

2007-07-22 08:01:22 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-22 07:53:02 · 26 answers · asked by loulo 2

I am 16 and my boyfriend is 18 and we want to get married when i turn 17 what state will let us get married WITH OUT parent consent!?

2007-07-22 07:49:21 · 5 answers · asked by roxysweetheart7 1