threesomes?

Question

are they a good idea in a realationship?

Answer 1

Done for the right reasons between the right people, a threesome or moresome certainly won't hurt the relationship and will probably even strengthen it.

Done for the wrong reasons or between the wrong people it will lead to problems.

What are the right reason? The right reason is that it is BOTH of your fantasy to include others into your sex life. Some fantasies take more than two people to fulfill. It has to be helping your partner fulfill their fantasy while fulfilling your own fantasy.

Who are the right people? Those that can separate love from sex. Those that are secure in themselves and their relationship and don't easily get jealous. Those with voyeur tendencies that get-off by seeing their partner having a great time with with someone else. Those who are secure enough in themselves to revel in their partner's sexuality.

What are the wrong reasons? To try to "fix" or "spice-up" a relationship. Adding others to it won't fix anything, it just gives people more things to argue about.

Being coerced or convinced to do it against their will, like if it is one person's fantasy and their partner doesn't share it and is just "going along with it" to make them happy or so that they'll shut-up about it because they've done it now.

Who's the wrong people? Those that can't separate love from sex. Those who manipulate or control other people. Those that are insecure in themselves and thus have jealous tendencies. Those in a failing relationship that are trying to "fix" it by "spicing it up" with threesomes and moresomes. Those that are not emotionally capable of handling their partner having a good time with someone else. Those that are doing it for selfish reasons. Those that are not willing to allow their partner to have their fantasies also, such as a man that wants a FMF threesome but is opposed to having a MFM threesome if that is what his wife/girlfriend wants.

As a non-swinger friend once observed about swingers after going to several parties with us: "Swinging is the icing on the cake of marriage. But if all the ingredients aren't in the cake to make it solid to begin with, than all the icing in the world won't keep it from crumbling."

Or as someone else said more simply: "Swinging won't fix a bad relationship, but it certainly won't hurt a really good one."

Answer 2

Really? What a funtastic idea? Well, there are reason by diferrent people how they look on the threesome. Some said it enhances and add spices to the sex activities the couple have to experiences another kind of experiment. One time I had discussed with a friend of mine that he and his wife will looking to experiement this kind of idea. They are so closed couple and both of them are very thoughful and understanding. They were open to aeach other.

They did with their right choice of person. Until now, their marriage are still together and I don't say any changing in their relationship. Infact, they regulary have schedule to do it out or in their home when their house mate was on vacation in every quarter with them both enjoyed.

Answer 3

It's never a good idea to bring a third person into a marriage....some have done it & believe they're being liberated or modern in their outlook......the things that are vital for keeping a marriage going, like trust, fidelity, honesty, love, understanding will all begin to disapear before long. It may seem fine to start with but after a while....one partner or the other begins to not feel right about what's going on & before you know where youare.....it all gets totally out of hand.

Answer 4

speaking from personal experience, so far is has workd out great.....we love the woman we had one with, she doesnt live with us but we're best friends to this day. I wouldnt change it for the world. we all got to know each other in many different ways that day, and not just sexual. The sex was tremendous and i'd love to do it again just not an option atm. I wont tho cuz the situation is so much more complicated than i can describe on here. We are still very much in love as a couple. Ive heard all the "No NO dont do it" but i'm secure in my marriage and i've had them both tell me to my face it wont happen without me and i trust them both with my life. So i'd say if your comfortable with it go for it. Peace

Answer 5

Dont do it, you would be mad. My sister in Law has just lost her husband and 2 kids over a threesome, because he wanted to pull out of it and she still wanted to go ahead with it. Now the entire family know about it and everyone is disgusted with her. Her kids still are not speaking to her properly even after 6 months

Answer 6

Wondeful, the best and funtastic among the experienced I had have ever!
But however, this kind of idea is not good for spouse who lack self-respect to each other, who are temperate, who are not understandable. But I can say it is best for the couple who do not know the feeling of jealousies, the couple who experiemnt the highest excitements of sex as extremely funtastic. I recommend this to couple who are seeking the best sex possible. However, There are certain problem when to choose somebody with you own preference because both of you and your spouse need to approved the third person in a threeway sex. Well, In our case, We still do whenever we needed and of course we kept it secretely with my hubby and whoever we had invited and guested.

Answer 7

I beleave the leave to many questions the next day and from there after. They put an unneeded stress on the marriage. A lot of marriage end up in a divorce because a trust is broken even if it was suppose to be just for fun. You vowed to be with only each other... how do you just throw that away?

Answer 8

No way, it can bring immense jealousy. If the realtionship is secure, why would you want to bring another person into it? There are other ways to spice things up if you need to but to introduce a new person into your sex life is asking for trouble. Its not only the actual couple that could end up regretting it, the third person may end up feeling low and degraded, nothing more than a glorified sex toy!

Answer 9

they can be but you have to understand that your own marriage has to be a very strong one first. then there is the jealous factor. if either one of you has a problem with this, a threesome is not for you. I would do some serious talking before going down that road. also, you both must be willing to talk about everything and if it isn't right for both of you, it isn't right

Answer 10

Usually great for the guy as he expects you to invite your pal round for some fun. He wouldn't be so keen if the pal was called Gus or something! No, they are a rubbish idea - best kept on a fantasy level or for a relationship that isn't going anywhere anyway as it crushes the special something that the two of you have together.