First of all, she left me in Jan 97. 4 years earlier, I was a jerk and hurt her feelings. I didn't cheat on her, I was just insensitive. Anyway, she dated a few people and then started seeing a guy from work. She started sleeping with him but would never tell me until I had positive proof a couple of months later. She was ready for the divorce then. She would call me and tell me everything they did until I asked her not to call me anymore.
She got out of her lease and moved in with him in June a few years ago. On Christmas Day she said she made the biggest mistake and wanted to come home and work on our relationship. I took her back out of revenge just to see her walk out on him on Christmas day. Ihad lost all love for her since I chased her for several months to no avail.
She seems truly sorry but hasn't done the little things for me she told me she did for him. We have been back together for some time now but I still have issues with it. We are in counseling. How do you recover?
2007-07-22 10:55:55 · 10 answers · asked by Bobby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what was done to u can never ever be undone, especially if u feel she treated him better than she treated u. your expectations do not match your reality, so u feel let down and cheated again. once something happens to break the trust, i don't believe u ever quite see that person in the same light again, gone is the innocence of the love u had, and u can never get it back to what it was. it also hurts ones ego and self worth, to know they left u and chose that other person over u in the first place. the way i see it u can never go back, once it turns ugly and they betray u, its over with, and needs to stay that way. because if they loved u and felt they had made a mistake they should have corrected it way before they left, and most of the time they only come back because the new relationship isn't quite working out as planned, not because they loved u so much.
2007-07-22 11:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no longer ex substantial different - yet have been given alongside with ex-gf for a 6 three hundred and sixty 5 days courting. nonetheless did no longer artwork out interior the top. they're your ex for a reason and meaning you are able to fix it in case you are able to fix the rationalization. or maybe it skill that the rationalization will sabotage the courting lower back. I even have in specific circumstances questioned if it became a mistake, yet being in many circumstances happy with the place i'm at the instant i'm resigned to the undeniable fact that i could be someplace else, diverse and unhappy if which have had no longer befell. So - in case you remarry your ex - you may remorseful approximately it. you may no longer. no longer lots help, huh? yet once you do - locate the rationalization you had difficulty and fasten it!
2016-10-22 09:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by loy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt did. She married him 3 times!! The third time he only married her so that he could stop paying child support and then put his business into his friends name, so that when they did divorce again, he could claim broke and lower his child support.
The other times he left her for the same woman and remarried her 2 times. He is currently with the other woman and she is single - has been for 15 years now.
Her man sucked!
2007-07-22 11:12:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can just speak from my own experience. I remarried my ex and things were never the same. And when he told me I was "damaged goods" that just never left me. We got divorced again. I wish you the best in your counseling. If you are both honest in it and want to committ again, then I would try.
2007-07-22 11:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by Kate J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can try, but you two will argue at some point and when that happens one will throw the past in the other's face. Also, you took her back for the wrong reasons. My advise is to move on.
2007-07-22 11:09:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember there was reason you divorced her the first time.. I am pretty sure those problems may still be there along with some new ones.
2007-07-22 11:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by C C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married 10 years to my ex. But we did not have the issues of infidelity & trust either.
2007-07-22 11:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An X is an X for a reason. It should remain that way.
2007-07-22 11:07:04 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know 2 couples who did and it didnt work the 2nd time either.
2007-07-22 10:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by princessfionafantasy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HaHa,
I wouldn't want to be in that same mess again.
LOL
Good luck if that's what you want, OK?
2007-07-22 11:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋