does being a mom means letting go of yourself?

Answer 1

no, but nothing worse than seeing a woman with a newborn baby, plastered in make up and high heels in a mini skirt, that tells me she takes her looks more seriously than the babies needs, long talons for nails and nappies to deal with??

your dress code needs to change when you're with your kids but it doesn't mean look like Pauline Fowler in a cardigan

Answer 2

It doesn't have to. I run a business, take courses, raise a son, and I still workout everyday. I see too many women that don't put in the effort after they have children. Some of which are morbidly obese and can't even play with their kids. It is about taking the time. I get up most mornings at five a.m. and I jog or ride my bike for an hour. If it is raining, I jog on my treadmill. I go to the gym three times a week for resistance training. I eat a balanced diet, dress to the nines, and keep my hair and make-up looking good. Though not as often as I did before I had my son, I still go to the salon and get hair, nails, facials, and massages done on a regular basis. The result: I look good, I feel great, my son benefits from having a happy and healthy mom that has energy to play with him, and my husband has a wife that looks as good or better than when we met.

Answer 3

NO...NO....NO...
I made that mistake and I was miserable! I never put myself first, first came the 3 kids, then hubby and on top of that I had to care for a mother with mental illness. Before I married I was the type of woman that never went out of the house unless I was in full makeup and dressed nice. Finally after years of putting myself last on line..I got fed up (I was not being appreciated by the kids or mom, hubby was always appreciative and as helpful as he could be) I just told them all that they are going to have to get used to the new me and they are going to have to start putting into this family. I lost many unwanted pounds, I am back to buying things that I need for myself, I wear makeup every day, and I am no longer smoking and I am going to college in Sept. I feel GREAT, I look GREAT...and you know what? Life went on... the house didn't fall down, the kids are still here, and mom is still alive (lol) My kids tell me every day how beautiful I look, sex is unbelievable,and my self esteem is Fantastic.
So never let yourself go just because you are a mom...never let yourself go period!

Answer 4

Most of the time, mothers put everyone and everything first in their lives, and they are always last. That's why women get so depressed in life. They tend to lose their true selves to kids, husbands, and all that other stuff that goes along with it. I would advise any new mother to make sure she sets some time for herself aside every day. It doesn't mean you're being selfish (as some families would tell you). It means reviving and loving yourself so you have more to give to others. So I suppose the answer to your questions is: YES....but it doesn't have to be that way. Wish I'd have known this 30 years ago.

Answer 5

It only means letting go of yourself if your only way to get that next hair style, manicure or outfit is by denying your child necessities. Or not seeing your kids at all in a day because you're too busy primping, at the gym, then going out.

Probably not your case though.

Answer 6

Well, it's really sad if motherhood does end this way, but it isn't necessary. First of all, if you're in a committed relationship, including marriage, you should have the love and support you need to become a whole person, not only a mother but also a complete human being in every way. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 7

i am a single dad and i would like to say by all means never let yourself go as you are the giver of life and you need to be able to take good care of yourself otherwise you would be in no state of mind to raise the children.Afterall you were attractive to the father of the child/children and so you should remain attractive during the years it takes to raise them.Never never let go of your true self no matter what as the children do grow and move on so your life should never stop.

Answer 8

Why no ,i became a step mum 6yrs ago in my late 40s and i still feel and look good and my hubby still thinks i am ok so you dont have to let yourself go being a mum .

Answer 9

I don't think you should let go when you become a mom I think it just means you have another role to live by, it can alter some of your social life but it shouldn't change you so much. I see some moms who has kids who let go of themselves they don't take care of themselves they look ragged and old, think of your husband you also have a responsibility to him as a wife. I don't think he want to go home to a wife who looked so haggard, having kids are tiring but don't let go of your self plus so many guys use that as an excuse to cheat to there wife.

Answer 10

this is a loaded question. No being a mother does not mean that you let yourself go, but you also no longer have hours on end to primp and preen and look pretty.

its a catch 22.