We haven't had sex in 4 years (I'm only 36) and there's just nothing there any more. I love him like a brother, but I want more. I've tried everything already and we almost got divorced once, but I broke down and said okay when he asked me to try again. I don't want to hurt him, but I can't live like this any more.
2006-07-03 17:07:08 · 21 answers · asked by Faerie Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you've stated it perfectly....
Say exactly THIS... but to him.
You have to save yourself. You're doing him a favor too... although he may not be able to see it just yet.
2006-07-03 17:10:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Sit down with him, tell him how you feel, tell him that you want an open relationship and that you would feel better if the 2 of you took a break. Dont get a divorce, try new things. In the bedroom, try (if your into this) bringing someone else in the room with you and spicing it up a bit. Maybe he is just really stressed out. But out of everything, dont just give up. Tell him that you want him to change
2006-07-04 00:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by kay mamas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex in four years, that's a big problem, getting the spark back shouldn't be this hard, something went wrong between the both of u, sit down and talk about it, the sex, how u feel and the same with him, talk not argue, the love is there and soon it will spark right up, be honest to each other and the light will come down on both of your, marriage ain't easy life is good let it be great...
2006-07-04 00:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by CUERVO _ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is perfectly content with your relationship, you wont be able to tell him that you want a divorce without hurting him. Have you tried counseling? Or remind him that you once wanted a divorce and he wanted you try again. Tell him you tried again, but it is still not working!
Good luck to you.
2006-07-04 00:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy, you're now hurting two people. Him and you. What good are you serving by staying? Be blunt and to the point. Tell him you are not in love with him anymore and you don't want to continue to live a lie. Good luck.
2006-07-04 00:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by Larry M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 42, in a similar situation. We have sex but not enough. Not nearly enough and feels like she just puts up with it mostly at times. Maybe we should hook up and do it 20 times a week while staying friends with our spouses since we like them and they are basically nice people, right. I feel the same. What part of the US are you in?
2006-07-04 00:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no sex in 4 years..wow thats amazing..have you put on aton of weight...I am sure you have tried sexy lingerie...look if you almost divorced him once and things havent changed they arent going to and you will never be happy..just tell him and maybe be civil about the divorce...then if you are in NM..drop me an email, I am single and 35
2006-07-04 00:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by vincenzo445 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way ... he wont leave for some reason ive tried cheating and everything nothings seemed to work when you find out let me know
2006-07-04 00:41:58 · answer #8 · answered by honeybuzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dont do it like my ex did she got married before I could even get the papers filed....Just be honest with him and tell him what you want and need out of life....But dont be ugly about it .....Because yalll will hate each other and believe me its not the way to go......hope I helped good luck
2006-07-04 00:17:12 · answer #9 · answered by brokendestroyedheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like my ex told me..You know I'm not happy and I'm moving in two weeks...Seven months latter we was divorced and life has been better and better...Good luck and sounds like your going to have to go through with it...
Be happy and move on!!
2006-07-04 00:15:25 · answer #10 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to him when hes calm. otherwise he'll blow up. if he doesnt listen, calmly explain y u want a divorce and he might understand. hey, he might feel the same way about u!!
just in case though, u might want 2 get a lawyer beforehand.
2006-07-04 00:33:30 · answer #11 · answered by Maggieee:] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋