My marriage of 2 years is so much in trouble. from the day one, we had so much conflicts and I wanted to divorce him anytime. But somehow, as I was a child of divorce, I tried to put up with the situation and work things out. Unfortunately the problems have not been resolved and we don't even talk now. In between, I got pregnant and I have a 2 month old daughter now. I just can't put up with my hubby anymore, and I'm preparing myself for divorce in a couple of years time, when my child is 2-3 years, and I have time to find a job to support us. But I don't know, if I should bring her up in a 2 parent relationship where she would see her parents not talking or with no intimacy, even as much as we try to hide it, ,,, or a divorce with one happy parent is a better option. What happens to her? Is she gonna hate me if I get divorce? Is she gonna be an unhappy child just for this?,, what if for any reason, I couldn't follow my dreams of being the perfect mom for her and become unhappier?
2007-07-22 11:26:27 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She will cry. Stay married for the sake of your child. Love isn't everything. Some days will be better than others. you must learn to take the good with the bad. nobody is perfect in this world. we all have our fair share of faults. People need to learn how to forgive each other and move on from the past. Try to love and stay together. Pray more and ask God to help you.
2007-07-22 16:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a few questions...
1. WHY did you marry this guy when you KNEW before you walked down the aisle that there were problems (don't tell me you didn't know that....you said you wanted to divorce him as soon as you got married, which means there were problems BEFORE the wedding).
2. If you detest this person SOOOO much, how on earth did you get pregnant? If you aren't speaking why are you screwing?????
3. Why on God's green earth would you bring an innocent child into a dysfunctional marriage?????????????????
4. Why haven't you been working??? And why are you "waiting" 2 or 3 years if it's so freaking bad????
My guess is that you married this guy for MONEY and now you're thinking that hey, I had his kid and I'll wait a few years and I'll get a nice bundle of cash every month....
Pretty pathetic.
2007-07-22 18:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
" I couldn't follow my dreams of being the perfect mom for her and become unhappier?" Number one, your dream is totally unrealistic. There are NO perfect mother's on this planet because mother's are only human and there are NO perfect humans on this planet. So you will NEVER be happy if you persue this unrealistic fantasy of being the perfect mom and neither will your child. Obviously you were too young and immature to get married and have a child to begin with otherwise you wouldn't be living in a fantasy. You need to get your head out of the clouds and your feet on the ground and face reality. If you divorce you will not be the only parent in her life. She will STILL have a father, YOU just won't have a husband. You're not going to be able to take your daughter away from her father completely and go off and live in your "perfect" fantasy world. the courts will have something to say about that and if you don't get yourself into reality her father could wind up with your daughter because living in fantasly land can put you into a psych ward where you won't even get to see your daughter. You need to grow up for your daughter's sake and do it fast.
2007-07-22 21:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is to young ,under5 to understand.you need to move on as soon as you can,and work out alot of time for her dad to see her.dont go for just every other weekend,shell need more then that.within time if you try you and her dad will learn how to talk instead of fighting and thats what she needs.she will see the coldness between the two of you if you stayed together and that is harder on her then a seperated family.
2007-07-22 18:45:28 · answer #4 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do what is going to make you happy. If you end up happy then chances are you daughter will end up have a better life then living withsome one who is miserable.
you can make anyone else happy unless yourself is happy first.
2007-07-22 18:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by C C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's best to have her an you in some calm growing up in conflict an temper is not good.It's best to be alone an be alone than to be with someone an be alone??
2007-07-22 18:33:33 · answer #6 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your marriage was doomed from the start and inbetween you both conceieved a child? I'm lost here.is the sex that importnant? why did you have a kid with him? deal with your problem.
2007-07-22 19:14:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋