2006-07-28 01:26:44 · 14 answers · asked by fish2121 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dont go looking for one. Just let her come to you in the right time.
2006-07-28 01:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd start with why you guys divorced. If the ladies in question didn't cheat on you, aren't seeing other people or re-married, marriage is too serious a commitment not to do what you can to make it work.
If you must, love her as your enemy - but nonetheless, love her. Your second wife, I'd say - your first wife has every right to get on with her life since you went off and married someone else.
But let's say for the sake of argument that they cheated on you and perhaps are remarried. What to do then?
For starters, stop thinking it's a question of the right woman. It takes two to tango. You can learn from experience, see what went wrong before, what your part in that was, and what her part in that was, then you know what you need to do and what the red flags are as far as she is concerned.
One more thing, make sure you go to the right places to meet new people: if you are looking for a serious relationship, not a one-night stand, a singles bar isn't the place. Better somewhere where you can surmise the person is serious-minded and has common interests - e.g. continue your education, take courses, get involved in a music ensemble or charity work, or whatever
And above all, keep up that attitude of wanting a serious relationship. It'll spare you a lot of trouble - and who knows? If your second wife hasn't gone off with someone else, maybe you won't even have to look for anyone after all because you'll get back together? If she has, you'll be able to move on and avoid the riff-raff in the process.
Take care and God bless you
2006-07-28 01:50:36 · answer #2 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right woman is someone who makes you want to move on again with your life again, someone who makes you feel love again and that the thought of being with her makes your world a better place..if she's someon e you cant ive without then she's the right woman :) ..where can you find her? she's just around the corner waiting for you :) we make mistakes all the time and we learn from it..learn from your mistakes and charge it to experience..its the best teacher :) you'll find the right woman, just dont push things to happen, it will happen in time..right now, enjoy being single..you might learn a lesson or two out of it..we do learn frome very situation no matter how insignificant we think it is..so take your time 'fishing'..lol...you'll eventually get a good one :) be happy :) you can only make someone happy if you're happy yourself..so keep a positive disposition in life no matter how harsh it is sometimes :)
2006-07-28 01:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by just me:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe ask yourself what is with in you that keeps attracting the same type of women. Ask what has been in your up bringing, what vaules you wittenesed while growing up. It might be possible that you are carrying on a pattern of things you wittnessed from one or both of your parents.
It could be a million things, but you probably should start looking from with in , that doesn't mean your a bad person....... It just means there could be something from your past that makes you insecure, or makes you treat a woman a certain way, in other words you might be self sabatoging your realtionships with out even realizing that is what you are doing.
2006-07-28 01:42:02 · answer #4 · answered by sgtroboswife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they weren't your mistakes. People change, and sometimes move in opposite directions. When you meet a woman you really like, take your time and get to know one another very well before making any commitment. The good thing is, usually the older we get, the more we know our own minds and preferences.
2006-07-28 01:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time. Date for a while, nobody says you have to rush to the alter. I believe you have to live with someone before you can truly know them and their habits. If you meet someone you really care about, after some time.....live with her for at least a year and see where you are in that time. Have you fought alot, is she sloppy, does she have strange habits you just couldnt live with, is she jealous, the list goes on and on. Also, be sure in what your looking for in a potential life mate. Take some time for you to really think this through. Best of wishes.
2006-07-28 01:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you find the right one you'll just know. list out all those reasons or allegations for which the divorces happened in the first place and DON'T do those things again.
2006-07-28 01:40:42 · answer #7 · answered by girl next door 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you're older and wiser now, hopefully. I just remember the things that caused problems before and definately avoid those things. Just don't rush into anything and remember, third times a charm!
2006-07-28 01:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you learn from a mistake, it becomes a lesson. Think of the things that attracted you to your ex's...and things that went wrong...learn from them before starting a new relationship. Good luck
2006-07-28 01:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should relax and not think about anything like marriage or another divorce. Try thinking about it next year or sometime later.
2006-07-28 01:34:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋