THIS IS THE SECOND WEEKEND IN A ROW HE HAS BEEN GONE, OUT OF REACH. LAST WEEKEND IT WAS TO HIS PARENTS, WHOM HE HAS TURNED AGAINST ME OVER THE LAST 3 1/2 YEARS, WITH HIS LIES ABOUT "THING'S I SUPPOSEDLY DONE" TO CAUSE THE FIGHT. HE SAY'S HE LOVE'S ME, YET HIS PARENTS WOULDN'T AWNSER MY CALL'S CAUSE THEY ARE ANGRY AT ME ? HE ALWAY'S CLAIMS HE HAS SMOOTHED THING'S OVER WITH THEM, ENOUGH THAT EVERY ON EWILL SURVIVE A DINNER, THEN I DONT TALK TO THEM FOR ANOTHER SIX MONTH'S OR SO, THIS TIME THEY CLAIM NOT TO HAVE HEARD FROM HIM SINCE LAST WEEK, BUT IT WOULD NOT BE UNLIKE THEM TO BE LYING FOR HIM, OR UNLIKE HIM TO NOT BE DONING HIS OWN THING. THE BAD THING IS, HE IS IN THE COUNTRY FOR A R.&R. VISIT ONLY, HE HAS TO GO BACK TO IRAQ IN A CPLE OF WEEK'S FOR AT LEAST ANOTHER 2 MONTH'S, HE HAS FOUND ONE REASON OR ANOTHER TO FIGHT EVERY TIME HE HAS GOTTEN TO COME HOME. I LOVE HIM, I DON'T WANNA DIVORCE BUT WHAT DO I DO WITH A RELATIONSHIP THAT I CAN'T ACCESS ?
2006-07-03 18:44:51 · 8 answers · asked by SilkStorm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to file for separation (not divorce) this will give you both time to work out differences without a divorce. ~Bon
2006-07-03 18:59:50 · answer #1 · answered by Bon Bon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what he's going through. I've been to Iraq and if you have a chance to see your man you should avoid a fight to the point of giving in every chance you get. This may be the very last time you get to see him alive.
Regardless if he's a front line soldier or not (I don't know what he is ) but their is no safe place in Iraq right now. Everybody's a target and the stress is high. He might have seen many things that have disturbed him for many years.
Think abou this and if you;re lucky enough to see him again then kiss his **** and send him on his way the way a good wife should.
His parents are probably mad at you. Their son is comming home (maybe for the last time) and his "che" is all messed up with a fight from you.
Remember it takes two to fight...so don't fight. DO whatever he wants and let him go back to Iraq to brag about the wife he wants to have. Not the sorry **** biotch that keep driving him away from his home! There is nothing worse than a man afraid to come home because of the way his woman treats him.
CHeck out the following website. It might help you. It's for guys but you might just learn something from it.
http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets.com/
Get some counseling if you really want to keep your marriage
2006-07-04 02:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real spoiled brat with a bad temper. If you think he is going without sex while he isn't with you, at his age, you are naive. I would head to his commanders office and tell him what he is doing, you bet your boots he will be pulled back too earth so fast his stripes will fall off. You both have an obligation to those 3 kids and the Military does not take that lightly. Neither would a civilian Judge. I would take this Mamas Boy to court instead of making excuses for him. He DOES NOT LOVE YOU.
2006-07-04 01:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such a thing as post traumatic stress...whether or not he is a victim,... I don't know. But, from a male point of view, cut him a bit of slack. He is going back to that sh** hole in the mid-east...he may deserve a bit more understanding than you would give a local insurance agent.
2006-07-04 02:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by homerunhitter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like hubby has a fling going on his parents dont want to get mixed up he is not at there house he started the argument so he could leave oldest trick in the book of marriage
2006-07-04 01:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something happened over there. Try to talk to him next time you see him. If the problem lies at home TRY COUNCILING!! If that doesn't work. Get a job and raise them babies yourself. And don't forget to tag his butt for child support.
2006-07-04 02:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by cowboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey ,,why is it suffering like that almost 3 1/2 years u live them. if u and your husband always fighting like that.. you must back at home and just talk to your husband face to face.
you must talk to him slowly if he like you until now.. open it personally what u have inside in your mind and the feelings. maybe it would be settle down. If about thier parents dont mind them. you are a wife so must go for what your want. be strong and bravery.talk to your husband emmiadetly, dont go at your home. u have a rigths to face it. and dont go with that problem. if you have a kids they so pettied for what you did now. so back to your home and talk to your husband. Personal problem must be settle down, dont go to the problem face it. and with pray with all your heart.
2006-07-04 02:05:43 · answer #7 · answered by jhennelyn D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, if u don't have any contact # or anything else... file for separation, sue him for child support... then... hell either come around.. or pay up
2006-07-04 01:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by steveangela1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋