Please help me. I was released on 50,000 bail for domestic abuse, I had nothing to do with. I repeatedly told the police that my boyfriened cold punched me in the eye. While I was on the phone with the police dispatch, he went into the house and struck himself so hard, he drew blood. I NEVER touched him, ever. He told them I hit him with a vase that I had in my possession. this was something I was carrying out of the house to my car when he originally became aggressive because I was leaving. when I tried to get into my car to leave he made it to my car before I could lock the door, he swung open the door and punched me. Police came, listened to our stories, I went to jail. This man has been to prison and obviously knows what to say to officials to keep himself out of jail.
This is the second time I have gone to jail after he has beat me. the first time was much worse, I went to the hospital. I didn't think he would do this again. He did.
Please help me
2006-07-28 00:46:28 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The lesson here is that someone who will abuse you once will probably do it again. As Dr. Phil says, "The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior." If you ever get free of all of the legal problems, NEVER EVER stay involved with anyone who harms you.
2006-07-28 00:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by In Honor of Moja 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its hard to see through the lies when you want to believe.
he promises to change, things will get better, and they do for a while. until something triggers it back.
but the next time it increases and is much worse.
you end up with all the blame and the hurt.
you need not to set yourself up for more disappointment.
you know what this guy is like. you know he is trouble.
your'e on bond, not very many options on where you can go.
but, you do have the option of going somewhere he cant find you until the trials are over.
you need someone you can trust to help you unless you can do it alone. but make sure its someone he will never suspect. don't involve the people he knows. that will only put them in danger.
get away from him and all the things that connect you to him. dont keep the same habits. its like starting a new life. dont run back to hime. love you...he doesnt..
2006-07-28 01:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well why the hell did you go back to him when the first time you ended up in the hospital? Hellooooooooooo...........That's a sign hes gonna kill you someday........and helloooooooooooooo why the hell do you want to be with someone who has been to jail a couple of times already??????? You need to leave and get out of that area where he can't find you. And the police, they are stupid, abusive guys always get away sometimes. They'll believe you only when its too late. Then they'll feel stupid afterwards because you were telling the truth.
2006-07-28 00:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon the first time he hit you you should have gotten out then.He hit you and you went to jail that is some major BS.I live in Florida and down here they take both of you to jail if they cant figure out who hit who first or if both hit.Now its your word against his.If he punched you in the face you should have had some sort of marks and therefore he should have went to jail also since he said you hit him to.I would go get myself a lawyer and fight this because domestic violence is something that will stay on your record and you need to get that off if possible.And you need to get away from him have no more contact with him.He sounds like a psycho that will bring harm to you.You need to also get a restraining order against him.I wish you the best of luck
2006-07-28 01:19:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ARE U A MORON?????
Sucker punched and jail 1x didn't teach you and then you had to go back to this idiot to be abused again for round #2.
Clearly you should not be in a relationship with this person. Next round #3 you might find yourself on a slab in the morgue.
Get counseling. you obviously have self esteem issues and self worth issues..
2006-07-28 01:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who said they would never hit you again ever, actually would do it again... Give yourself a break and get out. You deserve someone better. I think this is a wake up call for you to get out and save yourself. Your lucky ur still alive to defend yourself! Get out of the relationship even if there are time hes nice... He needs professional help. Get a lawyer, a good one, who would help you. Pray always. The truth shall prevail eventually.
2006-07-28 00:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by joe_logs_a_co 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, get the heck away from him and get a restraining order against him. Hospital records should show that your wounds at the time were not self-inflicted.
Get yourself a lawyer and do everything you can to get the b/f behind bars again
2006-07-28 00:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by ami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have had to go to court before being sent to jail??? Whatever happened, you must protect yourself, as clearly your boyfriend is. You must leave that situation. Take a step back and take an outsiders look at what is happening to you and your life. Don't do anything stupid. Leave the situation as soon as you can. My boyfriend has hit me before, and one time it was bad. I know that the answer is to leave. You have to make the decision yourself.
2006-08-01 07:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by SonicBoom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
First of all I'm not going to tell you how stupid you are for being in this mess. My ex-husband was physically, mentally and emotionally abusive. I know what it's like to be caught in that trap that they create. The fact that you're even asking for help is a sign that you're going to get yourself out of this. It happens to the best of us. We want to believe in the person that we erroneously care for. As the others are telling you, please get the restraining order. Next contact your local legal aid office and have them hook you up with an attorney to help you with this mess. You know that this is the end of your relationship with him. You must now take steps to protect yourself and keep him in his place....which is far away from you.
2006-07-28 01:10:41 · answer #9 · answered by curious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is a bondsman/bounty hunter and in our state Florida both party's go to jail for domestic charges be careful he did not bond you out or some one close to him they can revoke your bond and put you back to jail keep in touch with your bondsman always let him know if you change your number or move most important make sure you make your payments or when you go to court they can surrender your bond meaning they can put you back in also explain to the judge your concerns do not go back to live with your husband even if you make up it will make your case look bad and they wont feel sorry for you and they will look at it as a waste of there time I was an attorney for 6 years trust me hes not worth it.
2006-07-28 01:13:16 · answer #10 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋