Marriage & Divorce - 3 July 2006

I found out a few days ago that my wife was cheating on me. A couple of months ago, after 4 good years, I realized she was having issues with our marriage, but I was unable to get her to open up about them. She began going out with her new girlfriends all the time and staying out very late and eventually not calling to check in at any time. I confronted her and she said she needed some time and space to figure herself out and to figure us out and she went to stay at a friend's. At this point she almost cut off all communication. I had suspicions and started poking around and discovered she was cheating on me. It appears that had only been going on for a couple of weeks, but could have been longer. I justifiably lost it, screamed at her for an hour on the phone and told her I was filing for divorce. Now that I've cooled off I want to make sure I have no regrets. She has been remourseful but hasn't asked to come back or for my forgiveness. Should I take it slow? What should I do? thanks

2006-07-03 19:40:25 · 20 answers · asked by MrS 2

ok this is what is happening,i found out that someone in my family is quietly having a divorce,now i love these people,but something is going to happen.this lady that i will call ''sara'' and this man i will call ''jack'' have been married for a few years now,maybe 10 or so,''sara'' now wants a divorce from ''jack'',by blood im related to "sara".but this "jack" is a very good man/dad/husband/all of the above,now he takes care of the kids,very well,he takes them places,loves them,and they love him back very much,he never gets drunk,he is very patient,very loving,he never does drugs,in simple terms"jack" is the perfect man,whenever "sara" asks if "jack" can go get her something,even if he has to go threw alot to get it for her,he does it in a heartbeat,with out a second thought,"sara", on the other hand does get a little drunk,she is sometimes 'mean',rude,obnoxious if you will,she hasnt really grown up,she still goes out,gets drunk,parties,goes to clubs while "jack" is back at the house

2006-07-03 19:39:56 · 74 answers · asked by Beyond_The_LAKE 2

hubby says he likes to have oral sex and go down on me but he doesnt do it often how do i get him to do it more

2006-07-03 19:36:30 · 8 answers · asked by nikki 1

I need direction. I need to know about grants or help for people in my situation

2006-07-03 19:35:53 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just would to like to have an idea of how many men does average woman in her thirties has to date before settling down.

2006-07-03 19:35:30 · 4 answers · asked by SweetBrunette 5

i love him very much and we have 2 kids one is 7years and one i 1 yeaskindly let me no if he is going to change and we will be together because i can't live without him

2006-07-03 19:25:46 · 14 answers · asked by shubha c 1

This question arised when my parents are searching for a girl

By default I am hesitant towards marriage, as I am more concerned about the girl I am going to marry.
Does she understands me well...??

I am from Traditional Indian family.

2006-07-03 19:19:34 · 17 answers · asked by atmurthii 1

Do you think you will get it?

2006-07-03 19:19:33 · 7 answers · asked by Eve 2

My husband had a brief affair with a younger woman while at an event out of town (I was 32; she was 22.) Husband told me about the affair - lots of ups and downs - but we stayed together. I had to be around the younger woman for a weekend event 2 years later. I introduced myself and was very polite. She said I was "very nice" and she "felt bad" about what happened. I didn't really want her pity - but we got through the weekend.

Fast forward to 3 years later. (Five years after the original affair.) My husband sees her again at another event and they start up a cell-phone/email relationship. I find out about it. **** hits the fan ... but we stay together (again).

Now one year later we are taking a trip to an event that this woman will be at! I don't really want to "be nice" again - even though I know it is my husband (not her) who is the problem. However, the thought of being around her makes me ill! Should I ignore her? Say something catty? Swallow my pride and be nice

2006-07-03 19:14:54 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

actually my husband is planning to divorce me for somw misundserstanding between so kindly let me no if our relatiuonship will stay for ever

2006-07-03 19:14:29 · 5 answers · asked by shubha c 1

Before the 3rd kid was born, we was have sex on a regular bases. Now the wife doesn't even want me touching her, not even a kiss goodnight or when I leave to go to work, nothing. PLEASE HELP!

2006-07-03 19:04:56 · 14 answers · asked by Raqi Killer 2

Beauty is not essential thing for me but politeness

2006-07-03 19:04:55 · 6 answers · asked by True_Fellow 1

Do u enjoy being married??? and how long have u been married

2006-07-03 18:47:29 · 13 answers · asked by steveangela1 5

THIS IS THE SECOND WEEKEND IN A ROW HE HAS BEEN GONE, OUT OF REACH. LAST WEEKEND IT WAS TO HIS PARENTS, WHOM HE HAS TURNED AGAINST ME OVER THE LAST 3 1/2 YEARS, WITH HIS LIES ABOUT "THING'S I SUPPOSEDLY DONE" TO CAUSE THE FIGHT. HE SAY'S HE LOVE'S ME, YET HIS PARENTS WOULDN'T AWNSER MY CALL'S CAUSE THEY ARE ANGRY AT ME ? HE ALWAY'S CLAIMS HE HAS SMOOTHED THING'S OVER WITH THEM, ENOUGH THAT EVERY ON EWILL SURVIVE A DINNER, THEN I DONT TALK TO THEM FOR ANOTHER SIX MONTH'S OR SO, THIS TIME THEY CLAIM NOT TO HAVE HEARD FROM HIM SINCE LAST WEEK, BUT IT WOULD NOT BE UNLIKE THEM TO BE LYING FOR HIM, OR UNLIKE HIM TO NOT BE DONING HIS OWN THING. THE BAD THING IS, HE IS IN THE COUNTRY FOR A R.&R. VISIT ONLY, HE HAS TO GO BACK TO IRAQ IN A CPLE OF WEEK'S FOR AT LEAST ANOTHER 2 MONTH'S, HE HAS FOUND ONE REASON OR ANOTHER TO FIGHT EVERY TIME HE HAS GOTTEN TO COME HOME. I LOVE HIM, I DON'T WANNA DIVORCE BUT WHAT DO I DO WITH A RELATIONSHIP THAT I CAN'T ACCESS ?

2006-07-03 18:44:51 · 8 answers · asked by SilkStorm 1

2006-07-03 18:40:22 · 6 answers · asked by Danielle U 1

I married this guy 5 month after we met on myspace. The 1st 2 months he was over seas in the military deployedment. We spoke every day over the phone for hrs. He had a 2 week vacation from Oct 26 to Sept 7 then he went back over seas. We thought that we love each other so we thought lets get married. But we never cared what his fam or my fam thought. Not even what our kids would go through. I have a 3 yr baby girl and he has 3 boys one 6,4,2. So me and his mom got 2gether and rented an apartment for when he arrive home on Jan 23,06. Me and him and my baby girl were going to mave in together. So then right when he got here we married. It was so nice the 1st month but then after a while he started to get mad about every thing. He exploded about little things. Then he began to hate my baby girl, he found bad things about her. After a while he got mad at me and he started to do drugs, bring dumb friends over to the aprtment. So fianly we separeted. But now I feel like I should have tryied.

2006-07-03 18:25:25 · 8 answers · asked by elliemagdaleno 1

i ask this because my husband wants to be friends with his ex (his first love)And i would rather he did not i think he should be with his family and respect my feelings when it comes to this kind of thing.

2006-07-03 18:24:26 · 9 answers · asked by nikki 1

mad $hit about my ex (who i now regret leaving) and yells racial slurs at her from the car every time i go pick up my other children. she told me that if i ever leave her she will throw herself down the stairs and tell the police that i pushed her.....what do i do?

2006-07-03 18:08:30 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

Anyone else out there whose husband isn't interested in sex? Any suggestions on what to do? I'm going nuts here!!!

2006-07-03 18:08:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

She is seeing and sleeping with some one who lives 250 miles from her. they meet once a month in between both cities.

2006-07-03 18:05:31 · 10 answers · asked by Greenguy 2

Okay here's my story. Married my university sweetheart right after graduation, we both got good jobs, we were married 8 1/2 years, no kids, we got divorced because basically we were fighting all the time, did not get along anymore, your typical irreconcilable differences type thing. We were apart for two years then met each other through a mututal friend who remained a friend to us both. Awkward at first but we reconnected through email and in person after that. We talked a bit and decided to go out as friends to try to salvage something. One thing led to another (not going to bore you) and we ended up in bed. It was amazing, the best sex I'd had since we split up. She said the same. We have seen each other a few times since then and she recently asked if I want to move back in "trial basis"...I NEED ADVICE. I think I am still in love with her. I suspect she still loves me... NOT SURE. I feel like a man walking though a mine field. We have so much baggage. Can this work or...??? Help.

2006-07-03 17:55:50 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wife suddenly change her mind n say we dont divorce but separate 1st, she keep asking me to buy things for her (just like the day we were fine) n wan to use the internet to chat with the guy she know thur msn ( because of the guy she wan to divorce). i told her i feel unfair and i feel like a fool. she give me hope n she keep doing things that i feel unfair to me. what can i do? we been marriage for 8 years with 2 kids, i really dont know what she wan cause i ask she dont reply, did i do anything wrong by stoping her? help me pls..........

2006-07-03 17:44:23 · 12 answers · asked by Andy Heckmen 2

fathers if after you and your wife had a big quarrel,she decides she wants to take your child and leave and you made it clear she cant leave with your child and she replies he's not your child.then the next day after every one has cooled off,you ask her if the child is really yours and she replies that she only said that to piss you off so you would allow her take the child and leave,what would you do?

2006-07-03 17:34:20 · 8 answers · asked by mo 1

Is anyone bothered that we have so many questions on affairs and divorce. I am not saying the divorce is wrong but what happened to our morals and vows? Does anyone take their vows seriously anymore?

2006-07-03 17:30:42 · 25 answers · asked by n9wff 6

I am not as fussed about his previous marriage as I am about not telling me sooner. I think back to conversations and feel foolish about my comments, having not known. We had been thinking about our relationship differently and now I have doubts about everything. Has trust been broken, or am I just being a baby with fantasy ideals?

2006-07-03 17:27:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

well in the past i found numbers and messages of different girls on my man's cell phone .and he told me that nothing was going on . but every since then i don't trust him the same .in some of the messages girls would be moaning and some of the messages girls would say u know who this is call me .so i comfronted my husband and he swore nothing was going on . and recently he went to arizona and i accused him of cheating because i feel like he's alwasy doing something wrong .i love my husband alot but he tells me he's a man and that he talks to girls all the time but that i never knew about it .and he says it never goes beyond that point .i told him what do u have to talk about with these other girls and he said don't worry about it .and he told me none of this would have ever started if i wasn't so nosey .he told me he wasn't going to change because he's not doing nothing bad and the next time i accused him of cheating or if i bring up the same conversation that i can pack my bags .

2006-07-03 17:16:55 · 23 answers · asked by candy 1

We haven't had sex in 4 years (I'm only 36) and there's just nothing there any more. I love him like a brother, but I want more. I've tried everything already and we almost got divorced once, but I broke down and said okay when he asked me to try again. I don't want to hurt him, but I can't live like this any more.

2006-07-03 17:07:08 · 21 answers · asked by Faerie Girl 2

My wife told me a bit after we got married that she has some $ in her mothers account which is hers and she wanted to keep it that way. I was very upset with this because she did not give me a reason why.

The money is not earning any interest as far as I know. I asked her to transfer the money into a joint account or her own account where the money can earn interest. She said she will think about it and didnt want to talk more about the topic.

Several months pass, we are purchasing a new home. I am selling my place and we are using our joint savings for the downpayment. We discussed if she will use that money now towards the downpayment and she agreed, but held off since we had enough money after all as it turned out. Ever since then, I have been asking her to get the money transfered.

Today she finally talked with her mother. So she tells me that her mother is keeping the $ for a rainy day for us and she trusts her with it. I should also trust her. What!? I feel betrayed

2006-07-03 16:58:17 · 12 answers · asked by mr curious 2

2006-07-03 16:58:01 · 11 answers · asked by miranda 2

Is that wrong?

2006-07-03 16:44:26 · 49 answers · asked by Sicko the Clown 3