My wife's job isn't paying her enough and she wants me to start working?

Question

I've told her to ask for a raise, but she says she just got one two months ago and asking for another one would not be prudent. I have suggested that she take on a second job in the evening to supplement the income, that I would be willing to sacrifice that extra time with her for some financial security, but all she can say to this is that she needs her rest. How can I get her off my back and convince her to be less selfish? I've told her she should have worked harder in college so she could have gotten a better carreer and she acts like I am some kind of a**hole. Please help.

Watch how angry people get when a man asks this question.lol

Okay! Now same question, but the roles are reversed. My wife is the one at home. I work twelve hours a day. Who's the a**hole now?

Answer 1

damn dude! dump her and demand alimony in the divorce.no man should be going through what you are going through.

Answer 2

If you're not working then I suggest that you should get up off your lazy rear and get a job as well. Yes, you are being an a$$hole. If she just got a raise 2 months ago then she's not likely to get another one for at least 6 months. I have to side with your wife on this one. If you want more money coming in then you should be contributing to the income as well and get a job!

*Edit* Okay, with the roles reversed. I would have to say the same thing. If either spouse is the only one working, and the one not working is complaining about there not being enough money, don't make your spouse have to work harder just to support your lazy ****!

Answer 3

What do you do during the day? Do you help her around the house like cook, vaccum, laundy, wash dishes? If you don't do anything, then you are one lazy a**hole. Are you even looking for a job? Why should she get a second job while you're living the good life? Your wife works and you ma in-law provides for you. I sure hope you don't expect her to have sex with you. If I were her, I wouldn't. Not until you showed me a little respect. Don't you think she deserves some respect from you? I think you're the one being selfish.


If times are tough, then she should get a job instead of expecting you to bring in the money. Does she keep the house clean and your clothes clean? Regardless, she could find a part time job to help with the household expenses.
I'm all for women and men sharing and being responsible for maintaining the home.

Answer 4

Okay so if you are not working what are you doing? Instead of telling her to have workered harder in college maybe you need to start working. I agree with your wife...what do you do that is so important that you can not go and get a job! I am surprised she is still with you! Or I wouldn't be surprised that if you didn't get a job in the near future she will be leaving you for someone that has a job and can support her! You and her are in a relationship that is also a partnership! If she is asking you for help by asking you to get off your a** and get a job to help her out do it! No woman wants a man that can not take care of her and can not support her financially as he can emotionally! So get off your a** and get a job to help her out! Sacraficing time with her so that she can get a second job....please thats not a sacrafice thats laziness! I'm sure she would rather you get a job so that she can get her rest and work one job....really what do you do if you are not working! Argh this post is making me upset! I can't believe you would ask this stupid question!

Answer 5

My question to you is... What do you do all day to spend your time?

Obviously you don't work, because then you wouldn't be asking this questions.... But what do you do? I mean, I can understand if you are a stay-at-home dad, taking care of your kids.... But if they are old enough to take care of themselves, or OLD enough to be watched by a babysitter, what is your problem with getting some type of employment?

You're wife seems to be working herself hard...she's the sole provider of your household. What ever happened to the husband's being the "bread-winners"? Not to play on a sterotype... but in today's age, I think it's fair that BOTH husband and wife hold down employment, to be able to cost the rising cost of living in the US,

IF anyone is being selfish, I would believe it's YOU. She's working hard already, and you want her to take a 2nd job??? When is she going to have time to relax, and unwind?

And for some people, it's impossible to get a college education.... if YOU worked for a while, she'd be able to go back to school, get that education, and You'd BOTH be better off....

My advice... grow up... be a man... stop being lazy... get a job.

Answer 6

ARE YOU FOR REAL!! GET A FREAKIN JOB!!! What makes you so great that your wife has to beg for raises and look for a second job so that you can stay at home and be a BUM!! The only person being selfish is you and to make it worse you're either completely clueless to your low class behavior, or you're just an idiot. What kind of man depends on a woman to take care of him, she prolly has to protect you from the neighborhood bullies too. She probably would enjoy the second job though because every second she is away from you has got to be pure bliss for her.

Well that was sneaky! : } My answer still the same it's just directed at her. Lazy women like her give us all a bad name. If she had any pride in herself and cared for you at all she would want to do her part.

Answer 7

I was wondering why you are not working. Are you in college? I am a stay-at-home wife. I can understand why you don't want to work but I don't feel that you should be condemning her for not working hard enough at college. As far as I know, they don't look at your grades when they hire you any where. If we weren't making enough money to make ends meet and I wanted to keep our comfort level at a better place, I would go to work. That "extra time" that you spend with your wife is the glue that will keep your marriage alive and well. I feel you are being selfish if you are staying at home and not going to college. She does need her rest. If she gets a second job, her libido will drastically reduce if it hasn't already from your selfishness.

Answer 8

u gotta good point on one end how many ppl got mad at ya. but at the same time my hubby is a stay at home dad and he takes care of the house. I'm proud to be the breadwinner of our family. He has tried to get work but in this area there isnt anything worth pursuing. He's going back to school this fall with me to get an associates degree and we are even talking about moving soon. No man has the right to work his wife to death while he sits on his lazy ***. Gotta friend who does this and i run up one side of him and down the other when he starts bitching. I wont go into that cuz i'll get angry and he's not worth it to me. But theres ur answer. I dont really care who says stay at home dads are lazy cuz women did it for decades and they were labeled homemakers. men do it now and their called lazy. Have you looked up the latest cost of daycare???

Answer 9

You are an @ hole.You should be supporting her you lazy bum.All I can say is she deserves what you dish out for being stupid.
Here are some things she can do to help out the finances without getting another job. She should get rid of you then she can make it ok.Or sell the house and move into a trailer park and get rid of your car since you do not work, you do not need a car.This will help with expenses.No more cable TV or internet for you.

Answer 10

I am floored! How dare you. It is a man's job to provide for a family. Especially if she is asking for your help. It only benefits one party to stay at home if you can afford it. Hell yeah, you are a jerk! You are the selfish one. Get off you behind and get a job and help your wife out.
Where are all the good men?
She should NOT have to get a second job! You should stop being a bum!

Answer 11

Ironically, your comments remind me of my brothers wife.
She bitches and carries on about my brother not making enough money, but she doesnt work. She "home schooled" 2 kids and one of them never made it past the 5th grade and the other one finally begged her mother to return to school which she did and now has a baby by a loser boyfriend. My brother is just her dog. I do things for him because she uses him and treats him like a dog. I will never do anything for her.