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Do children thrive better in homes where parents are married?

2006-07-28 00:39:51 · 13 answers · asked by In Honor of Moja 4 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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If you want to have children, absolutely it is better to be married.

First of all, there are a lot of legal issues at play. Second, people are more likely to treat a marriage union more seriously than living together, providing a potentially more stable home. Third, children are social creatures and the attitudes of their friends and other authority figures, as well as cultural norms, will affect them psychologically. Kids want their parents to be married; they will not readily understand why you may choose not to be.

2006-07-28 00:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by smoovegeek 2 · 0 0

Nowadays, there are not many good reasons to get married when you can live together.

It used to be a stigma for a couple to have sexual relations or a child out of wedlock. Now, these things are normal and socially accepted. In the past, when women had few, if any, rights. Marriage therefore ensured she had a home, inheritance and someone to look after her. Now, women are educated, have rights, etc.. and so that too as a reason went out the window.

Now, in many ways, it seems that marriage is more a complicating factor. Couples who have successfully lived together for years, fall apart once they sign the paper and legitimize their relationship. Hence the high divorce rates.

But some of the reasons to get married can include:

- married couples can have a legitimate child, and legitimately appear as the parent of the child, and be the full legal guardians and custodians of the child which is not the absolute case with an unmarried couple who have a child

-married couples have more rights ito property and finance division, and visitation of children in case of marital breakdown, and the longer the couple are together, the more they are entitled to when the marriage breaks down than couples who cohabit without marriage

- married couples can enjoying being called Mr. & Mrs. X, wearing a wedding band, and referring to each other as 'my husband' and 'my wife', though that does not stop adultery or divorce

-married couples get income tax savings

-married couples get job promotions, or more opportunities for work, since some jobs view marriage as a stabilizer and sign of stable person who has obligations. Nearly all politicians for example, are married.

- Married couples get mortgages and loans for same reason, especially with double income since married people will be viewed more positively than two cohabiting single people, regardless of their devotion to each other.

As for children, children thrive in a happy home with a happy carer or carers. Children can thrive in a good orphanage, adopted or foster home as much as in a home with one or two parents. Children have a right to know their parents, indeed, but most of all they need love, care and attention. Couple who get married for the child, or stay married for the child, but who are unhappy together will create more problems for their child than being apart and happy.

2006-07-28 01:06:05 · answer #2 · answered by Amber B 2 · 0 0

You know what i think, marriage is only to prove that two people really loveeeeeeeee each other and that there is no one else in the world. But from my point of view, its just a paper saying you have to be stuck together with no freedom from each other. Marriage is nothing, everyone just wants to get marry because they want to prove their love to everyone, and because they want the big flashy wedding. If you two really think that you can be committed to each other forever and i mean forever without ever thinking of another partner what so ever, then go for it. Kids, i don't think it really matters, it depends how they grow up around you.

2006-07-28 01:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by lola 2 · 0 0

Your Tax return will be better for one. There are several advantages to being married over just living together. Also a sense of security not just for the two of you but for the kids involved.

2006-07-28 00:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0 0

yes they do good reasons if your girlfriend wins the lotto and dies your not getting any thing if she meets another man who sweeps her off her feet she can leave and not have to worry about an ugly divorce when men ask if shes married she says no you wont have the same rights to your children as a married father do you have a WILL TOGETHER ,it means allot to women to be married and if you don't want to loose her and want to make your home happy marry her.

2006-07-28 00:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0 0

Being fortunately married for practically 37 yrs., i might desire to confess that i don't understand why human beings have such themes with the belief of "marriage." what's extremely significant is the standard of the dating; in different words, regardless of if there's a sufficient quantity of admire, compromise, forgiveness, and persistence. If there is, then the dating will stay to tell the story, regardless of in case you're married or in simple terms residing together. So, if somebody is telling me that they've faith they have a sturdy dating which will stay to tell the story interior the long-term, precisely what's the issue with marriage? while you're committed...then you extremely're committed. you at the instant are not "leaving the back door open" so which you will bail on the 1st sign of issue or issue. If somebody is worrying approximately marriage basically because of the fact they might lose "a million/2 of their stuff," i think of this is rather lame. Then, i think of they might desire to not evaluate any form of dating, because of the fact they are uncertain it will stay to tell the story. it quite is a controversy of have faith. the two they don't have faith their own character, or the different guy or woman's. and finally, existence is one super gamble besides. You lay down your coronary heart and you're taking your opportunities like everybody else. How interior the international can human beings be so worrying approximately playing with their coronary heart, yet hundreds of thousands have certainly NO issue going to casinos and playing with their existence's reductions?

2016-12-10 16:17:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

marriage is a sacred thing. its a sign of committement for 2 individual to stay as one. living together may be acceptable to the society but not to god. also , children born out of wedlock becomes illegitimate.

2006-07-28 00:51:48 · answer #7 · answered by myrna 1 · 0 0

Marriage is outdated and fairly pointless...

There is no stigma for kids born out of wedlock (except in the backward places of the world)...

Divorce is expensive...

Just better to part quietly and without paying lawyers!!!

2006-07-28 00:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0 0

its betta 4 da kids. they feel insecure otherwise. aparently there is summing more special if u get married, and just dont live 2gether. anyway God sayes its wrong, so thats enough of a reason 4 me.

2006-07-28 01:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by Caz 3 · 0 0

its better the parints have the same name and its better that the child know you loved each other not just with each other give that child a home of married parints k good luck

2006-07-28 00:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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