Marriage & Divorce - 28 July 2006

meaning...the thought sometimes crosses their minds, or the opportunity might arise but some make a conscious choice to walk immediately away from these feelings, whereas the ones who have an affair choose not to walk away. I guess the main point of my question is....can a person go through their entire marriage/relationship without the opportunity arising?

2006-07-28 03:00:18 · 26 answers · asked by applecheeks 4

2006-07-28 02:59:14 · 5 answers · asked by har 3

2006-07-28 02:57:32 · 17 answers · asked by isanynameavialable 2

2006-07-28 02:44:21 · 16 answers · asked by SexeyMom 2

My ex husband and I are trying to reconcile and work things out. But my feelings for him is not the same. He tells me he loves me but his actions are something else. He spends more time doing other things than spending time with his family. He always asks "whats wrong with you" I say nothing and brush it off. I feel like I can find something better considering the past we have been through. But I don't want to be alone. I love recieving attention and affection and I love giving it. I know GOD is good and he has a plan for me. Should I stay with him and hopefully my feeling will change or be patient alone and let GOD work it out?

2006-07-28 02:44:09 · 3 answers · asked by Monique 2

when someone says "How are you today?" Mine is fine thanks, and you?

2006-07-28 02:40:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

to have a daughter i would definitely love her. i think deep down i don't want another woman nagging me and it might be more fun to have two sons to watch football and go fishing with. am i being selfish?

2006-07-28 02:37:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-28 02:37:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-28 02:37:17 · 6 answers · asked by d_n_a_237 1

Did any of you married women simply grow apart from your husband? No hating or fighting, just drifted apart by life events, he went one way sexually, you the other? Are you happy? What have you done about it, or what would you like to do about it?

2006-07-28 02:16:53 · 10 answers · asked by Mike 4

I was with my husband for 51/2 years. He is (or was) the love of my life. Due to his ex girlfriend always calling and calling, and my step daughter telling me, my husband cheated with her mom, I left. I just couldnt hurt anymore, and "Gabriel" wouldnt ever stop all the crap w/ his daughter and his ex, so I left. Gabriel told me, he would work on our marraige, and "get his rude daughter in line" and I'd move back home in one yr. I just found out yesterday, that my 38 yr old husband is in an online dating service, posted pix, and met up with this 29 yr old grl named Ganieva, I'm shocked and floored, Gabe denied it, but after I had the eveidance he admitted he was cheating.........OMG, what and how do I move on? How could he do this to me? And with his occasional crack cocaine problem, why do I even care? I'm so hurt........I'm so shocked. I never did anything bad or wrong to my husband, not ever..............how do I move on, I'm in such shock, and such pain.

2006-07-28 02:10:45 · 27 answers · asked by kprice7122 2

2006-07-28 02:06:45 · 12 answers · asked by lola 2

they've divorced for 3 years. but i still feel bad about that. i personally doesn't want to tell others, but i was so sad when i heard the truth from my mom, i still 'internally' want to keep my family together.what should i do????

2006-07-28 02:03:56 · 13 answers · asked by ☆LiAn☆ 3

I can go without sex for a while but my husband wants it every night! I am so busy keeping up with my 3 year old son that sometimes it's hard to find the time. He gets upset with me if i dont give it to him and asks me if I'm getting it somewhere else! I want to keep him interested, but like i said, i dont want it every night. What should i do?

2006-07-28 02:00:10 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

Recently I have been paranoid about my husbands actions. He has been quite distant. Something have never done is called a phone number that has been on the bill for quite sometime. A girl named Katie, message came on..I did not leave a message. To make things worse...I called my husband and asked him who she was. He blew up at me...rightfully so...because....I DIALED THE WRONG FREAKING NUMBER....the number was actually my pager. I am so embarrased and ashamed. These feelings I have are not what I have felt before. We are newly married.....PLEASE don't beat me up with your comments...I already feel terrible. I need to make restitution with him. I truly hurt his feelings. I feel awful. I know I need to relax....but his behavior makes me nervous at times. This is my second marriage and his 3rd. Advice on making this situation right would be appreciated. Please don't be mean!! Thank you.

2006-07-28 01:58:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you have completely destroyed your spouse's ability to trust you, and they have given you a very small percentage of chance of the situation ending in anything other than divorce, what can you do to regain their tust and love?

2006-07-28 01:56:29 · 8 answers · asked by AshamedHusband 1

2006-07-28 01:49:59 · 12 answers · asked by whatdoineedtodo2getanavailableid 1

A husband having an affair is likely to be one of the most painful and devastating things that can happen to you. Not knowing if your husband is cheating on you or not is equally as painful. Even the prospect of your husband being unfaithful is painful and extremely disruptive.

We all know that both sexes are guilty of infidelity and that blame for a broken relationship is not the fault of a gender, but there are several aspects of infidelity that are more attributable to men then women.

Recent studies indicate that males are more likely to engage in adulterous activity for the sexual experience only, than are women. Although this is not a rule, we do see more instances of men cheating on their wives purely for the physical act of sex. These men are more likely to have a relationship with any willing female and to allow that relationship to end quickly or immediately than are women. Women committing adultery tend to initiate an affair for some “greater purpose” than lust. A woman can find a man for sex any time they want to whereas a man cannot always find a woman willing to have sex with him. These types of men will often have more interest in the physical aspect of the relationship and tend not to get as emotionally attached to their cheating partner in the affair as women do. Experts say that unlike women who undoubtedly fantasize about extracurricular romance but who are able to separate that fantasy from reality; men are more likely to be unable to distinguish between “mental longings” and physical transgressions, many times not realizing the true scope of what they are doing until it's too late.

The next argument made about men and infidelity is that men are “naturally inclined” to try and “mate” with as many women as possible. This argument implies that like some animals, men want to procreate and “spread their seed” to as many women as possible. Whether there is any validity to this argument or not is best left up to the scientific community, but there is little doubt that more men are able to engage in infidelity, with less guilt, than are women. (i.e. the guy who goes to the local “massage parlor” once a year, but has no remorse and simultaneously, no feelings for the masseuse/prostitute is somewhat unique to men) This does not mean that some women do not engage in affairs and adultery without remorse, it is just less common. Please understand that despite the threat of AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases, there is a pool of women out there who like to have intercourse with many men, often with complete strangers, some of whom do it for money. They can be with 250-300 men in a year, sometimes two or three in the same day!

Men also appear to be driven by the desire to feel good and to be with someone that arouses them. They often stray when they find an opportunity to have sex with someone that is “hotter” then their wife or partner or is in some way more sexually exciting. If they perceive their wife as being overweight, out of shape, non-responsive or too crabby, infidelity becomes a much more realistic option. Everyone has heard story after story about a husband who we catch cheating who reports that it is his wife’s fault. “She got fat”; “she only cares about the kids” or no longer cares about having exciting sex. Men like to feel important and desired and when a woman shows an interest, it feels good and they go after it. When a stranger shows an interest in a man, they get aroused. Put a man who is unhappy at home or in his marital bed in that scenario and you can guess what happens.

The last difference is that more men seem to get away with it. They seem to be more capable of maintaining the “norm” at home while carrying on the affair. If the affair is detected, it appears that a wife is more likely to stay with an adulterer husband then the opposite, thus sending the message to the males of our society that even if they do get caught, it must be acceptable because “so and so” had been cheating for years, got caught and his wife got over it. Society also tells men that having sex with as many women as possible is the way to go. Many people adore hearing about the sexual exploits of the likes of Hugh Hefner, Tommy Lee, Warren Beatty, Mick Jagger, etc. etc. Even a former president got caught engaging in oral sex with a young woman in the oval office and he remains married and became more popular than ever. The ability to sleep with many women is linked to the ideas of having power, status and money, all things that the average husband strives for. As long as women tolerate infidelity on the part of their husband, husbands will likely take advantage of it.

Think about the old “seven year itch” and how the fact that even in times when marriage was deemed to be more sacred than it is now, a husband’s inclinations toward being unfaithful after a period of marriage was so pronounced that it merited its own name.

Something that is not gender specific but is worth mentioning is that in almost all cases of marital infidelity, something is wrong in the marriage. Either the husband or the wife is unhappy and likely both. Someone’s needs are not being met. Something does not work the way they want it to.

2006-07-28 01:46:18 · 11 answers · asked by www.pidetectivesofsfl.com 1

I have always been small chested and always felt intimanated by women with large breast.My nightmare has come true.I married a man who is obcessed with large breast.I catch him looking up big breast on the computer and every magazine he buys features big breast.None of wich he looks at while Im around.This is really hurting my feelings and I dont even want to have sex with him any more,I feel embarressed.I cant afford a boob job and I dont like feeling this way.What should I do.

2006-07-28 01:41:17 · 15 answers · asked by carolinagirlatk 1

2006-07-28 01:33:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-28 01:26:44 · 14 answers · asked by fish2121 1

man perfer virgin or what? i am an asian

2006-07-28 01:25:47 · 9 answers · asked by d_doris_b 1

My friend found pink stain on her husband shirt and stain on his pants
He said it was pasta and soup
She said it's Lipstick and sperms
how would you find out for sure what it is

2006-07-28 01:18:08 · 4 answers · asked by devika h 2

A bit older: from 2 to 6 years
Much older: from 7 to 17 years

Please consider your own experience while answering.

2006-07-28 00:52:26 · 14 answers · asked by Joanna 2533 2

Please help me. I was released on 50,000 bail for domestic abuse, I had nothing to do with. I repeatedly told the police that my boyfriened cold punched me in the eye. While I was on the phone with the police dispatch, he went into the house and struck himself so hard, he drew blood. I NEVER touched him, ever. He told them I hit him with a vase that I had in my possession. this was something I was carrying out of the house to my car when he originally became aggressive because I was leaving. when I tried to get into my car to leave he made it to my car before I could lock the door, he swung open the door and punched me. Police came, listened to our stories, I went to jail. This man has been to prison and obviously knows what to say to officials to keep himself out of jail.

This is the second time I have gone to jail after he has beat me. the first time was much worse, I went to the hospital. I didn't think he would do this again. He did.

Please help me

2006-07-28 00:46:28 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-28 00:42:41 · 9 answers · asked by rekha c 3

Do children thrive better in homes where parents are married?

2006-07-28 00:39:51 · 13 answers · asked by In Honor of Moja 4

2006-07-28 00:39:01 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-28 00:28:54 · 18 answers · asked by Majid Anooshiravani 1

2006-07-28 00:25:38 · 5 answers · asked by rekha c 3