2006-07-28 02:37:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK here are the details. He is manipulative and arrogant. Does not discipline my child in any way when they are together. It seems like he gets to have all the fun times while I sit at home broke. I cant even make ends meet while he buys new cars, cell phones and goes to the hair dresser every other week. Sigh. I also tried concilliation thru a lawyer ( which took up pretty much an entire year ) but once the lawyer said he had to pay he droipped that. I am now taking legal action but it will probably take another 2 years before anything happens. I probably should have shared all this before I got the first responses to my question.
2006-07-28 02:58:34 · update #1
First, you need to continue to let him visit. It always looks better in Court when you do what you are supposed to. If you have filed for divorce, you should have a Temporary Orders hearing. This will determine how much $ he pays and any visitation he may get. Only after there is a court order to do so, can you do anything about him not paying anything. It all depends on your state's laws as well. If there is a court order to pay and he does not, he can be charged with contempt of court. I hope your attorney didn't tell you it could take another 2 years, or the court is that far behind. It should only take maybe a year from the day you file the papers to have your final hearing UNLESS you are fighting over everything inder the sun.
2006-07-28 08:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by stacilynn26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to court if you dont have a support order then give the order to the district attorney and they will give it to child support services. Unless there is some really aweful reason he should not have visits you need to let him be with your child or children. The cool thing is that when I took my support issues to the district attorney(my ex wouldnt pay) after it had gotten to be way over-due they took his drivers license they can also take vehicles, real property, and seize bank accounts but you need to file the paper work. They dont mess around anymore with dead beet dads. Get the support you deserve.
2006-07-28 02:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by arreis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no right to deny a child from his or her father as far as him not paying go to court, seperation for 2 years? why not get a divorice? go to court settle it. but what ever you do dont try to keep the father from the kids, they will end up being mad at you in the long run. give him visitation any time he wants it, if he doesnt want it then its on him. and if he loves them let him, money is a lot but its sure not everything,.go to the district attorney child support division. they will collect for you. but again I stress do not keep the children from their father. i disagree with the first answer Children are not a tool you can use to make some one do something she is wrong!!!!!
2006-07-28 02:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visitation and Support are considered 2 different things in court. You still have to allow visitation when he isn't paying support. If you cooperate and he doesn't, the judge is more likely to go in your favor when determining who gets what. Good Luck
2006-07-28 02:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you dont, but think about the effect it would have on your children if they are close to their father. I would sit the ex down and explain if he doesnt start paying some child support that your going to be forced to cut off visitation and contact the courts. If he truly loves his children he would want to provide for them.
2006-07-28 02:41:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Still allow him to see his child, I am a mother of 3 and they have dead beat dads.
They dont pay, but are welcome to see the kids any time they wnt.
Reason i have this happen is, its the kids that end up hurt in the end, its not fair to the children.
Yeah hes an a s s hole but u remain a good supportive mum and allow it, whether or not he pays, your kids will know in the long run who was there for them and who got them through. but dont rubbish him in front of the kids either, this only puts your kids in a position where they feel they have to choose.
good luck
2006-07-28 02:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by jordancassandra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes allow him to see the kids. Don't bad mouth him in front of the kids. When they grow older, they'll come to their own conclusions about him.
2006-07-28 02:52:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not unless it is court ordered
2006-07-28 02:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋