2007-07-22 07:53:02 · 26 answers · asked by loulo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's just asking for a disaster.
2007-07-22 07:55:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It just depends on how often and why it bothers you to the point of asking strangers online. Your best to figure out why your so bothered by it and talk to her about it.
I'd be quite bothered and hurt if my husband went out without me and would question what he's been up to. Once in a while is understandable (everyone needs a break) but if it's constant I'd be somewhat concerned. I don't feel the need to go to clubs and I feel odd being there without my husband (I love his company).
A married person visiting a nigh club constantly is out looking for more than a few drinks with friends. Your best to talk it over with your wife and see if there is something lacking in your marriage.
2007-07-22 16:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a good idea with all the horny drunken guys on the prowl. To make you feel better about your wife going to a night club without you,women go to night clubs for totally different reasons then guys do.Most women not all but most go to have a good time dancing and drinking with their girlfriends and want to be left alone by the guys. Just don't let her get use to it because she will want to go every saturday night.
2007-07-22 15:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is not normal is for your wife to go to a nightclub without you. You dont really "let" her do anything. Your married and its a partnership.
If she is going out without you, that spells trouble. My parents were married over 40 yrs because they were inseperable and my dad did not go out without my mom or vice versa.
Your asking for trouble, but then probably 3/4 of the readers here will think its ok for her to go out without you. Thats why the divorce rate is so high in this day and age.
2007-07-22 15:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it should be a problem but you should consider somethings here. Is she going with her girlfriends just to hang out. Is this something she does alot or just once-in -a-while. Are you invited? How often do you take her out? And most importantly do you trust her? If you don't trust her then your marriage has worse problems than her frequenting nightclubs. Girls like to get away sometimes there's nothing wrong with dancing and good fun. If she invites you and you say no well then at least she thought about you. Maybe you should go out together if she likes to dance get out there with her, trust me my husband cant dance worth a lick but the fact that he tries means the world to me. All in all your the only person who can decide what is right or wrong in your marriage.
2007-07-22 15:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by tidwell_t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well look at it this way. How often is she going out to the clubs? Was she like this before you married her? If this is on the regular and she has not asked you to go with her, then it must be something or someone attracting her attention. I would ask her to spend some quality time with you instead. However, if she gives you a hard time, then you have to come to your own conclusions.
2007-07-22 15:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by nika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not normal and you should talk to her and tell her how you feel. If its a girls night out then maybe its ok once in a while but by herself absolutely not. She is married and if she wants to go to the clubs she needs to take you with her and do it as a couple.
2007-07-22 15:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you really use the word "let" as in give permission or allow? Marriage does not equal ownership.
I have been with my husband for 17 years and still go to clubs with my girlfriends. We go for a fun night of dancing. It does not, as it has been suggested, mean that I am not a good wife, that I am out looking for "meat" or that I love my husband any less. Those ideas are archaic. What it means is that I am still my own person with choices about my life. Marriage does not require that you suddenly become someone different, it requires that you stay faithful to the person you pledged yourself to.
2007-07-22 15:04:10 · answer #8 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i have never been a big fan of nightclubs. what good can happen there? why sould someone want to go other than to pick up a date or some attention? if a person who is in a relationship wants some time out...do it somewhere other than a KNOWN meat market. just want to add that a woman or a man should not allow the other person to "LET" them do anything. that's disrespectful.
2007-07-22 15:05:10 · answer #9 · answered by reg22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like the sound of 'let your wife' do anything...she shouldn't need your permission to do things. On the other hand, I think a woman with love and consideration for her husband would not go to a nightclub without him.
2007-07-22 14:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by nin 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
YES-IT'S FINE TO LET YOUR WIFE GO TO A NIGHTCLUB WITHOUT YOU,SHE SHOULD BE ABLE TO DO THE THINGS SHE DID BEFORE GETTING MARRIED AND IF YOU'RE NOT INTO DANCING YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE TO SUFFER BY GOING WITH HER-YOU CAN DO SOMETHING SHE'S NOT INTERESTED IN DOING WHILE SHE'S OUT DANCING THE NIGHT AWAY.
2007-07-22 15:00:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋