I am a wife of an abuser, I am on disibility. I feel trapped. thought about suiide, help?

Question

I need direction. I need to know about grants or help for people in my situation

Answer 1

Since you have disability income, you are already one step ahead of many abused wives.

Contact a womans shelter and/or hotline ASAP. They can and will help you get away, and get started on your own. Don't wait until you have everything figured out!! Just make the call and do it, get out!

Also, ask to get into counseling. You need it to learn how to stay away from abusive relationships, and how to be on your own.,
You can do it, make that call now!

Answer 2

I was married to a guy that was very abusive, both physically and verbally, but there is help and you can get out.
Contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline at
1-800-799-7233. The police don't fool around anymore with domestic violence. Many police departments even have their own domestic violence units. Though I encourage you to get out right now, should you continue to stay until you feel like you have somewhere to go, pick up the phone and call the police the next time he hits you. Get a restraining order on him so he'll be arrested if he comes near you. In many States, there attorneys that will help you with divorce proceedings for free if you can prove you have been abused. That's why you need to start building a case against this jerk now. And yes, there are places that can help you get back on your feet. Please don't stay with him out of fear, or because you think you can't make it on your own. I honestly believe if I wouldn't have finally got the courage to leave my ex-husband, I would probably be dead today. I was terrible abused by him. You so don't have to take this. He is in the wrong, not you. I really hope you'll get help. You'll be in my prayer's.

Answer 3

I'm not sure about the area you live in, I'm going to assume US somewhere. Lots of apartments have government grants or can help you get rental assistance. Also if you go to the Family Independent Agency, you may qualify for insurance and food stamps. But most importantly, you need to leave the abuser. When you go for help at the FIA, they should be able to put you in touch with a group that helps battered women and children.

Answer 4

Whatever state you are in there is help, pick yourself up, brush off the pain and start making some calls. Your local police could give you info on shelters that can protect you.. Definately do not think of taking your life. No man is worth ending your life....the only way you should take your life is if you are taking it back from the coward you are married to...Dont feel sorry for yourself, The first thing you need to do is get out of there before he really hurts you. Get into a shelter and let them help you from there....Good luck and keep in touch

Answer 5

No. They do not feel the sense like we humans do. This is because we have a central nervous system running through our vertebra (backbone) which sends messages to our brain. This means that if if our leg is hurt, we feel the pain at the top brain. On the other hand, the insects are non-vertebra and they do not have central nervous system. Thus if an ant's leg is crushed, only the leg will feel local pain. Moreover, their pain magnitude is short, since they produce large number of off springs and their life is short. They can also reproduce their lost organs. It has been observed that if you cut a cockroach's head, it will die after a month due to starving. Scientists have cut a lobster's leg and feed him, which he ate. It is also true that except for human beings no other animal is aware of its existence.

Answer 6

Calling the police is a good idea and will open up services for you. I took a domestic violence class and was taught that women need to plan to leave. Begin while your husband is not home to pack a suitcase with clothing, money, identification, and important papers i.e. birth certificates, etc. and hide it. Think about where you will go and how you will get there. Your access to the internet can work in your favor. Get the web addresses of places that can help you and send them messages. You could also schedule a doctor's appointment and ask for help there. They are obligated to help you. YOU HAVE TO BE WILLING TO LEAVE AND STAY GONE!!!
There is light at the end of the this tunnel and you don't have to see it by killing yourself or him killing you.

Answer 7

i feel bad for you honestly, what you should do is leave the man, eventhough it would be a hard sitiuation and if your on disabiltiy, maybe go to the department of rehabilitiation they might be able to help you out. but for hte abusing part if he tries to hit you agian, might i suggest you learn some defense techniques, go to the police or even just leave thats the best advice or try to go to therapy but about the suicide its a very sensative topic, in your situation suicide is not the answer, it wont get you anywhere, trust me, ive thought about it, but if i kept thinking that all the tiem i would not get anywhere, all you need to do is get away from the man, start a new life somehwere else because no woman should ever be treated this way ever espoecially by their husband. i hope all is well for you if you ever need anyone to talk to im here.

Answer 8

Forget suicide, get a permit to carry and a tape recorder. Tape the abuse either open or discreetly. If you leave the situation you need to plan, have money, destination. Let your family or friends know of the abuse (recorder). It will take time but you can do it. There is help. If you have a computer, you have a phone, call the Welfare Dept. they have the ability to help you...you are not alone, never believe that you are...reach out.

Answer 9

You're not trapped you just think you. Because if you go things will change and that's what's in your mind. I know that the best thing you want is for your husband is to change and stop being abusive but I think you know the answer that is not going to happen. You have to make a bold move to move on in life. Even if you are in disability you can keep going.

Answer 10

Try social services. Or hospitals. You have to be ready to up and leave him if the case may be. Where is your family or friends or have you found yourself kept isolated? You write online so that has to account that you are not completely cut off from the rest of humanity. Why give up your life in order to not take the proper steps to move out?

You need to get out and you don't say how disabled you are. If you have a wheelchair, you have mobility. Call the hospital to pick you up in worst case scenario and then ask for the police while there and report him. Hopefully, take pictures of the bruises or broken bones while you're at it at the hospital to use as further evidence in court to prove your case and ask for a divorce and a court order of protection. I would also move far far away, like another state. Once you reach out to the hospital and authorities, talk to them and they will provide you with the numbers of programs and contact names to speak with in order to arrange your new life. Don't give up and don't lose hope. You are worthy. If you believe in yourself, then you will no longer tolerate this person who had once proclaimed to love and respect you in sickness and in health.