What has happened to people?

Question

I know a lady who is leaving her husband because he is now disabled due to a violent attack, another who left her husband because he was dying and another because he had MS. Have peoples values changed and is all me me me

Answer 1

Hey let's just not blame the women here!!!! There are men doing this kind of thing everyday and it isn't even because there wife is ill or dying.

I think that our society has changed alot over the last 20 years or so. We have become more accepting of things that they never would have stood for in the older days.

Not to mention that half of society isn't even marrying for love anymore. People are getting married for all of the wrong reason.

So if you marry someone and never truly loved them then why would you stay around and care for them when they are ill or disabled??

Alot of people are marrying for money these day. It has turned into what can this person give me that I don't already have?

Or marrying the first person that pays them attention so that they don't have to be lonely or alone anymore.

We have lowered our standards alot from the old days.

In those days it wasn't about wealth or loneliness it was about love and what they could build together. And they stuck with each other through thick and then no matter what!!

Somewhere along the way people stopped caring. And our society now days has made it easier. Things that were consider awful back then are now consider common.

So to answer your question yes it has become all about me,me,me!

And those people are rasing children and instilling those values in them. Before long we will have a society full of me lovers. And all of the good moral values will be pushed aside. And those that try to follow those good values will be consider outcasts.

Answer 2

There are also a lot of women who stay with their husbands through the disability even though its hard work. There are lots who leave their husbands who are rich and able bodied. There are men who leave pregnant women because of the pregnancy. What would be nice is if people would really try to work things out before they leave. Thats whats changed.People just give up when something becomes difficult, instead of working through it. But at least people can leave these days. At one time people were stuck in violent loveless marriages til death did them part.

Answer 3

Peoples values have changed. I love my husband, and no matter what, would never leave him. But I think alot of people don't take marriage seriously anymore because divorce is so readily acceptable.

I speak from experience...I was married before and married young. When people get married, they don't necessarily realize the full conotation of "til death do you part". They rush into marriage without thinking that can mean a whole list of other problems, and at the first sign of trouble, bail

Answer 4

We live in a very selfish society. People are mostly concerned about themselves. charity is OK when it does not involve any action or inconvenience. We still don't mind giving $5 to MS or a telethon, as long as we don't have to deal with the people.

It is a sad story what has happened. I guess we have to start by changing ourselves and hope it catches on... Pay it Forward.

Answer 5

A lot of times in these situations there were problems in the relationships already and when the "better" part of the marriage was replaced with the "worse" part of it they could not take the heat. It takes a person who really love someone to hang in there and Nurse their loved ones in awful health conditions, the only time i have seen this is with My parents and when i used to work at a nursing facility where you see spouses of some residents coming in to love and care for their spouse showing them a lot of love and affection even when they are at the foulest of moods. It is unfortunate we do not have that kind of love these days maybe people need to stop jumping into marriage so quick.

Answer 6

I know quite a few people who go through hell each day looking after a loved one, and wouldnt have it any other way, years ago people with certain illnesses and disabilities would have been put out of sight and those with mental disabilities (and even girls who had babies out of wedlock) would have been stuck in asylums, so no I think things have got better, its just you happen to coincidentally know people who have not been able to cope with the changes life has dealt them.

Answer 7

You got it. The world and people have changed. It is hard to stay married, people running around on each other. It is hard finding someone who will be faithful and have to same values as you but, someday one will come along. Hubby and I have been married 11 years and no matter what we have made it through thick and thin and love each other dearly. We are lucky cause we know we made a commitment to death do us part and stand by that.....good luck

Answer 8

Yes, it seems to me that people are getting more and more selfish. The consumer age has made many of us self-indulgent. Look at all the 'self-help' publications around, all supposed to make us 'better people' and to understand ourselves more etc. All we need to do to be a better person is to stop thinking so much of ourselves and treat others as we would wish to be treated. I believe though, that everything comes full circle sooner or later...and what we plant we reap one day in this life or the next!

Answer 9

Long gone are the days when people did 'their duty'. However, you really don't know what goes on behind other peoples doors and nowadays men and women are freer than they used to be to get up and walk away. Would you prefer it if these women were living in abject misery and being mistreated just so it looks good?

Answer 10

I know what you mean, people are so superficial these days. Where's the loyalty? I think it is a part of our culture now because our money-obssessed society does not support mothers to stay home and care for their children. This is how values are formed.